INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

Rowan
4 years ago
I'm a teenager and have always found i never fit into social environments of constant banter and jokes, like in the description I take offence pretty easily; yet I still throw myself into social situations all the time. I've always felt distant somehow and have been asked on multiple occasions if I have Aspergers. I'm usually very skeptical (all the time) of this kind of personality test type thing but was actually very taken back by the accuracy of the INFJ description. Though I'm pleased to know there are other INFJ's out there and I'm not plain mad, this test has effectively confirmed my suspicions that I was somewhat different. Me bothering to type this is enough to show i'm basically tankful for finding this!
tamara
4 years ago
Thank you for being perfectly you! I am also an INFJ and have never felt like I fit in anywhere, especially the alien family that raised me. I just met someone with Aspergers, lived with her awhile, and was astounded at how I have the same reactions and strategies that she does, just not as severe. You are not plain mad, and there are others of us out there.
David
4 years ago
Very accurate
Inga Mai
4 years ago
WOW is the only thing that comes to mind. 1% explains me feeling weirdo all my life. I have always thought something is wrong with me. I have tried very hard to be what "normal" and it has exhausted me greatly. Now I am scared that it is too late to change my life in order to live in harmony with my personality type. 99.99% of these descriptions are me. Good luck to other INFJs out there!
Lin
4 years ago
I find what really troubles me in life are the ENTJs. I am not trying to pick on them or anything, just pointing out the fact that I struggle really badly with them. In my own school, I am a majority of the time surrounded by ENTJs, who have no feelings for others and tend to be incredibly manipulative in extreme cases. I feel like they have a deep, unexplained grudge against me or something, other than their envying and in some cases racism. As an INFJ myself (never knew I had my own type) I feel enraged by the cruelty and immoral actions done against myself and other people around me and I always felt that something has to be done and intervened indirectly a few times. As for the other school mates around me, a majority of them are also extraverts surprisingly. Extraverts of many kinds. Going to a school surprisingly where almost everyone are extraverts, I feel like I can't and never will have a great 'clicking in'. A lot of people have actually criticised me (quiet harshly) for being introverted, and think that I have never seen the 'open world' and 'don't know how to find opportunities', and things like 'I have to go out there and try' when in reality all I'm doing is taking a long, long break in isolation and have seen more of the world then them which they don't realise, despite being less social in person. I feel that it is a great struggle when you're around an environment lacking empathy and rational behaviour, where cold gossiping, joy in other people's pains, and wild behaviour dominates. I guess many people in my school have seen me as a weak person even for being slightly introverted, and for being so sensitive. It's like as if It's a crime to be introverted, and being so sensitive. But I don't give a damn about what them fools think. I think it is both a blessing and a curse to be an INFJ, having the ability to see both the surface and what lies beneath people. As a child/early teenager, I was greatly manipulated but learned from my mistakes and changed hugely. I feel that having this ability to see people have allowed me to protect myself, and if possible, protect others around me when something's not right. In all honesty, I am really surprised by how accurate this profile summary is to me as a person, except for the patience bit and expecting to have favor returned =) I am happy to be who I am, and need to work on my weaknesses as no one is perfect.
Evelyn Luna
4 years ago
There is so much satisfaction in knowing that I am not just a stranger to the world around me. Growing up with an ESFP mother, I endured constant criticism and never felt good enough. I was always so sensitive, and believed it was a weakness and a character flaw. I remember crying all the time wondering why anyone would ever have to be mean to me or anyone, and constantly wrote poems and letters. I also had many bullies in school and when I went home I would be bullied from my sister and my mother. In time I learned to let it all go, but I was always quiet and still manage to see the best in people. In a strange way though, I always somehow have ESFP's in my life!
connie
4 years ago
OMG! That's what I dealt with as well. Constant & cruel criticisms and even criticisms about being sensitive and beatings! It never ended and I ran away at 17 because of it. My mom was an ESTJ and also manic and self medicating. It was horrible, but as I noted above, due to a brain issue she completely changed in the last few years of her life .. into this loving and empathic creature. It was wonderful but also totally bizarre. I could never have imagined it and it was some really strange gift I was allowed to experience. And don't feel bad about attracting them, I do too. Narcissists in particular.
Dacey
4 years ago
My mother was ESFP also! Phenomenally selfish, and very cruel in private although anyone outside of family never saw that side of her; she was extremely charming to "real" people. Still treats me as a second-class citizen and unworthy of respect, so she is 100% pushed out of my life. Her second husband (my stepfather) was a sadistic alcoholic and very physically violent, so my home experience was similar to both yours and Connie's. Like Connie, I also left home at 17, and I never went back. I have wondered a lot of late how an INFJ personality might come about, what factors contribute to making us as we are. I was the oldest child of 3 in my family, so perhaps that triggered the caretaking aspect. Since I literally lived at the whim of a violent addict, I was constantly blamed for things over which I had no control - I think that contributed a great deal to my perfectionist tendencies. I wonder whether having an overbearing Extrovert mother made me, as a female, in deliberately choosing not to be the manchaser she was, retreat into Introversion, or at least further into it. I also wonder if seeing some really horrible human behavior laid bare so early in life helped development my intuition about human behavior. I remember always trying to answer "why", and feeling profoundly unhappy if I couldn't determine why something bad was happening.
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