Introverted Intuitive Feeling Judging

INFJ Personality


Advocates are quiet visionaries, often serving as inspiring and tireless idealists.

A scene representing the INFJ personality type (Advocate). A bearded INFJ man stands in a forest clearing, waving a magic wand that emits sparkles towards a happily waving tree with a face. The INFJ has a wise, thoughtful expression on his face, and he appears to be speaking to the tree. More trees, flowers, and geometric stones are scattered throughout the scene, adding a mystical and imaginative quality. The overall aesthetic is whimsical and dreamy, reflecting the INFJ’s visionary and idealistic nature.
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The most I can do for my friend is simply be his friend.

Henry David Thoreau

People with the INFJ personality type (Advocates) rarely settle for shallow, superficial friendships. When it comes to social fulfillment, they aren’t satisfied by casual interactions with colleagues or classmates. INFJ personalities crave authentic, meaningful friendships – friendships that allow them to share their dreams, bare their soul, and feel understood and accepted for who they are. And if that means having just one or two confidants rather than a wide circle of acquaintances, so be it.

While INFJs may seem quiet or reserved to the world at large, these personalities absolutely light up around their close friends. Few things bring them more pleasure or delight than talking through their passions, interests, and beliefs with a kindred spirit. People with this personality type enjoy the pleasure of their own company, but they still find it liberating to let their guard down and be completely and utterly themselves with a friend who they know they can trust.

INFJ (Advocate) friends

Searching for a Heart of Gold

INFJs are known for having great expectations – not just for themselves but also for their friendships. High on this list of expectations is authenticity. If they have to be fake or tone themselves down to gain someone’s approval, then that person probably isn’t the best friend for them. And it’s hard for people with this personality type to respect someone who isn’t also an authentic and honest person themselves.

Another expectation that INFJs bring to their friendships is mutual support and growth. Having fun together is wonderful, but for these personalities, it isn’t quite enough. They want to surround themselves with friends who inspire them to learn, expand, and improve themselves. For INFJs, the surest way for two friends to deepen their bond is by helping each other move forward on their respective life missions.

In friendship, INFJs aren’t just searching for someone to spend time with. They want to find a soulmate – someone who resonates with their passions and their convictions.

This can be a tall order for many personalities. INFJs often feel that it’s difficult to meet the sort of friends that they’re seeking – friends who share the same idealistic values. As a result, people with this personality type may sometimes worry that they need to settle for less-than-fulfilling friendships – or else accept being alone.

Loyalty and Authenticity

Fortunately, they are more than capable of finding the types of friends that they long to meet – they might just have to devote additional energy to it. And when people with the INFJ personality type do encounter like-minded individuals, the bonds that form are profoundly deep and meaningful, making the search worthwhile.

INFJs should keep in mind that sometimes the friends they seek might be hiding in plain sight, among acquaintances whom they simply don’t know all that well. This personality type is known for having astute first impressions of other people, but even they can miss the deeper potentials of the people they encounter on a daily basis. When they give these strangers a chance, INFJ personalities may find that they share values and attitudes that make them compatible on a deeper level.

Once they do find genuine friendships, INFJs make loyal, caring companions. At times they may even be surprised by the fierceness of the loyalty and devotion that they feel toward their friends.

Ultimately, the only way to be counted among INFJs’ true friends is to be authentic, honest, and real. Over the years, these personalities may end up with just a few true friendships rather than a wide circle of casual acquaintances. But for those lucky few, there is almost no limit to what INFJs would sacrifice for the people they hold near to their hearts.