INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

Dawn McFeeters
5 years ago
Its nice to know that someone out there gets me. I have always had the need to get away by myself and 'recharge'. Even way back as a child. But everyone keeps telling me I was an extrovert. Started thinking I was a closet introvert.....but now I see that I am that fools people. Anyway, I am glad to meet you all!
5 years ago
Apparently I am an INFJ and pretty releaved about it. However, I am curious for one thing. After doing the math here, one can see that more than just 1-2% have an INFJ personality and I can not help but wonder. Is this our real personality or our perceived one? I mean, I guess everyone has had this feeling that he knows someone before actually knowing him (called first impression), and everyone is pretty strong about how accurate that feeling is. Considering that intuition is the strongest quality an INFJ can brag about, I am only wondering how can one be sure that he belongs in this personality category, or thinks he belongs there. I will stop here now, because I feel I am being misunderstood. Great page though, really!
chris stallings
5 years ago
i'm infj.. i'm happy to know i'm not alone in the world, as i've felt that way often.It's kinda refreshing to know. i've always been interested in helping people. I was always playing the good guy as a child the superhero.Changing the world is still in my plans.Taking it one step at a time for now. Whether it be a smile, encouraging people, or just helping some random person.The bible passage,"Treat others as you want to be treated! hopefully rings for some of you guys as well as me. I think i need to find other infj's and infps.See what we can do together.
5 years ago
As I read my results I couldn't stop saying wow! I couldn't believe how dead on this was. The most enjoyable courses I've taken were Psychology and Abnormal Psychology. I now know why I sometimes need alone time and react the way I do to people and situations. I've often wondered why the words empathy, sympathy, and compassion were not in some peoples vocabulary which would infuriate me. I would always wonder why people would do the things they do. Why they didn't have common sense. I've had people say "you're too sensitive" or "you're to critical" but I get it now. I get ME now and I am truly okay with that. : }
5 years ago
Several of you have mentioned having too many thoughts in your head and not being able to focus on one. I experience the same and what I've realized is because I constantly see how the world can be a better place I also see solution after solution that will actually make it better (or at least have a people recognize their true greatness and capabilities). The good news is I know how...the bad news is it usually means I have to convince an entire army of people to help and by that time I see another solution for something else. What I have found helps is having an "ultimate game" for who I want to be as an individual and another for what I want to accomplish before I leave the physical realm. The bigger the game, the easier it is to see how the prioritization of individual solutions, actions, relationships that I surround myself with, etc. matter. For me this game has to be one that is big enough that it keeps me focussed. The smaller the game the easier I get distracted by people, other solutions, events, etc. It has to be something I would want people to write on my tombstone (if I actually wanted one) when I die. It is why I am convinced that we truly are the Nelson Mandela's and Martin Luther King's of this age...just in our own way. We just have to accept that what the ultimate game is for ourselves is perfect and that we are the leader of that game and it's okay to stand out on the skinny branches. That standing out on the skinny branches is our destiny and who we were meant to be.
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