INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

5 years ago
I think one more trait of INFP is inability to forgive. At least this is how I feel. Because of strong loyalty traits and having a hard time to trust others, it is hard for them when their loyalty and trust are betrayed. Forgiveness will take years, if ever, to happen. Even then the relationship would never go back to the way it was before. This is because INFP is more emotional than logical. What do you think?
5 years ago
thats a 'toss up' trait where that will truly depend on the person individually. logic actually would decide that the person is one or the other, with little if any in-between. where emotion is easily swayable and manipulated.
5 years ago
I agree and don't agree with that. I'm INFP and I actually tend to forgive very easily, However, those things tends to be minor-medium actions versus large breaches of trust. In the case of a major trust breach, I never forget, and the relationship usually does NOT go back to being the same as before. I tell myself I forgive them, but deep down I really don't, and sometimes that comes bubbling up unexpectedly down the road.
5 years ago
It seems true to my personalities. I am good at literature but also deal well with sciences, is that weird?
Leah J
5 years ago
I'm a INFP and I tend to do well in most of the humanistic subjects (History, Religion, Language) but I also do really well in Math. I actually tend to do really well in most subjects. I thought I was weird until I read your comment.. Nice to know I'm not the only INFP that does well in the sciences as well as the literature..
5 years ago
Wow. I feel the same way as the other people. I`'ve always thought I was weird. This is cool and accurate.
Kerstan [=
5 years ago
This describes me EXACTLY ! :O I just recently found out about personality types today [ at an job interview ]. && I am absolutely AMAZED at the accuracy in this, even down to the " bad traits ", such as the self loathing. Thank you so much for this ! ^__^
5 years ago
Yep, sounds like me. I have always had issues with people misunderstanding me socially. People think I am shy because usually do not enjoy meeting new people or socializing, but in certain situations they get shocked when I suddenly change and become center of attention and mingling with strangers. I just alternate from being a complete hermit to a social butterfly. I also tend to see the good in everyone regardless of how shady they are, even though I keep those thoughts to myself.
5 years ago
I'm totally the same! It seems like I can't decide if i'm shy or charmingly outgoing... This describes me to a t! And people are always saying I always see the good in everyone, but i'm just a romantic and my ultimate goal is to love everyone, which sounds corny but is actually a much better way to live, you feel happier :D
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