INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

Inga Mai
3 years ago
WOW is the only thing that comes to mind. 1% explains me feeling weirdo all my life. I have always thought something is wrong with me. I have tried very hard to be what "normal" and it has exhausted me greatly. Now I am scared that it is too late to change my life in order to live in harmony with my personality type. 99.99% of these descriptions are me. Good luck to other INFJs out there!
Lin
3 years ago
I find what really troubles me in life are the ENTJs. I am not trying to pick on them or anything, just pointing out the fact that I struggle really badly with them. In my own school, I am a majority of the time surrounded by ENTJs, who have no feelings for others and tend to be incredibly manipulative in extreme cases. I feel like they have a deep, unexplained grudge against me or something, other than their envying and in some cases racism. As an INFJ myself (never knew I had my own type) I feel enraged by the cruelty and immoral actions done against myself and other people around me and I always felt that something has to be done and intervened indirectly a few times. As for the other school mates around me, a majority of them are also extraverts surprisingly. Extraverts of many kinds. Going to a school surprisingly where almost everyone are extraverts, I feel like I can't and never will have a great 'clicking in'. A lot of people have actually criticised me (quiet harshly) for being introverted, and think that I have never seen the 'open world' and 'don't know how to find opportunities', and things like 'I have to go out there and try' when in reality all I'm doing is taking a long, long break in isolation and have seen more of the world then them which they don't realise, despite being less social in person. I feel that it is a great struggle when you're around an environment lacking empathy and rational behaviour, where cold gossiping, joy in other people's pains, and wild behaviour dominates. I guess many people in my school have seen me as a weak person even for being slightly introverted, and for being so sensitive. It's like as if It's a crime to be introverted, and being so sensitive. But I don't give a damn about what them fools think. I think it is both a blessing and a curse to be an INFJ, having the ability to see both the surface and what lies beneath people. As a child/early teenager, I was greatly manipulated but learned from my mistakes and changed hugely. I feel that having this ability to see people have allowed me to protect myself, and if possible, protect others around me when something's not right. In all honesty, I am really surprised by how accurate this profile summary is to me as a person, except for the patience bit and expecting to have favor returned =) I am happy to be who I am, and need to work on my weaknesses as no one is perfect.
Evelyn Luna
3 years ago
There is so much satisfaction in knowing that I am not just a stranger to the world around me. Growing up with an ESFP mother, I endured constant criticism and never felt good enough. I was always so sensitive, and believed it was a weakness and a character flaw. I remember crying all the time wondering why anyone would ever have to be mean to me or anyone, and constantly wrote poems and letters. I also had many bullies in school and when I went home I would be bullied from my sister and my mother. In time I learned to let it all go, but I was always quiet and still manage to see the best in people. In a strange way though, I always somehow have ESFP's in my life!
connie
3 years ago
OMG! That's what I dealt with as well. Constant & cruel criticisms and even criticisms about being sensitive and beatings! It never ended and I ran away at 17 because of it. My mom was an ESTJ and also manic and self medicating. It was horrible, but as I noted above, due to a brain issue she completely changed in the last few years of her life .. into this loving and empathic creature. It was wonderful but also totally bizarre. I could never have imagined it and it was some really strange gift I was allowed to experience. And don't feel bad about attracting them, I do too. Narcissists in particular.
Dacey
3 years ago
My mother was ESFP also! Phenomenally selfish, and very cruel in private although anyone outside of family never saw that side of her; she was extremely charming to "real" people. Still treats me as a second-class citizen and unworthy of respect, so she is 100% pushed out of my life. Her second husband (my stepfather) was a sadistic alcoholic and very physically violent, so my home experience was similar to both yours and Connie's. Like Connie, I also left home at 17, and I never went back. I have wondered a lot of late how an INFJ personality might come about, what factors contribute to making us as we are. I was the oldest child of 3 in my family, so perhaps that triggered the caretaking aspect. Since I literally lived at the whim of a violent addict, I was constantly blamed for things over which I had no control - I think that contributed a great deal to my perfectionist tendencies. I wonder whether having an overbearing Extrovert mother made me, as a female, in deliberately choosing not to be the manchaser she was, retreat into Introversion, or at least further into it. I also wonder if seeing some really horrible human behavior laid bare so early in life helped development my intuition about human behavior. I remember always trying to answer "why", and feeling profoundly unhappy if I couldn't determine why something bad was happening.
Nat
3 years ago
This is me! I am so glad that I am not alone. As a teacher, the INFJ is a gift and a curse. I usually see below the surface of students, parents, and colleagues. This can be torture when it is a bad picture that I can see. I can also feel other INFJs by their actions. I discovered that my principal is INFJ and now I can realize why we had such a strong connection. I sometimes feel weird or odd but am embracing my true self with lots of love. It is great to have others share the INFJ rare type.
connie
3 years ago
I think what I like least about being an extreme INFJ is that I read people too well. There is no reason at ALL that I should be able to "see" the things I can from interacting with people. And it makes me want to withdraw from them a lot. Because I dont want to know that your husband is abusive. Or that you are lying to me about stupid stuff. Or that you have something terribly wrong in your life. It makes me sad instead of informed. I mean, as a designer, I don't need to know those things! And yes, on the other hand I can also see authentic people clearly. People who have very altruistic motives are as loud to me as those with suspect ones. One of the weirdest things that happened to me, concerning this type of thing, was my mom (due to some type of brain issues associated with early Alzheimer's) changed her personality 100% from cruel and damaging to empathetic and loving in her last few years of life. She had no memory of being anything but kind and loving. I had no idea who that nice old lady was in my care, but I totally loved her! :-) She became my best friend. But seeing the info about our lack of tolerance for tyrannical types- haha! Totally made sense at how easy it was for me to just drop any past hurts and be happy with this new person. Still... sometimes I wish the incoming information had a better filter. Its just too much information all the time.
Anna
3 years ago
I only needed to read over this summary once, and at that point there was a realization that this fits to me perfectly. It's incredible to see and feel that one little summary can open the eyes to my own personal experiences that have been in the file cabinet of my mind for years! Thank you to whom created such an incredibly true summary.
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