How Personality Shapes Romance and Dating: A Study

How Personality Shapes Romantic Behavior and Preferences

Romance is one of the most personal aspects of life, yet it often follows patterns that are anything but random. From who makes the first move to what people actually look for in a partner, personality has a profound influence on romantic behavior and preferences. To explore these dynamics, we created the "Romance [Everyone]" survey where we asked participants about their relationship histories, values, dating habits, and attitudes toward everything from one-night stands to long-distance love.

Over 31,000 respondents across all personality types participated, and the results reveal that personality traits shape not only how people approach romance but also what they believe romance should look like in the first place.

Some patterns are intuitive – Introverted types report fewer relationships and are slower to express interest, for example. Others are more surprising, such as which types value intellect over kindness or which ones see dating games as perfectly natural. This report breaks down the findings across five thematic areas, highlighting where personality types align, where they diverge, and what those differences suggest about the deeper forces driving our love lives.

The Strongest Patterns across Personality Types

If one trait runs through nearly every question in this survey, it’s the Energy dimension – the divide between Introverted and Extraverted personality types. Extraverts reported more relationships (both long-term and short-term), expressed romantic interest far sooner, took the initiative in asking people out at dramatically higher rates, and rated themselves as significantly better at attracting partners. This wasn’t just a slight lean – in several questions, the gap between the most proactive Extraverted types and the most reserved Introverted types exceeded 40 percentage points. Introversion doesn’t indicate a lack of romantic desire, but it clearly creates a different rhythm: slower, more deliberate, and often dependent on the other person to take the first step.

The Thinking and Feeling traits were the second most consistent source of divergence, but their influence showed up in different places. Where Energy shaped behavior – how many relationships, how quickly people act – Nature shaped values. Thinking types gravitated toward intellect as a first impression, were more comfortable with one-night stands, and were far more willing to end a failing relationship. Feeling types prioritized kindness, wanted to spend more time with their partners, and showed more resistance to casual encounters. In short, Thinking types tended to approach romance with a focus on what works, while Feeling types oriented around what feels right.

Sentinel personality types emerged as a distinct cluster throughout the survey, standing apart from other Roles in their preference for tradition, structure, and reliability. They showed the highest agreement with traditional gender roles, favored restaurants for dates, overwhelmingly chose "Reliability and trust" as the foundation for an ideal relationship, and preferred partners with similar interests. Explorer types provided a near-opposite profile – valuing fun, embracing casual encounters, and showing more openness to variety. Analyst and Diplomat types fell between these poles, each with their own emphasis: Analysts on intellectual connection and Diplomats on emotional depth.

The Judging and Prospecting traits rounded out the picture with a divide that was less about speed or emotional style and more about structure vs. spontaneity. Judging types – particularly Sentinels – showed a strong preference for traditional gender roles, chose "Reliability and trust" as the ideal foundation for a relationship at higher rates, and leaned heavily toward partners with similar interests. Prospecting types went the other direction, showing greater openness to one-night stands, more comfort with variety over similarity in a partner, and less attachment to traditional relationship structures. This pattern suggests that Judging types tend to seek stability and predictability in romance, while Prospecting types are more drawn to flexibility and novelty – a difference that can shape not only who they choose but how those relationships unfold over time.

Relationship History and Family Goals across Personality Types

Before exploring what people want in a partner, it helps to understand where they’re coming from. Our survey reveals that most respondents across all personality types report relatively few long-term or short-term relationships, though some interesting patterns emerge along the Energy and Mind trait lines. When it comes to desired family size, the Thinking trait and Introversion tend to correlate with a stronger preference for having no children at all, while Feeling and Extraverted types more often picture a household with two or more kids.

Long-Term Relationship Count

The vast majority of respondents reported having had only one to three long-term partners (relationships lasting more than three months). However, there was a notable gap between Introverted and Extraverted types. INTP personalities (Logicians) topped the list at 91%, with INTJ personalities (Architects) and ISTP personalities (Virtuosos) close behind at around 90%. On the other end, ESFJ personalities (Consuls) were the most likely to report higher numbers, with only 73% selecting the 1–3 range and nearly 14% reporting five or more long-term partners.

This pattern makes sense considering Introverted types’ more selective approach to relationships. Being socially reserved doesn’t mean they don’t want connection – it means they tend to invest deeply in fewer partnerships. Meanwhile, Extraverted types, who are more naturally drawn to social interaction and new encounters, may simply find themselves in a wider range of relationships over time. ENFJ personalities (Protagonists) stood out among Extraverts too, with about 10% reporting five or more long-term partners – well above the Introverted average.

Short-Term Relationship Count

Short-term relationships (lasting less than three months) followed similar Energy-based trends, but with one twist: the Thinking trait also played a visible role. ESTP personalities (Entrepreneurs) were the most likely to report 10 or more short-term relationships at nearly 11%, followed by ENTP personalities (Debaters) at about 10% and ENTJ personalities (Commanders) at 9%. By contrast, ISTJ personalities (Logisticians) stayed firmly in the low range, with 83% reporting just one to three short-term partners.

The higher numbers among Extraverted Thinking types may reflect their direct, action-oriented approach to dating. These personalities often feel confident engaging with potential partners and are less likely to agonize over whether to pursue a connection. Introverted Diplomat types, particularly INFPs (Mediators) and INFJs (Advocates), reported the fewest short-term relationships overall – likely because their desire for deep, meaningful bonds means they may be slower to enter relationships in the first place, even casual ones.

Desired Number of Children

Family aspirations varied significantly across personality types. While two children was a popular choice for many, it wasn’t the top response everywhere. For INTPs, INTJs, and ISTJs, "None" was actually the most commonly selected option – with INTPs leading the child-free camp at 39%. At the other end, ENFJs showed the lowest rate of choosing "None" at just 13%, and ISFJ personalities (Defenders) were notably family-oriented, with roughly 43% wanting two children.

The Feeling trait appears to be the strongest driver of these preferences. Analyst types – who share Intuitive and Thinking traits – consistently reported the highest rates of wanting no children, likely reflecting their rationality-driven approach to major life decisions. They may weigh practical concerns like career goals and personal freedom more heavily than other types. By contrast, Feeling types, especially those in the Diplomat and Sentinel Roles, tended to envision larger families – perhaps reflecting their stronger orientation toward caregiving and interpersonal bonds. Those wanting three or more children were most common among ESTJs (Executives) at about 37%, with ESFJs and ENFJs close behind.

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What Personality Types Value and Expect in Relationships

What makes a relationship feel right? The answer depends greatly on personality. Across questions about jealousy, gender roles, initial attraction, ideal relationship foundations, and time spent together, our survey revealed deep divides – particularly between Thinking and Feeling types and between Observant and Intuitive types. These differences show that personality doesn’t just shape how people act in relationships but also what they fundamentally value in a partner.

Jealousy in Romantic Partnerships

When asked if they consider themselves jealous partners, ISFP personalities (Adventurers) reported the highest agreement at 48%, followed closely by ISFJs at 47% and ESFP personalities (Entertainers) at 45%. On the other end, ENFJs were the least likely to say yes at just 35%. In general, Observant types showed higher rates of jealousy than their Intuitive counterparts across the board.

These results suggest that types more focused on concrete, real-world details – a core quality of the Observant trait – may be more sensitive to situations that spark jealousy, such as subtle shifts in a partner’s attention or behavior. The elevated rates among Introverted Feeling types like ISFPs and ISFJs likely also reflect how deeply these types invest emotionally in their relationships. When you care that much, it’s natural to feel a stronger pull of possessiveness. ENFJs’ notably low jealousy rate, on the other hand, may stem from their natural confidence in guiding and nurturing their partnerships – a quality that can serve as a buffer against insecurity.

Preferences for Traditional Gender Roles

Traditional gender roles in relationships remain popular among some personality types – and decidedly unpopular among others. ESTJs led the way with 68% agreement, and ESFJs weren’t far behind at 61%. ISTJs and ISFJs also showed strong agreement, both coming in near 58%. At the opposite end, INTPs showed the least interest at 33%, and INFPs were close behind at 35%.

The divide falls most clearly along the trait lines separating Sentinels from other Roles. Judging types – particularly those who pair that trait with the Observant trait – clustered at the top, reflecting Sentinels’ respect for tradition and structure within a partnership. Meanwhile, Prospecting personality types, especially among the Analyst and Diplomat Roles, preferred more flexible dynamics. For INTPs and INFPs, rigid expectations may feel less like stability and more like a constraint on the authentic, evolving connection they tend to seek.

First Impressions in Dating

The Thinking vs. Feeling divide was unmistakable when respondents named the first thing they notice about someone they end up dating. INTJs chose "Intellect" far more than any other option at 53%, with INTPs at 42%. Feeling types gravitated toward "Kindness" instead, led by ISFJs at 50% and INFPs at 39%. For Explorer personality types with the Thinking trait, physical appearance took a more prominent role – 31% of ESTPs said "Looks" was the first thing they noticed.

This question highlights how differently personality types filter the world around them. For Analysts, intellectual spark serves as a kind of gateway – they’re less likely to be drawn in by warmth or appearance if the mental connection isn’t there. Feeling types, on the other hand, tend to lead with their emotional radar, noticing whether a person seems kind or approachable before anything else. The Explorer pattern around looks isn’t necessarily superficial – these types tend to be highly attuned to their physical environment, so visual impressions naturally register first. What’s consistent across all types is that first impressions tend to align closely with each type’s core values.

The Foundation of an Ideal Relationship

When asked to pick one foundation for their ideal relationship, "Reliability and trust" was the clear favorite for most types. ISFJs led at 66%, followed by ISTJs at 61%. But not everyone put trust first. ENFP personalities (Campaigners) and ESFPs leaned toward "Fun and enjoyment of life" instead – with ESFPs choosing it at nearly 50%. INTJs, characteristically, chose "Intellectual parity" at the highest rate of any type at 33%.

The data paints a clear picture of how each Role approaches love. Sentinel personalities placed the greatest emphasis on reliability and trust, consistent with their broader orientation toward security and stability. Explorer types, true to their spontaneous nature, valued fun and shared enjoyment more than any other Role – reflecting a desire for relationships that feel energizing rather than routine. Analysts stood out for their focus on intellectual parity, suggesting that shared curiosity matters nearly as much as dependability to them. And Diplomats, especially INFJs and INFPs, gave "Spiritual connection" its highest marks – a sign that these types crave bonds that go beyond the practical or intellectual.

Time Spent Together as a Couple

Feeling personality types were notably more likely to agree that romantic partners should spend as much time together as possible. ISFJs led at 59%, followed by ESFJs at 56% and INFJs at 55%. At the other end, INTJs were the least enthusiastic at 38%, with INTPs close behind at 40%. The gap between the highest and lowest types spanned more than 20 percentage points.

The pattern here closely mirrors the Thinking vs. Feeling divide. Feeling types tend to view time together as a way to deepen emotional bonds – the more you share, the closer you become. Thinking types, especially Introverted Analysts like INTJs and INTPs, are more likely to prize personal space and independent pursuits. For them, spending every available moment together may feel more draining than enriching. This doesn’t mean Thinking personality types are less committed – it simply reflects a different philosophy of closeness, where love is expressed through respect for each other’s autonomy rather than through constant togetherness.

How Different Personalities Make Moves and Move On

Knowing what you want in a relationship is one thing. Acting on it is another. Whether it’s ending a stalled partnership, confessing romantic feelings, or swiping through dating apps, personality plays a major role in how people take initiative in their love lives. Our data reveals that the Thinking trait, Extraversion, and the Assertive Identity variant all tend to push people toward quicker, more decisive romantic action – while Introverted Feeling types often wait, watch, and hope the other person makes the first move.

Willingness to End a Failing Relationship

Not everyone handles a failing relationship the same way. When asked whether they’re usually the one to end things, ENTJ personalities (Commanders) led by a wide margin at 76%, followed by ESTPs at 73% and ESTJs at 71%. At the other end, INFPs were the least likely to say yes at just 48%, with ISFJs close at 49%. The gap between the most and least decisive types was nearly 30 percentage points.

The pattern here is driven primarily by the Thinking trait. Thinking types across the board were more likely to pull the plug on a relationship that isn’t working, reflecting their tendency to evaluate situations through a practical lens rather than an emotional one. For ENTJs and ESTPs, the decision may come relatively quickly once they’ve concluded that a partnership has run its course. Feeling types like ISFJs and INFPs, on the other hand, may hold on longer – not because they don’t see the problems, but because walking away from an emotional bond can feel like a personal failure. Their deep investment in the relationship’s potential makes it harder to be the one to call it quits.

Timing of Expressing Romantic Interest

Few questions in this survey showed as stark a divide as this one. When asked how long they wait before expressing romantic interest, 57% of INTPs said they wait for the other person to break the ice – the highest rate of any type. INFPs followed at 50%, and other Introverted types like INTJs and ISTPs hovered near the same level. Meanwhile, Extraverted types acted much faster: ENTJs were the most proactive, with roughly 31% saying they’d express interest within days or sooner.

The Energy trait is the clearest divider. Turbulent Introverts – part of the Constant ImprovementStrategy – may especially struggle here. Their combination of social reserve and self-doubt can make the vulnerability of confessing feelings feel especially risky. By contrast, People Masters (Extraverted, Assertive types) are built for exactly this kind of social risk-taking. They tend to act on interest fairly quickly and recover from rejection more easily. It’s worth noting, though, that waiting doesn’t mean caring less. For many Introverted types, the long wait reflects the weight they place on the moment – they want to be sure before they put their heart on the line.

Attitudes toward Online Dating

Opinions on online dating split along several trait lines at once. ISTJs were the most skeptical, with 58% calling it a waste of time, followed closely by INTJs at 58% and ESTPs at 57%. The types most open to online dating were INFPs, with only 39% dismissing it, and ENFPs at 41%. Overall, Thinking types and Sentinel personality types tended to be more negative, while Diplomat types were the most accepting.

Several forces seem to be at work here. Thinking types may view online dating as inefficient – a lot of effort with uncertain returns, which clashes with their preference for direct, effective action. Sentinel types may distrust the format itself, since it bypasses the structured, organic ways they typically prefer to meet people (work, school, or mutual friends, as other data in this survey confirms). For Diplomat types, especially INFPs, the appeal of online dating may lie in its low-pressure format. It lets them express interest through text before meeting face-to-face – a prospect that may suit their more reserved, reflective nature. The irony for ESTPs, who dislike online dating the most among Explorer types, is that their action-oriented style probably thrives in real-world encounters, making the screen feel like an unnecessary barrier.

Dating Confidence, Casual Romance, and Personality

From picking the right spot for a first date to weighing in on one-night stands, personality shapes not only what people want from romance but how confident they feel pursuing it. Our data reveals major gaps in self-assessed attractiveness, openness to casual encounters, and attitudes toward dating games – with Extraversion, the Thinking trait, and the Assertive Identity variant consistently separating the bold from the hesitant.

Preferred Date Locations

Where would you take someone on a date? The answer depends a lot on personality. Cafes were the single most popular option across many types, with INTJs especially drawn to them at 34%. Parks appealed most to Introverted Diplomats – INFPs chose them at 29%, closely followed by INFJs. Restaurants were the top pick for Extraverted Sentinels, with ESFJs and ESTJs both selecting them at around 31–32%. More active options like bowling found their strongest audience among Explorer types, particularly ESTPs at 16%.

These preferences track closely with each type’s broader social style. Introverted types gravitated toward quieter, lower-pressure settings like cafes and parks – environments where conversation can flow naturally without competing with crowds. Restaurants, meanwhile, appealed specifically to Extraverted Sentinels; their Introverted counterparts, ISTJs and ISFJs, actually preferred the low-key atmosphere of cafes. Explorer types, true to form, were more drawn to energetic, activity-based options like bowling. Cinema also attracted Introverted Prospecting types in particular, perhaps because it takes some of the pressure off constant conversation during a first meeting.

Openness to One-Night Stands

Attitudes toward one-night stands varied sharply across personality types. ESTPs and ENTPs were the most accepting, both coming in near 59%. ISFJs sat at the opposite end with just 22% agreement, and INFJs weren’t far above them at 25%. The data suggests that both the Thinking trait and Extraversion push people toward greater comfort with casual encounters, while the Feeling trait – especially paired with Introversion – is associated with much more cautious attitudes.

For Thinking types, casual romance may be easier to separate from deeper emotional investment. Their tendency to evaluate situations through practical rather than emotional frameworks may make one-night stands feel less loaded with meaning or risk. By contrast, Introverted Feeling types like ISFJs and INFJs tend to view physical intimacy as closely tied to emotional connection, making casual encounters feel at odds with their values. It’s also worth noting that Confident Individualists and People Masters – both Assertive Strategies – showed higher acceptance rates overall, likely because their emotional stability and self-assurance reduce the fear of regret or social judgment that might otherwise accompany a casual encounter.

Self-Assessed Ability to Attract Partners

Confidence in attracting potential partners divided dramatically along the Energy trait line. Among Extraverted types, ENTJs rated themselves highest, with 33% saying they’re "Very good" and another 31% saying "Okay." ESTPs and ENFJs also reported strong confidence. Introverted types painted a very different picture. INTPs were the least confident of any type, with 28% rating themselves "Really bad" and another 24% choosing "Fairly bad" – meaning more than half placed themselves in the bottom two categories. INTJs, INFPs, and ISFPs reported similar struggles.

The scale of this gap is striking. A clear majority of Extraverted types rated themselves positively ("Very good" or "Okay"), while many Introverted types placed themselves in the bottom half of the scale – particularly INTPs and INFPs. That said, Introverted types with a more social orientation, like INFJs, fared somewhat better. The Social Engagement Strategy (Extraverted, Turbulent types) also performed well, suggesting that even self-critical personalities benefit from the social exposure that Extraversion provides. For Introverted types – particularly Constant Improvers – the challenge may be less about actual attractiveness and more about self-perception. Their tendency toward self-doubt and comparison can color how they evaluate their own appeal, even when others might see them quite differently.

Views on Playing Hard to Get

Most personality types rejected the idea that tactics like playing hard to get are essential to dating, but some were notably more accepting. ESTPs led at 49%, followed by ENTJs at 48% and ENTPs at 44%. At the other end, INTPs showed the lowest agreement at 26%, and INFPs were barely higher at the same level. The pattern is clear: Extraverted Thinking types are the most likely to see strategic maneuvering as a natural part of courtship, while Introverted types – especially those with the Feeling trait – find it unnecessary or even off-putting.

This divide likely reflects fundamentally different ideas about what dating should feel like. For types like ESTPs and ENTJs, dating can carry an element of strategy and competition – a social game where confidence and timing matter. They may see playing hard to get not as manipulation but as a way to build tension and intrigue. For INFPs and INTPs, however, authenticity is paramount. These types tend to value directness and emotional honesty, and any tactic that introduces ambiguity or deception can feel like a barrier to the genuine connection they’re seeking. The irony is that the types least comfortable with dating games are often the same ones who wait the longest to express interest – a pattern that can look, from the outside, a lot like playing hard to get.

Who Makes the First Move in Romance?

From mustering the courage to ask someone out to choosing where to look for a partner, personality shapes every step of the romantic pursuit. Our data shows that Extraverted Thinking types take the most direct approach – asking people out at the highest rates and preferring to do so in person – while Introverted types lean on familiar settings and often prefer written communication. These questions also reveal which types are most open to long-distance love and whether people seek partners who share their interests or broaden their horizons.

Initiative in Asking People Out

The gap between Extraverted and Introverted personality types on this question was one of the largest in the entire survey. ENTJs reported the highest rate of taking the initiative in dating at 69%, followed by ENTPs at 62% and ESTPs at 58%. Introverted types clustered at the bottom, with ISFJs, INTPs, and INFPs all landing between 26% and 27%. That’s a difference of more than 40 percentage points between the most and least proactive types.

Extraversion clearly matters here, but the Thinking trait adds another layer. Among Extraverts, Thinking types consistently outpaced Feeling types – ENTJs and ENTPs led their Extraverted peers by a notable margin. This suggests that the combination of social confidence and a less emotion-driven approach to risk makes it easier to put yourself out there. For Introverted Feeling personalities, the vulnerability of asking someone out may feel especially daunting, since they tend to invest a great deal of emotional significance in romantic interest even before a relationship begins. Waiting may feel safer – but it can also mean missed opportunities.

Preferred Ways to Ask Someone Out

Across all personality types, asking someone out in person was the most popular choice – but the margin varied considerably. ENTJs led with 71% preferring face-to-face, while INTPs came in at just 55%. The types most drawn to text or email were ISFPs at 35% and ISFJs at 34%, suggesting that more reserved types value the buffer that written communication provides.

The preference for text-based communication among Introverted personalities likely reflects more than shyness. Writing allows them to carefully choose their words and process their emotions before hitting send – a level of control that face-to-face conversation doesn’t easily offer. For Extraverted types, particularly those with the Thinking trait, the directness of an in-person ask probably feels more natural and efficient. Phone calls, notably, were the least popular option across all types – a sign that even confident personalities seem to view calling as an awkward middle ground between texting and showing up in person.

Openness to Long-Distance Relationships

Diplomat personality types were the most open to long-distance relationships by a clear margin. ENFPs led at 71%, with ENFJs close behind at 69%. At the other end, ESTPs were the least enthusiastic at 51%, and ISTJs weren’t far ahead at 53%. The gap between the most and least willing types spanned roughly 20 percentage points.

The Intuitive trait appears to be the strongest factor here. Intuitive types – especially those who also carry the Feeling trait – tend to connect on an abstract, emotional wavelength that doesn’t strictly require physical presence. They can sustain a bond through deep conversation, shared imagination, and emotional attunement even across distance. Observant personalities, by contrast, often anchor their relationships in shared experiences and tangible, day-to-day togetherness. For ESTPs and ISTPs in particular, a relationship without regular in-person interaction may simply feel incomplete.

Where People Meet Potential Partners

Across every personality type surveyed, work or school was the most common place to meet potential partners – and for Introverts, this setting was even more dominant. INTJs reported the highest rate at 57%, with INTPs close behind at 55%. Meeting through mutual friends was the second most common path, especially for Extraverts – about 26% of ESFJs and ENFPs reported this. Online dating accounted for a more modest share overall, peaking among ISFPs at 18%.

These results help explain why many Introverted types report fewer romantic relationships overall. When your primary way of meeting partners is limited to work or school, the pool of potential connections is naturally smaller – and the stakes of pursuing someone feel higher, since you’ll likely see them every day regardless of the outcome. Extraverted personality types benefit from a wider net: their stronger social networks generate more introductions through friends, and their comfort in social settings opens additional doors. The relatively higher online dating numbers among Introverts are also noteworthy, since the format lets reserved types connect with people outside their immediate circles without requiring face-to-face spontaneity.

Similar Interests vs. Added Variety

Most personality types preferred a partner with similar interests, but the strength of that preference varied. INTJs showed the strongest lean toward similarity at 69%, followed by INTPs at 67% and INFJs at 67%. ENTPs were the only type where variety slightly edged out similar interests, at 50.5%. ESTPs and ESFPs were nearly evenly split as well, reflecting Extraverted Prospecting types’ general appetite for new experiences.

The preference for shared interests was especially strong among Introverted and Judging types. For these types, common ground likely represents both comfort and a practical foundation for spending quality time together. If your ideal evening involves the same hobby, genre, or conversation topic as your partner’s, the relationship can grow organically without much negotiation about how to spend time. Prospecting Extraverts, on the other hand, may see a partner’s different interests as an invitation to explore – a source of novelty that keeps things dynamic. Either way, personality clearly plays a major role in what people look for beyond chemistry and compatibility.

Which Personality Traits Most Strongly Predict Romantic Behavior?

This survey paints a detailed picture of how personality shapes virtually every dimension of romantic life. The clearest divide is behavioral: Extraverted and Thinking personality types act faster, end things sooner, and report more confidence in the dating arena. Introverted and Feeling types move more slowly, invest more emotionally before making a move, and tend to hold on to relationships longer – sometimes at a cost to their own well-being. Meanwhile, what people want from romance is filtered through a different set of traits entirely, with the Observant–Intuitive and Thinking–Feeling scales shaping whether someone dreams of a stable, tradition-grounded partnership or a spiritually rich, intellectually stimulating bond.

Perhaps the most striking finding is just how dramatically self-assessed dating confidence drops between Extraverted and Introverted types. More than half of INTPs placed themselves in the bottom two categories when rating their ability to attract partners, compared to roughly a third of ENTJs who rated themselves at the top. Given that Introverted types also wait the longest to express interest and rely most heavily on work or school to meet people, it’s clear that many face a compounding set of challenges in their romantic lives – not because they care less, but because their natural approach is quieter and more cautious.

The good news is that there’s no single right way to do romance. Sentinels’ love of reliability, Diplomats’ emotional depth, Analysts’ intellectual standards, and Explorers’ appetite for fun all represent genuinely different but valid visions of what a fulfilling relationship can look like. Understanding your own personality tendencies – and those of the people you’re drawn to – won’t guarantee a perfect love story. But it can help you recognize why certain patterns keep showing up and what you might want to do about them.