In every relationship, there is a constant give-and-take when it comes to expressing love. We must be confident that our deepest feelings are both recognized and reciprocated. For love to take root and grow, this has to be a mutual exchange. This is why it’s helpful to have an understanding of both your own and your partner’s love language.
When we talk about love language, we’re referring to the distinct ways that a person communicates their love. Here at 16Personalities, we’ve identified seven Different Ways to Say “I Love You.” If you want a detailed explanation of each one, be sure to click that link.
It’s true that your preferred love language is influenced by upbringing, culture, and your unique circumstances. However, a person’s personality type can give us some clues as to how they’re likely to express their loving feelings.
In this article, we’re going to explore the love languages of Adventurers (ISFPs). These Introverted personalities tend to be easygoing and quick to connect with others, though they always seem to keep a part of themselves reserved and off-limits to the general public.
So, how are Adventurers likely to express their love? And what do they need in order to know that their feelings are mutual?
How Adventurers Show Love
While people with this personality type can be quite social and open, when it comes to revealing their deepest feelings, they are fairly guarded. Adventurers are intensely sensitive, emotional, and downright sentimental. When they decide to open up that metaphorical door to their inner depths, it’s because they feel safe, seen, and accepted.
Once this door is open, love comes flooding out in the form of time and attention and ample psychological support.
Time and Attention
When Adventurers love someone, they wholeheartedly give their time and attention to that person. Their ideal date would likely be a drawn-out affair, and if circumstances allow, it could potentially become a spontaneous all-day adventure. They are the most likely personality type to want to spend as much free time with their love interest as possible. While their partner may have to take the lead in the conversation at times, they’ll have Adventurers’ full attention.
Psychological Support
Going hand in hand with the time and attention that Adventurers dedicate to their partner is psychological support. People with this personality type genuinely appreciate a partner who is open and expressive when it comes to the inner workings of their heart and mind. Adventurers tend to be supportive partners and caring listeners. One of the ways that they build strong attachments is through the bonds of mutual vulnerability.
How Adventurers Receive Love
Do you suspect that your partner is an Adventurer? Use our free Type Guesser tool, or better yet, ask them to take our free personality test to find out.
So, how do you let Adventurers know that you love them?
Being direct when communicating love is never a bad idea, but with Adventurer personalities, you’ll really reach into the depths of their soul by being an anchor of psychological support. If you provide them with genuine recognition and appreciation for who they truly are, they’ll likely open up and fully unveil themselves within the safety of the relationship. And if you want to bring them joy, show them economic priority.
Psychological Support
Adventurers tend to be profoundly sensitive individuals who are often fairly vulnerable and reserved. They’re also generally susceptible to conflict and criticism. They often feel misunderstood and worry about how people perceive them. This is particularly true of Turbulent types.
When a loving partner offers psychological support, it reaches straight into Adventurers’ hearts. Having space to be emotionally vulnerable, even if it makes them somewhat uncomfortable, fills them with a sense of belonging and allows them to feel understood. It also affords them the safe space that they need to work through their emotions, cry if they need to, and simply let down their emotional guard.
Recognition and Appreciation
Adventurers are unique individuals who often break through the constraints of societal expectations. Their romantic partner should recognize and appreciate their unique character and particular way of doing things. But acceptance of their personality is not enough – their partners must fully embrace and treasure who they are.
On a more practical level, people with this personality type tend to be doers, going out of their way to support the people they love and making sure that everyone is having a good time. As Feeling types, they are keenly aware of how their actions impact others and appreciate having their contributions acknowledged.
It may be tempting to fall back on verbally expressing gratitude or appreciation for the Adventurer in your life, but this could have potential pitfalls. While they’ll likely appreciate the gesture, it may make them uncomfortable. Plus, they have a tendency to brush off compliments.
Instead, show them your appreciation through thoughtful actions, gentle displays of physical affection, or a privately whispered “I love you.”
Economic Priority
Adventurers are genuinely down-to-earth and, in general, not exactly motivated by money. They do appreciate being made to feel special and supported, however. Aside from the ways already mentioned, this can also be done by giving them a place of economic priority in your budget.
People with this personality type can be somewhat impulsive, but they also recognize the value of restraint. They may try to hold off on fun activities or the little splurges that they can’t quite justify spending money on. Imagine their delight when their love interest gifts them just what they’d been pining after.
Whether it be a sentimental gift for no apparent reason or picking up the tab for an adventure, financial support will help your partner know that you care about (and validate) their interests and priorities.
Conclusion
First impressions might have you think that Adventurers are feel-good free spirits without a care in the world. While that may be true to some extent, in reality, they tend to be profoundly emotional and sensitive people. They care deeply about their loved ones and put a fair amount of effort into making sure that their partner feels loved.
The different expressions of love discussed here are just a starting point when it comes to Adventurers and love languages. Because so much of how we communicate is influenced by factors beyond our personality type, the best way to determine any individual’s preference is simply to ask them.
If you are an Adventurer, what other love languages resonate with you? If you love an Adventurer, what has been your experience communicating your love to them? Let us know with a comment below.
Further Reading
- 5 Weird Personality Type Couples – And How They Can Work
- Adventures with an Adventurer – Stories from the Real World
- Use our Couple Analysis tool for insights about your relationship. (Premium resource.)