INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

10 months ago
Ahh so true- but I'm kinda scared I font really have a partner or friends to pull me out of this "hermit state"- I don't wanna be stuck down here
8 months ago
Im in the exact situation : ( It sucks...
10 months ago
I am surprised. Wasn't expecting to be similar to William Shakespeare!
11 months ago
I am very impressed with the results (I'm a Mediator), because it's truly who I am, with 100% accuracy. Though, I wanted to change my personality... Until I saw that Johnny Depp, J. R. R. Tolkien, William freaking Shakespeare, and TOM FREAKING HIDDLESTON share my type. Now, I never want to change. <33 ~C. L. Y. ~
11 months ago
Ah, the good Mediator. Seems like we don't really stick up for what we believe though, what with the mediator's quietness and high sensitivity, I kinda wish I was an Executive. Just seems like they're a bit more bold for what they believe in. Of course, the grass is always greener on the other side, so don't take my words for fact. But Mediator also seems so goodhearted. What do you people think?
11 months ago
I understand your sentiment entirely, my friend. However, All us Mediators need to learn is; How to master out practical side. Which in turn will allow us to stand up for our beliefs, control our urges, and speak up more. And potentially tap into some of that fire we've got inside. ;)
11 months ago
Sure, Executives stick up for what they believe in more then us Mediators do, but then again, they are very inflexible and stubborn. And this site is really just a guide line. Who says you can't be bold for what you believe in? Take pride in being a Mediator. I believe it is a blessing to be one. You could always envy others, or be content with what you have. I don't know about you, but I'd much rather be a Mediator than an Executive. (no offense to any Executives)
1 month ago
Well stated Anonymous.!!! Balance is always a good thing. We can learn to come out of that comfort zone, ;) Not easy but we can do it.
11 months ago
This is totally me! This is suprising how accurate this is! Thank You!
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