INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

D.L. Stevens
3 years ago
This was a little scary. Also, I have a lot of work to do to be functional in the world.
A professional Fangirl
3 years ago
quite true...i find that i avoid other people (especially friends and family) because i find it overwhelming and exhausting to be social. i'd much rather prefer to lie down with a book, and a wild imagination that conjures up every fictional character i can think of :)
Merja Palomäki
3 years ago
I'm so glad I'm "Anne of Green Gables"...and I know one of us,my daughter's former boyfriend.Age gap doesn't matter,we are good friends.
3 years ago
Having extremely difficult time finding a suitable career path as an INFP. Dealing with mid-life crisis at the moment! Strangely, I enjoy places like the Universal Studios where there are many people, but I am an Introvert. I don't quite understand. Just as does Johnny Depp(an INFP) become an actor surrounded by many people?
Isaac Corpuz
3 years ago
Nice to know that we're all special in our very own ways, but that sort of spark like a firework about to shoot up in the air hit me blowing my mind! It is amazing how amazing this feels to not be misunderstood by our genuine personailities that makes us unique. I love it! I trulu, truly do. Wonderful job to the creaters for our own specifically not be that sad and enlighten us with this remarkable feedback from just a simple yet long test.
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