INFJ Friends

There is a running theme with INFJs, and that is a yearning for authenticity and sincerity – in their activities, their romantic relationships, and their friendships. People with the INFJ personality type are unlikely to go for friendships of circumstance, like workplace social circles or chatting up their local baristas, where the only thing they really have in common is a day-to-day familiarity. Rather, INFJs seek out people who share their passions, interests and ideologies, people with whom they can explore philosophies and subjects that they believe are truly meaningful.

INFJ friends

Closed Book and Speed Reader

From the start, it can be a challenge to get to know INFJs, as they are very private, even enigmatic. INFJs don’t readily share their thoughts and feelings, not unless they are comfortable, and since those thoughts and feelings are the basis for INFJ friendships, it can take time and persistence to get to know them. Meanwhile, INFJs are very insightful and have a particular knack for seeing beyond others’ facades, interpreting intent and compatibility quickly and easily, and weeding out those who don’t share the depth of their idealism.

In friendship it is as though INFJs are searching for a soul mate, someone who shares every facet of their passions and imagination.

INFJs are often perfectionistic, looking for ultimate compatibility, and yet also look for someone with whom they can grow and improve in tandem. Needless to say, this is a tall order, and INFJs should try to remember that they are a particularly rare personality type, and even if they find someone compatible in that sense, the odds that they will also share every interest are slim. If they don’t learn to meet others halfway and recognize that the kind of self-improvement and depth they demand is simply exhausting for many types, INFJs are likely end up abandoning healthy friendships in their infancy, in search of more perfect compatibilities.

Like Finding a Needle in a Haystack

Further complicating things are INFJs’ eloquence and persuasiveness, which lead to a lot of (unwanted) attention and popularity. Their quiet, determined idealism and imaginative expression naturally draw influence, and if there’s anything INFJs avoid, it’s the accumulation of power over others – and the people who are drawn to that type of power. INFJs will find themselves more sought after than they’d ever care to be, making it even more difficult for them to find someone they truly have an affinity with. Really the only way to be counted among INFJs’ true friends is to be authentic, and to have that authenticity naturally reflect their own.

Once a common thread is found though, people with the INFJ personality type make loyal and supportive companions, encouraging growth and life-enriching experiences with warmth, excitement and care. As trust grows, INFJs will share more of what lies beneath the surface, and if those ideas and motives are mutual, it’s the sort of friendship that will transcend time and distance, lasting a lifetime. INFJs don’t require a great deal of day-to-day attention – for them, quality trumps quantity every time, and over the years they will likely end up with just a few true friendships, built on a richness of mutual understanding that forges an indelible link between them.

2 months ago
Well, just took the test today and it seems to fit me right to a tee. Has anyone else also been described as an "empath"? It seems INFJs feature prominently in that area. I've also found people whom I may not know that well completely open up and tell me really personal stuff. Anyone else had that happen also?
1 month ago
me, I'm a logician, but my best friend is an Advocate. For me, it's easier to open up to a complete stranger than to someone I know, I don't know this trait shares in what type of the person. It's always sweet to get to know your friend though, seeing everyone saying this is super accurate I begin to see my dear friend from a new perspective.
2 months ago
My good friend and I are both INFJ-T, and we always get along really well. This whole profile is spot-on!!
4 months ago
This is too real. It makes so much sense now why I have so much trouble making friends
8 months ago
The funny thing is that the Advocates that have been looking for the perfectly compatible relationship are faced with the one most popular place where people are sorted into those different categories; this site. Therefore, I doubt that it will be long before some dating site comes out using personality types to identify potential matches, and I also doubt that it will be anything less of a giant success once the dating site does come out.
8 months ago
The part about Advocates always searching for more compatible friendships and romantic relationships is definitely true, as well as the sad reality (or at least sad for Advocates such as myself) that the chances of them ever finding someone with that compatibility is very slim, and so when they throw away or ignore friendships that are good enough in hopes of finding an even better friendship, they are really just throwing out a good enough friendship, only for no one else to come along and offer a better one.
3 weeks ago
Yes! I almost want to say I’m lonely yet it’s not like that really. I just would like to have human contact that does not require constantly listening and not being heard. And all the lying and Circular stories that can’t end due to in authentic mindset . But I do love being alone out of need to recharge. But long for companionship that doesn’t annoy me!!!!
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