INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

Nat
4 years ago
This is me! I am so glad that I am not alone. As a teacher, the INFJ is a gift and a curse. I usually see below the surface of students, parents, and colleagues. This can be torture when it is a bad picture that I can see. I can also feel other INFJs by their actions. I discovered that my principal is INFJ and now I can realize why we had such a strong connection. I sometimes feel weird or odd but am embracing my true self with lots of love. It is great to have others share the INFJ rare type.
connie
4 years ago
I think what I like least about being an extreme INFJ is that I read people too well. There is no reason at ALL that I should be able to "see" the things I can from interacting with people. And it makes me want to withdraw from them a lot. Because I dont want to know that your husband is abusive. Or that you are lying to me about stupid stuff. Or that you have something terribly wrong in your life. It makes me sad instead of informed. I mean, as a designer, I don't need to know those things! And yes, on the other hand I can also see authentic people clearly. People who have very altruistic motives are as loud to me as those with suspect ones. One of the weirdest things that happened to me, concerning this type of thing, was my mom (due to some type of brain issues associated with early Alzheimer's) changed her personality 100% from cruel and damaging to empathetic and loving in her last few years of life. She had no memory of being anything but kind and loving. I had no idea who that nice old lady was in my care, but I totally loved her! :-) She became my best friend. But seeing the info about our lack of tolerance for tyrannical types- haha! Totally made sense at how easy it was for me to just drop any past hurts and be happy with this new person. Still... sometimes I wish the incoming information had a better filter. Its just too much information all the time.
Anna
4 years ago
I only needed to read over this summary once, and at that point there was a realization that this fits to me perfectly. It's incredible to see and feel that one little summary can open the eyes to my own personal experiences that have been in the file cabinet of my mind for years! Thank you to whom created such an incredibly true summary.
A Man
4 years ago
I would certainly say that this profile describes me accurately. The past two years I have tried to look inward, and not so much outward. One can't change the world without first changing themselves. It only makes sense that somewhere on this existential odyssey I would find a description of my personality, and thus also find I'm not alone. Identity is relatively illusory, but it still guides us while we maintain contact with this physical reality. It took some life changing occurrences to transform my perspective about the nature of existence, but I feel as though the outcome was worth the trouble. Truly, this world needs all the help it can get, and I believe it is our duty (not just INFJ's) to be a part of this solution. Perhaps we are best suited to facilitate change on a broad scale, but I cannot claim that as an absolute truth. Politics, ideology, etc. are all trivial when we view the big picture. In my opinion, love and compassion surpasses all.
Ricaria
4 years ago
i felt like i was the only one who was like this. even though i'm one of the very few INFJ's out there in beglium/netherlands, i get it why now. our population is very rare, and even though i feel proud that i'm part of it, at the same moment, i'm scared of school, since people bully me because i'm so different. they're torbulent, extroverts, and many other traits that i personally don't like. Well, at least i feel like i'm not the only one now. see you guys later ;)
Shohna Kastler
4 years ago
Oohh, Ricaria, I am so sorry that you are bullied in school. :( You are very beautifully made and the world usually picks on what they do not understand. Keep your head up. I know that might not be helpful because it is so sad and hard. I know that God loves you so much and He wants you to have a peaceful life in the inside of your spirit. If you ever need encouragement, I would love to encourage you. I am also this personality type and have struggled A LOT growing up and still do. I am older now and I am getting wiser and more mature to be able to understand situations rightly. I hope you have a good day.
Judy
4 years ago
It is such a relief to know that there's not something wrong with me! For many years I struggled with feeling very different to others. This profile has been a huge help in understanding situations from the past and in gaining insight as to why I act and respond the way I do. It is a very good description of how I am and what I have difficulties with. This insight is majorly helpful in reassuring myself and in allowing me to be forearmed and forewarned about how I might be inadvertently impacting on others. It's also a useful descriptor to share with those in my Quality World. Ahh ... to feel understood! Thankyou!
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