INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

3 years ago
I really enjoyed reading my INFP profile! I did recognize myself in most of the examples given by the author, especially the struggle to find the right career. I got a degree in Advertising mostly because I listened to other people (family, friends) when I was making my decision. I always loved writing, literature and history, but those things seemed like a joke to everyone else around. The studies weren't too bad, at times even fun and creative; the actual work, however, proved to be meaningless and stressful. I mean, it is kind of hard for an idealist to sell people some illusive things they don't need. Now I am studying Liberal Arts in Humanities, majoring in Philosophy and Anthropology and seriously loving it! Drastic change, I know, but what a breath of fresh air! I found this test purely by accident but after reading through the results, I became even more confident in my decision. Thank you for this dose of much needed inspiration and a wonderful insight into our rare, mysterious personality!
3 years ago
Tem a ver comigo mesmo... a parte do altruísmo foi perfeita. Também sou muito passional, com toda certeza. E defendo muito o que acredito, isso me torna bem idealista. Muitas pessoas julgam pessoas assim como bobas, porque elas sào práticas demais e nào entendem o que você enxerga. Somos os raros 4% e isso é motivo de orgulho. ;)
3 years ago
It's weird how I always get sooo emotional when my parents make fun of other people who are at a disadvantage in life... or the isolation sometimes when I just need to think. It all makes perfect sense now... I'm understood :)
3 years ago
I am an INFP. And I have a problem. I don't get motivated easily. I am totally disinterested in pretty much everything including looking after my body(I am obese). Please advice.
3 years ago
Look into if there is a Depression Recovery Program running near you! It tackles more than just depression, but also health and helps develop good habits :). The program was developed by Dr. Neil Nedley. I hope you can get access to it!! :)
3 years ago
I was too and the only thing that helped me was getting inspiration. Look at people who made it, look what could happen to you if you'd let obesity take completely over. And don't let yourself get down! I had the same problem, but it's all good now. Find out your BMI and set a goal and you'll get healthy and fit in no time. I wish you the best of luck. Stay strong :)
3 years ago
Any other infp feel like they somehow don't fit in? Like there's something bigger within them ? Kinda like they are different from everyone else ? Like everyone else is human and they are somehow a new species trapped in a human body ?
3 years ago
Many years ago, as I gone in the elementary school, I thought so intense that I'm in a foreign world -- that I'm an alien. Now I'm not an alien but sometimes I don't understand my surroundings, but I think that is because I don't understand myself. It takes much time. It's life.
3 years ago
I kind of feel the exact same way but now it is more like I am living in another world and I am not myself instead of feeling greater.
Emily Mosley
3 years ago
I often feel that way.
3 years ago
Yep. I actually used to believe I was an alien from another planet. And to this day I'm still baffled by ridiculous human behavior.
3 years ago
IT'S IN WORDS! Like you're watching a movie and you see what all the characters do and you're kind of just watching everyone else do their thing with the occasional "hmmm shouldn't have done that" It's hard to explain but kind of like you have a bird's eye view on life and you just feel different in the way you think and see things. Like you see the big picture and know what's important when it comes down to it. (Is this what you meant by 'something bigger within'?) I'm an INFP and I've had this feeling for such a long time. Now I finally know why.
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