INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

2 years ago
I can't believe how accurate this is! Wow! Now, I have a lot of thinking to do. lol! :)
2 years ago
Describes me perfectly!
2 years ago
The most lovely girl I know got this type. No wonder I like her so much she's rare something I may never find again.
2 years ago
As INFJ its also hard for us to see our self worth seeing others having more potential or achievement in general and we go out of our way to show that to others
2 years ago
I found this website a little over a year ago, and decided to answer the 80 or so questions to see how close I matched up with my type description. When I was finished it said I was an INFJ and was directed to this page to read up on my type. It was unbelievable how accurately the description fit me and it helped me out so much. At the time I had a "best friend" that would make me feel silly or dumb for feeling the way I did. They would tell me I was wrong for feeling certain ways or seeing things differently than they did and that nothing I said made sense to them; that I shouldn't take things so "seriously" or be "so sensitive". They saw everything in a miserable way and thought that no one cared about anything and that you could not trust anyone and criticized me when I would try to stay positive. After I realized I was an INFJ and read about this type and saw that I was a true INFJ, I no longer felt embarrassed to be myself and was able to feel free. Not understanding yourself is a very difficult thing to cope with. It used to really bother me and confuse me when I would suddenly go from being very cheery to completely drained in a matter of moments. I always thought I was just stupid, because when people around me noticed when this would happen, they acted like I didn't belong and that I was a freak. It also bothered me that when I knew someone was not genuine, no one else seemed to notice. After reading all of these comments it makes me feel more confident in being myself and not feel silly about it either. A lot of tears were shed before finding this website, and I believe it is quite obvious that the "best friend" I mentioned earlier is no longer around in my life to say rude things to me anymore. Don't ever keep someone like that in your life, all they will do is just bring you down and make you devalue yourself even more while making you think that you wouldn't be able to function without them in your life. Never let anyone tell you that being "too sensitive" or "too nice" is a bad thing! You are not alone, we all (though we make up less than 1 percent) are in this together. I have a question regarding our type; Does anyone feel that their first impressions of people are always on point? I have met people before, that come off as rude at first, but decide to give them a chance to prove my intuition wrong, and sometimes they do for a while, but in the end, your first impression/gut feeling was always right. Could just be me in those certain situations, but I think I am not the only one that has experienced this, can't wait to see what another INFJ's has to say about it! I hope everyone reading this has a wonderful day whatever day it is that you just happened to stumble up on this comment!
2 years ago
I have a "not so nice" person in my life. Unfortunately she is my sister and although I limit my contact with her sometimes it's unavoidable. She is a tyrant and I react by staying calm and being positive. I don't butt heads with her but say thanks for your opinion etc (this annoys the heck out of her and she stops) probably because she is not getting the reaction she wants. Also I changed jobs last year and was drawn to a group of ladies. Two in particular. Turns out they are also INFJ's! We don't go to the staff room but use lunch time as down time. Yes my first impressions are usually right. We are all teachers' aides!
2 years ago
I'm sorry that you and your sister don't get along. It must be difficult to have such personalities that clash. I am fortunate to have a brother that is an ENFJ, we are extremely close, but he got married last year and it broke my heart. I still see him often, but it isn't the same not being around him as much. That is amazing that you work with two INFJ's! I bet that is a very strong friendship! And thank you for commenting on the first impression question, I think that is amazing that the INFJ's intuition is that strong! And that is very neat that you are all teachers' aides! My Mom is a teacher's aid and she is an ISFJ, which I have found is similar to our type.
2 years ago
I'm very protective of my family but sometimes they try to take advantage of kindness. taking my kindness as my weakness. I have a older sister who is so mean and manipulative but when she has a problem and I'm the first one to go to but after getting the help she will go back to her old way of being mean. I had to limit the amount of time that I spend with her. I am really glad that I took this test because I used to be so hard on myself. Mostly after I was being told by my family that I'm Was too sensitive, I think too much and I am always by myself. I used to pray to God to reduce my sensitivity because I thought something was wrong with me but I'm glad that I took this test came across this site and reading every body's comment. This really helped me understand Who I am and help me trust my instincts.
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