INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

Charley
1 year ago
This is amazingly accurate and interesting. I got so drawn into it. I found out so many new things about myself and now understand myself so much more.
Anonymous
1 year ago
INFPs are amazing!! :D I'm an ENFJ but I have friends who are INFPs. You guys are the type of people who always make me feel better no matter what mood I am in. To my eyes you are very bright and you shine real nice. Maybe lots of people don't understand you but there a few! (I sure do!) Look for them and they will appreciate your personality like it is gold. There should be more of you guys in this world, you guys rock! I feel so sorry that you guys feel misunderstood:( you are awesome!!! :D Keep being yourself, and remember the ones who matter won't mind and the ones who mind don't matter. Thanks for being part of this world! YOU SHINE MY HEART :)
1 year ago
Thank you... Made me smile :)
1 year ago
Thank you, very sweet of you.
Anonymous
1 year ago
Hah.. You really live up your ENFJ-personality :) Thank you for the kind words, you're awesome!(I think it's funny how I felt adressed when I read your text)
Anonymous
1 year ago
Thanks that's so kind I really needed that as I was having a ruff day.
1 year ago
Wow! We INFPs needed to hear that! Thank you! :)
Anonymous
1 year ago
maybe the ones that mind might know something I don't.Their voice counts.
Anonymous
1 year ago
Wow. Thanks for your comment. I am happier after reading it.
1 year ago
I was just stating the truth :) I am so glad to hear that X)
1 year ago
Sorry about that, yes everyone's voice counts of course I agree with you 110%, but what I meant was not to take it personally or not to feel bad if not everyone understands you, take their advice sure, but just don't let them change who you are. I apologize for not making myself clear before, I'm so sorry :(
Anonymous
1 year ago
This is pretty cool, I never really thought about myself in that way, but I do think it is true.
Nick
1 year ago
It's so accurate, it scares the hell outta me. It's nice to be understood and to know that other people 'like me' exist. (:
E
1 year ago
Wow I just expected this be another stupid internet quiz but this is terrifyingly accurate. I feel like nobody has every truly understood me but somehow this online test just nailed it. I'm still really confused. I was already a little shocked at how accurate this is, then it mentioned writing, and learning foreign languages which are my two hobbies... Due to those I always feel like nobody understands me because here in college nobody writes for fun, nobody learns a foreign language for fun besides me. Everyone thinks I'm a little bit crazy for it. I'm shy but I still like to be invited to do things which rarely happens anymore since people think I'm being put-offish. Oh and I love meditation so being "The mediator" is pretty perfect. I'm a lost 18 year old stuck in a country that he wants to move from, stuck in a world he wants to move from.
Charley*
1 year ago
I totally agree
Wynne
1 year ago
I agree how they've nailed the hobbies and interests. I am also a language enthusiast, and my first few finished works as a child are poems and short stories. My highschool days is the same, nobody writes for fun nor learn language because it's fun. But since I'm in an art school, this quirk is more acceptable and actually useful than just hobby. I find fun in learning everyday, I suggest if you're being stuck and you feel like you'd do better on a better environment, go find your niche and the people who understands your ways would come naturally. :) This test mostly based on research in psychology (temperaments, behavioral patterns, etc), but it's a lot better that people doubt something first before believing it at this year and age than the otherwise :).
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