INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

Leo
3 months ago
William Shakespeare? Nice!!
3 months ago
Who would have thought the famous people above to be Mediators? Also, I love the artwork and colors.
2 months ago
Me too! Green is the best color of all the colors.
3 months ago
"Listen to many people, but talk to few" - I have never seen a personality quiz that is this accurate to me. I really don't talk to people except the like 4 friends I have in my school. Instead of talking to people, I sit, daydream, and listen to what other people are talking about to learn a little more about them without... talking... to them. There are other parts of this that are exactly me but this was the one that I was like "wow, I'm not the only one." I've honestly feel like I've been becoming depressed because I feel like I'm alone at my school because I don't talk and no one talks to me. To know that there are other people who are a very similar person really helps.
1 month ago
All I would suggest is " stepping out of your comfort zone" Like joining a group. Take a position.. meet new people. Sure beats getting depressed. I know this from much experience. :)
3 months ago
Honestly, I cannot understand how my Mediator friend is so calm and nice all the time. How are Mediators just so awesome? Well, thanks for keeping the INTPs of the world from screaming at people when they’re upset.
2 months ago
Why thank you.
2 months ago
You're welcome, I guess that, in a way, we are silent superheroes. helping people, but forgetting to help ourselves. We don't like to see people upset, so we step in, making sure that everyone is happy, diffusing the situation before it gets too out of hand.
1 month ago
Spoken like a true INTP....Rare but necessary :) indeed
1 month ago
Thank you, but I honestly feel so horrible sometimes I feel like I don't deserve to be praised with mediators.
ava
1 week ago
I couldn't agree more!!
3 months ago
Sara Walker Does anyone ever feel like they are weaker than other personality types? Like are we too emotional? Sometimes I will go into hermit mode for a good week. I don't want to go out. I just want to stay inside and chill. Also, do you ever keep all of your emotions and problems inside because you don't want to inconvenience anyone with your issues? I love helping out my friends and helping them work through their stuff but I'm pretty closed off not wanting to reveal my problems. I don't like when people touch me lol I don't like hugs. I'm just wondering if this is my personality type or just my weird quirks.
3 months ago
I do all of those things. I don't like to appear cold, but I don't really want to get too close to others. Both figuratively, and literally.
Leo
3 months ago
No way!! I feel the same way too! Just know that no one is alone. Not even us
1 month ago
We can appear stand offish However we are reserved. Standing back taking it all in. I have to trust someone really well to share whats inside of me.
1 month ago
I can relate to most of what you said though I don't dislike hugs. I also have personal space issues so I think it's more a personality trait than a weird quirk.
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