INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

kay
5 years ago
Although on the outside I come off as extraverted and sociable, I've always been a secretly introverted person. I've always wondered why I was so "different" and saw meaning in life and meaning through other's actions that other people didn't. Well this explains everything.... I always thought I was weird and that I had to lower my values to the standards of today's society because that is just what is accepted today. Now I know that I am not the only person in the world that looks at things and feels things differently. It's good to not feel completely alone. It's a little sad the people like this are so rare so I might never actually meet another one, but hopefully one day I can find someone more like me.
Donna
5 years ago
I feel misunderstood, I'd rather put my feelings to words, I like my alone time, I contemplate what's wrong with the world, I 'know' how to fix the world, I feel spiritual, I see connections in everything, I love music and art, I hate criticism, I sense duplicity in people, I know when people are in pain or hurt, people can say one sentence and I can assign a small novel to what it means, at work I need to make sense of how my job helps others, I have to always find the 'right' words for letters, emails and memos, I dislike hypocrisy immensely, I cry easily, I don't show my emotions to people I don't know, I trust few but like many, I appear cool to people who don't know me well, I have high expectations of others and the closer you are the higher the expectations, I withdraw from people without warning, people 'think' I'm so outgoing, I'm called a good actor, I compartmentalize everybody, My understanding of the universe can change in a blink of an eye when given new information, I have high ideals, tyranny and greed are curses, people are abused by those in power, I see myself as a shaman at times, people tell me deep secrets without warning... I think I might be an INFJ. LOL :D
SN
5 years ago
Hi, Donna, reading about you was like meeting a twin sister or sb very close, a great feeling, really. It made my day a bit "warmer" and made me smile.Thanks for finding the right words, each of them is true for me, too.
ub
5 years ago
Hi Donna, i would like to have a chat with you. been reading up your post over and again and laughing- you are so me-too! would love to be friends with you. INFJ is really a blessing with a burden or a BLESSING with HUGE responsibilities! I completely get you 100%
Sue
5 years ago
crack me up Donna! Are you my twin sister or what?
c. tito young
5 years ago
Its funny how other people perceive me, as other comment how gregarious, fun loving all the time and all want to be my friend. But I see myself as someone totally different, with solitude, introspection, wanting to close issues and alone, and this test kind of hit it on the head. What was more interesting was my feeling on ways I deal with my surroundings. I don't think I am going to change, but during social events I'll try to interact hard to interact a bit more.
Norma
5 years ago
I just read about this today... my husband told me we see what we want to see, however I feel that at last i can understand who i am, or at least i am starting to have an idea, mainly knowing that are more people like me out there... i understand why i have always felt that something was missing... i used to feel guilty for not feeling completely happy or content about my life, my career, my job... i am in the wrong career.,. i felt i was rubbish at what i was/am doing, i was meant to be good at my job and i struggle to stay where i am which is not a bad place, quite good, but it cause me so much unhappiness and headaches and stress and health problems... I still don't know exactly what is my career or dream job, but i know that in the path i currently am is not the right one, it is good money but money is not everything and i hope to have enough strength to take an action and make this big change and be happy.
AmandaJoy
5 years ago
Just found out today that I am an INFJ. My counsellor asked me if I was comfortable taking the personality test. I did. When the result came up, he had me read them aloud to him. I had to stop half way through, I started crying. I have never felt so understood. It finally felt as though someone told me it was ok to be me. I have always been confused by my conflicted actions, and inner turmoil. It's just amazing to know there are others like me out there.
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