INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

7 months ago
Alright, this might be quite long. I've always felt that I had a strong sense of morality, but part of me in the past was convinced that it was only due to a very small town/religious upbringing. At least, my parents made it seem like that was the reason....until my moral compass started to point towards non-conservative ideals as I got older. I came out as bisexual last fall in the spur of the moment as I sat at the table and listened to them speak poorly of the LGBT community, saying that they all likely had mental illnesses, dealt with abuse from the opposite sex, or other circumstances that "confused" them. Meanwhile, their own daughter raised without any sort of abuse or psychological ailments in a typical "loving Christian home" began to feel like an abomination. I couldn't listen to any more narrow thinking, which led to me making the mistake of tossing my heart on the table to stand up for my personal convictions about love: I felt that regardless of looks, sex, race, status, etc...I could fall in love with anyone, and that if I was in love with them, then I would most definitely marry them. They were baffled, and my mother said "so, you'd have sex with a woman?" I replied that I would if I loved her, because I would undoubtedly be attracted to and want to make the person I love happy. I thought she was about to faint with the expression of shock she had, but to me, this didn't seem so crazy? Is it really so hard to understand that I would love someone for their soul? Of course, they only see lust and perversion in anything non-heterosexual, and didn't understand or maybe just didn't want to understand that it could be something pure. I'm nineteen and have only been in relationships with males, so it was easy for them to invalidate my earnest thoughts as some rebellious college phase without knowing how difficult it was to cough up what I've repressed for at least three years now. I don't consider myself religious, and am still on my path to understanding the world and being content in it. Personally, I don't think it makes sense to believe wholeheartedly in anything when humans know so little. Anyway, I've felt lonely within my family and in my whole hometown beforehand too, but the clear disapproval really made me emotionally disconnect. I don't think they'll ever "get" it, and assume I've been liberal brainwashed by attending college and actually having room in my life to be happy there. This test helped me understand just why I had such a lack of kinship for the majority of people I grew up with. My expectations were too high for them, and I've been much to hard on myself in attempt to fit the desired mold. Right now I have a few friends I can really vent to about my deeper thoughts that understand, or at least try to, I'm actively pursuing a bachelor in Animation while working to pay off college on my own, and I'm in a relationship with a wonderful Chinese-American man (another shocker for my primarily white hometown). Moving away has done wonders for my self esteem as well, but I can't help feel that advocate loneliness whenever I think of being around family. However, I will not become passive or hide my opinions if questioned. Has anyone else faced conflict like this? If so, what is your struggle or your advice for keeping peace without abandoning your own moral code/ideals?
8 months ago
It's really good to know why I have always been different to others and why I can find it so much more comfortable to live in my own mind I love to be around people but love to have my own space too yes I'm the one that will happly out with a few friends but want to be home reading a book at the same time infj-t
9 months ago
INFJ-A. No wonder it's so hard to find people who get me. Most people think I am way into my head, too unconventional, and think too deeply about things but I can't help it. Sometimes, I do scare people off with my values, passions, and visions; these days, it is hard for me to express my ideas to people because they seem like they just don't understand.
9 months ago
Can you add more variation to the "Advocates You May Know" section? I want to know another famous person with this type of personality. I want to know how they face up their life. It's actually a little bit complicated for me having this kind of personality, so I want to know more references about the other person who is having this kind of personality, how they face up their life and have their success. I actually have surf the internet, but the person that listed to this personality sometimes doesn't match with this web. For example Martin as ENFJ, Alanis as INFP, etc. But, I'm doing my test here, right? And I think this site is more accurate than the others. So, hopefully you consider my suggestion. Thx!
9 months ago
Very simple, yet surprisingly accurate. INFJ-T
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