INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

Sphe Dladla
4 years ago
It's kind of scary how accurate this is. It mentioned everything that I am, I always look at people and think I'm not anything like them, I'm totally unique in terms of the way I think and do things. At least now I have an idea of my weaknesses and strengths.
Lexi Smith
4 years ago
The first time I read this, I was so amazed by the accuracy of it. I have been a very passionate environmentalist for the past five years. And I will continue to be for the rest of my life, because it's really my mission to help the planet as much as possible while I'm alive. I'm majoring in environmental science (a.k.a. saving the planet), for that very reason. Any other environmentalists out there in INFJ land?
4 years ago
This is a good representation of my thoughts, especially where it says we wish to solve the root problem so that it is unnecessary to rescue anyone. I have tried to explain to people before that when I say I want to help people, I am not saying I want to be something like a doctor or counselor, because that is basically treating symptoms of a larger issue, or sickness if you will. I believe all of us are subject to said sickness (best defined as spiritual perhaps), and it ultimately comes down to a choice, which I would define similarly to the one in the MLK quote. I am glad to see that other people feel similarly to me, and apparently this personality type is rife with doers. Perhaps, as with me at times, our altruism manifests itself in solitary fantasies, as opposed to action in life. I can no longer judge myself by my ideals, but rather what I do with them. I am 21, nearly 22, but I have experienced enough in my relatively brief existence that I can confidently conclude that my life means little in itself, and so who am I to not dedicate it to the welfare of others. When I read this it gives me hope that others may feel similarly, but that is not what I witness in everyday life. Regardless, I know what I must do. If you are like me, you may find yourself feeling as though you see something everyone else can't, which may be true, but I would caution not to let it turn to vanity or pride. I am blessed, for I am intelligent, strong, and healthy, but I have realized that all of that is temporary, fragile, and subject to instant termination. I feel as though I contemplate a thousand realities at once, and I cycle back and forth between a sort of state of detached consciousness and hypervigilant perception. At times it's hard for me to come back to this reality, for I can get lost in the beauty, the universal connection, and the depths of thought. I feel as though in day to day life we play a role, hold a name, and our personality is our character. The game I see sickens me at times, and I desire nothing but truth. I never feel more connected to this world than when I witness true pain, or true joy. I can be a very serious person, but I take sincere joy in that which matters. I got a bit off topic, but trust me I am not able to speak my true thoughts in many if any settings. Also, I wanted to say that I was not raised a Christian, but I would label myself as such at this point in time. Buddhism was very appealing to me, such as the Dhammapada, but I felt as though seeking enlightenment and focusing on detaching from existence is a bit self-serving. They value compassion and selfless service, but I feel as though too much emphasis is put on personal enlightenment. The Bhagavad Gita was also an interesting read, which I would recommend. My main problem with these approaches is they seem to believe a form of perfection, or godliness can be achieved by basically conquering the flesh, and the idea of self. That is well and good, but I cannot dwell in that condition indefinitely. The only way to do so would be to die, and I have too much work to do as of now. This is why I chose Christianity. I belong to no church, and I do not concern myself with denominations, but only with Christ. A man, the son of man, who gave his life for the sake of humanity. My reasons for believing in Christ and not only his example are my own, but his story is certainly inspiring. Bear the cross for humanity, despite their sin, their wrong, and show them there's a better way. I am definitely not Christ, for I am far from perfect, but I can think of no better purpose for existence than to endeavor to act as he did.
Mara Mac
4 years ago
Your words on here are very beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
4 years ago
Hey everyone, any INFJ nurses out there? I have a BA in psychology and am considering getting a second Bachelor's in nursing. I would love to hear about the positives and negatives of your experiences if you'd like to share.
4 years ago
I realized when I was around 17-18 I was an introvert, with deep sense of reflection, perception of other people, even animals, etc. Knowing that there is a type is wonderful, but I have come to love myself and appreciate my talents more than ever. I am also glad I discovered this now than later. My grandmother was a big help in my life; she saw my personality and encouraged me to move forward. She also said a lot of things which the test/type echos, such as my sense of self-reflection. I always think deeply about my actions, their consequences, and my future. I understand that every action we make has an effect on the whole spectrum of things. Nothing we do now, tomorrow, or later on in the future is any different - it still has a meaning, a consequence, a purpose. I'm a writer, and very artistic, good with music and such - so I'm always very perceptive of the world around me. I'll see birds or notice the individual shades of the sky, different smells (I love scents), even sounds most people just walk by. I love to walk during the early morning, at dawn, when the trees and sky are covered in a pale, rose light, and the air is still cool, moist, and fragrant. I connect with very few people; I can usually tell just from looking at, listening to, or observing someone whether are a) stupid b) really stupid c) stupid, loud, and ignorant or d) mean. My neighbors are in the c-d range...mainly c but they're teetering on d with all the increasing arguments! I prefer to say spiritual more than 'religious', because I like to be more spontaneous and thoughtful approaching God. I believe there are so many unique and individual ways to describe Him, and people who are very methodical or just short-sighted bother me concerning God and religion... I like to practice a form of meditation where I do not really focus on one single thought, but visualizing the taste, sounds, and aromas of a certain place, and have gotten so good at it I can really smell the brine of the sea, the sharp sap of a forest, the crisp metallic aroma of a thunderstorm. I also love to just write down my thoughts, poetry, and short stories - especially on a subject or theme. I'll also sit up during the early morning hours and watch the stars, like I did last night, noticing the shades of the clouds, the light of the moon, every individual meteor. I find strength in prayer and deep thoughts, even dreams. I guess I find strength in myself. I do hate weakness in other people, but especially callousness and lack of sensitivity. It takes time for me to recover from hurts, if at all. I've been working on my temper and forgiveness.
Lexi Smith
4 years ago
Well you are an excellent writer. I can give you that :) And there's much in what you say that I can relate to. I am a somewhat spiritual person. But I don't follow any religion. And I am also very introverted. I love writing as well, and many people have said that I'm very good at it.
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