INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

Cathy
3 years ago
Wow. I always felt like the odd one out, too. I mean everywhere, not just my family. They're all loud opinionated extroverts and there I was, the quiet thinker and observer, only throwing my two cents in when it really mattered to me. It tended to make most of them think I was stupid, because I wasn't like them. One of my aunts was the only one to appreciate my observation ways, and nicknamed me Owl. At my grandmother's funeral she said she always knew there was way more going on in my head than was coming out of my mouth. I love to write, and have been told by a NY Times best-selling author (who is my mentor) I have a genuine gift. He prodded me into starting my own blog, and has promissed to help me publish and promote my book when I meet the criteria he's set for that to happen. I have a very social husband, kids and friends, who really don't understand my need at times for decompression after social situations. I've tried to explain it to them, but they think I'm just amusing myself with video games instead of getting something else done. Thank you for affirming that downtime need! Now I just need to find a way to communicate it better to them . . . .
Anonymous
3 years ago
Wow... That must be difficult
MalPaltheEpicOne
3 years ago
Oh my gosh, I feel the exact way with my family. I say what I feel only when I have a strong opinion on it. I also think it's so cool that I have the personality type as Nelson Mandela and MLK Jr. I didn't realize that this personality type is so rare.
Muna
3 years ago
Wooooow...,This article just described me so deep and can say close enough ,never knew that i could be understood ..impressed.Its interesting to read me
Eleanor
3 years ago
Wow, this is spot-on. This article understands me better than 90% of the people I know.
Calysta Rivoire
3 years ago
Well, Me to a T, literally. Kind of scary actually. Kind of awesome that it says a good career for me in Creative writing and that's exactly what i'm striving towards being :3
Hannah Cummings
3 years ago
After reading everything written on here about INFJ personalities, I was sort of scared, but very impressed, at the accuracy of it all. Like most of the other comments on here, I always felt like I could never fully relate to my peers. I'm in high school and after finishing freshman year, I was astonished at how people my age could be so insensitive and have absolutely no empathy or understanding for anyone. I am an extremely sensitive person who thinks about the meaning of things way too often. I'm very lucky to have a few very close friends that share the same beliefs as I do, however, I have never really met anyone who thinks like me. (Which now makes since because there are very few of us) Reading this was very helpful in understanding everything I have been thinking about my personality type in the past few months (especially after starting high school and realizing I didn't really fit in anywhere.)
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