INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

Katherine Love
4 years ago
It always makes me feel better knowing that other INFJs have had similar experiences going through life feeling that no one understands them. It can be quite isolating as you feel different from everyone, which creates self doubt, yet at the same time you deeply feel that your views on the world (society, humanity, compassion, etc.) are correct. I have definitely experienced the uncanny sense of just knowing something for as long as I can remember. As soon as I discovered what an INFJ was a felt a sense of joy and peace that I cannot really describe. However I always experience it again whenever I read others responses to being an INFJ. Oddly as I have matured I have discovered several close friends who are either INFJs or other NF types, most often they are therapists, fellow academics or social workers. Perhaps in some way we gravitate together because of our idealism and strong need to understand the world, human motivation, and ourselves. These are the most rewarding friendships of all and the ones I try and focus on when the rest of the world does not make sense and I get overwhelmed (especially when watching the news or dealing with fear, hatred, and inequality). :)
April A.
4 years ago
I find myself alone, brooding on thoughts on how I can be more "like them". I don't find any trouble in striking up a conversation, but I thought that being around people all the time just drains whatever energy is in me. I find myself thinking, "What the hell is wrong with me?". I used to love rational people, being rational myself, but I realized that being too rational defeats the purpose of being truly human, coz being a real person entails empathy towards others. All brains, no heart? Well that's one bad case. So yeah, I feel the same way like everyone else who says they're an INFJ, I feel so out of place and I just dunno where I belong.
Minh
3 years ago
being an introvert or an extrovert is in your genes. It's not something you can change in a few years.
Emily Anonymous
4 years ago
this thing that makes INFJ's so unique is that they are introverts but have very strong opinions and can have personalties but not that big, they just like to keep their thoughts to themselves, people like this also can be social around others and have fun when they want to but they would choose being introvert over the other
Lauren
4 years ago
Wow, I've never found a personality result that describes me this perfectly. The INFJ description is especially spot on with the points about having really strong opinions and appearing to be an extrovert.
Dawn McFeeters
4 years ago
Its nice to know that someone out there gets me. I have always had the need to get away by myself and 'recharge'. Even way back as a child. But everyone keeps telling me I was an extrovert. Started thinking I was a closet introvert.....but now I see that I am complex...lol....and that fools people. Anyway, I am glad to meet you all!
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