INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

Harold Glascock
2 years ago
Thank you for your service. the test is easy and enjoyable the graphics are very attractive. I wanted to update my personality inventory because even at age 65 things I believe my sense of myself has changed even though most people believe that 'personality' is set in stone from an early age. I feel that personalities can change somewhat and are neuroplastic to a degree. I also feel that if I can understand myself more clearly I can take steps to make myself more productive by artfully choosing what I chose to do (if that makes sense).
2 years ago
I got a little watery-eyed after reading this, honestly. I've always felt just as it said I have: misunderstood, set apart, and never really knowing if that's what I did to myself or if it is simply how I am. I'd love to get to know other INFPs (slowly of course, haha). We may not be the smallest percentage, but we are few compared to many others and I think it'd help our humble group concerning our hermit withdrawals among other things. I'm glad I finally looked into this and have actual answers with proposed solutions, and hope others find this site. :)
2 years ago
I love this website
2 years ago
Not having a clear direction in life, I ended up getting my degree in Italian (after switching from art). After all that, I can't seem to find the motivation to teach, and when asked "Why not" I usually find my answer being "I can't stand the politics of it." So alas, I have a pretty useless degree and continue to work in retail.
Amy Rawlinson
2 years ago
I'm an engineering student, and as an INFP, my life is all over the place. I'm morally sound, so I work so hard toward my studies, but I dream all day long. I am too complacent to change, but I always think what if. What if I did just move to Nashville, learn to play the bass, and play for famous country stars? Sigh, better get my homework done before midnight.
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