INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

2 days ago
Honestly, I cannot understand how my Mediator friend is so calm and nice all the time. How are Mediators just so awesome? Well, thanks for keeping the INTPs of the world from screaming at people when they’re upset.
1 week ago
Sara Walker Does anyone ever feel like they are weaker than other personality types? Like are we too emotional? Sometimes I will go into hermit mode for a good week. I don't want to go out. I just want to stay inside and chill. Also, do you ever keep all of your emotions and problems inside because you don't want to inconvenience anyone with your issues? I love helping out my friends and helping them work through their stuff but I'm pretty closed off not wanting to reveal my problems. I don't like when people touch me lol I don't like hugs. I'm just wondering if this is my personality type or just my weird quirks.
5 days ago
I do all of those things. I don't like to appear cold, but I don't really want to get too close to others. Both figuratively, and literally.
2 weeks ago
Wow! This personality type is appealing to me somehow, even though Im INTJ-T. To rephrase legend of Alexander of Macedon and Diogenes - But truly, if I were not Architect, I would be Mediator! Never met mediator in my life (to my best knowledge), but reading through this article makes me think: How precious to this world, yet how fragile this people are. I almost feel the urge to redesign society to protect you, even though its not working that way. Take care guys - you are awesome.
5 days ago
My partner in an INTJ, he likes calling me his little forest fairy :)
1 month ago
Something that bothers me about this is that it says I'm a mediator but I'm a pessimist a person who looks for the bad things in the world and I also hate getting involved with stuff that is diplomatic. I sometimes hangout with friends but I'm 85% introverted so what can I say, but still focus my energy on 7-8 different people. I love draining my energy so I can recharge and I wonder if any other introvert does that? Anyway just wanted to put that out there I'm (INFP-T) by the way
1 month ago
I feel the same way. One thing I feel this article doesn't acknowledge is that some mediators (myself, for instance) are more withdrawn than others. But I do think that even if you aren't out there acting out your role as a mediator or diplomat every day, or even at all, you can still have that idealistic view of the world and the desire to make it a better place, and that feeling, not how or if we carry it out, is what makes us mediators. On the other hand, the article does say that since we make up such a small percent of the population, we have the tendency to not put ourselves out there. Also, we're introverted, which doesn't help:)
2 months ago
Something that really struck me when reading this was not the fact that I relate to the description 100%, but when you look back on your life and remember moments of your past, no matter what the Mediator personality stayed true, I could even remember me being a quiet shy kid back in preschool
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