INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

Takia M.
1 year ago
This is so me, I've always wanted to do something creative as a career, but it seems like the possibilities are endless. And it's hard to make it down to just one thing, without feeling like I'm leaving something else out! Also explains why I like to think too myself, rather than talk to others
The Quote Person
1 year ago
I found the perfect quote for this page. Check this out! "We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop." -Mother Teresa
1 year ago
"No one can escape time; it guides us all to an equal end, in which we all decide how fast we get there". When I share this quote with others I get a freakish reaction. Somehow I know everyone who is an INFJ understands it.
5 months ago
I can understand when you say "Somehow I know everyone who is an INFJ understands it". When I first read this, I got a feeling of complete serenity. However, my favourite quote is this "Patience is the key to achieve your goals". I feel like i have a complete identification with this quote and every time I say it loud or think it, it's like my entire existence is confirmed!
1 year ago
I have taken this test many times with the same result - INFJ. I have been suppressing many of these qualities in my adulthood. I am inspired to get back to my roots, but of course nervous to rock the boat of those around me...
1 year ago
I always feel like the third wheel, and it sucks. Two friends are over and I can tell that both of them like each other more than they like me, they are "married" and I just feel so unloved. I'm so different from them and I hate it. I just wish that i had an INFJ friend. Will someone like help me?
1 year ago
Most personality types are able to just laugh and tell stories and engage with one another on a purely fun level. INFJ has the ability to interact almost immediately on a deeper level, discussing ethical or spiritual issues, and with an intensity that is rare. It's not bad of the INF J, but it just means that if they are going to make friends with others then they will need to adapt to those people's communication styles and ease into the more intense levels of interaction. That's my opinion from my own experience as an INFJ.
1 year ago
I understand, my three good friends and I will all get together maybe once a year, (I usually see them, but they don't see each other) and I usually feel like the odd man out. Funny thing is they wouldn't even know each other if I didn't introduce them.
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