Is It Possible to Change Your Personality Type?

Every personality type has its strengths and weaknesses – there is no ideal type just like there are no ideal humans walking on this planet. That being said, it is almost inevitable that at some point in life you will say “I wish I had a different personality”. You may want to become more outgoing, more in tune with your senses, more organized, more resistant to criticism etc. Not surprisingly, one of the most frequent questions people interested in personal development ask is “Can I change my personality type?”

Unfortunately, the answer is not that simple. According to most personality type theories, the individual’s type is inborn and does not change. However, individuals can develop traits and habits that differ or even directly contradict the description of their type. How does that happen?

Let’s use an example. Imagine that lights in your flat suddenly go off and you are in complete darkness. You may be able to navigate your way to the door, but what senses are you going to use? Touch? Hearing? Smell? It would be anything but vision, your preferred sense. However, as soon as the lights come back on, you will switch back to using vision again as it makes it much easier to navigate around the flat.

The way your personality works is very similar. The environment you are in shapes your personality in a certain way, forcing you to develop traits and habits that might be foreign to your type. For instance, if you are naturally casual and spontaneous (Prospecting), but your work schedule is very structured and your manager is obsessive about schedules, your preferences are likely to change. However, you will probably switch back to being a Prospecting individual as soon as you leave that job. The same rule applies to other traits as well.

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We should probably mention one more thing. Sociability is often confused with Extraversion, just like shyness is confused with Introversion – this is one of the most common mistakes when it comes to discussing personality types. While Extraverted individuals naturally find it easier to talk to other people (they gain energy when they do this), there are many shy or solitary people among them. Conversely, Introverted types lose energy when they communicate with others, but you would be able to find many eloquent individuals in that group.

In fact, certain Introverted types (e.g. Advocate or Mediator) are often more sociable than most Extraverted types. In Western societies, Extraverted individuals outnumber Introverted ones by a large margin and consequently most people believe that everyone should strive to be outgoing, confident, have a large circle of friends etc. This is a misguided belief as every personality type is unique and has different strengths – yet this is often the reason behind the “Can I change my personality type?” question.

To conclude, your basic personality type cannot change – however, you can (and should!) change the aspects of your personality that you are unhappy with. By doing this you will strengthen your shadow traits and become a more well-rounded individual, even though your dominant traits will still remain the same. Such a change could be triggered by either the environment you are in or your own will – to each his own.

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i am a very shy person , extremely introverted ! Talking to people is like an impossible mission to me, i get stressed a lot ! My voice sinks through the conversation and become bearly hearable because i can't find the right words ! I become uncomfortable making the other person feel the same as well ! I am far from being spontanuous ! And i am NOT happy being like this ! It's like my personality is imposed on me and i have nthg to do about it ! I wish there was a switch off button or a magical way to change my personality ! All the methods i tried worked for a really short period of time and i always end up going back to the same behaviour ! :( wht to do?
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Hi Kunal. Up until a few years ago I would have described myself exactly as you did above. Today I am still very much an introvert, in that I'm most comfortable and energised by spending time alone or one to one. But I'm also much better in groups and now find it easy to raise my voice and be heard when needed. I think it takes sustained effort to change, but it's worth the effort. The things that helped me: I joined a local Toastmasters group. I went along with a friend just to observe at first, but ended up answering a question in the table topics section. I must have spoke for less than a minute, I was bright red and my voice sank and trailed off after the first couple of sentences. But, even though it was very embarrassing and difficult, the group was so amazingly supportive and encouraging. And so many people had stories of starting out just the same way, that I was encouraged to keep going back and it has really paid off. You may always be more or less of an Introvert, but there's nothing wrong with that. Being shy you can overcome. Best of luck!
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I am an introverted person (INTJ) and definitely I am not shy. I just don't want to be around people I don't care about. Of course I have my days that I wish I were more outgoing and have more friends but at the end that's not who I am and I wouldn't be happy like that. You say that you are not happy with your personality; so maybe you are not an introverted person. You may be extroverted and also shy. Believe me, shyness is not a problem you can't get over. It may take time but is changeable.
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I like the part about "We should probably mention one more thing. Sociability is often confused with Extraversion, just like shyness is confused with Introversion – this is one of the most common mistakes when it comes to discussing personality types." My type is INFJ, but many would argue that I'm extravert because I am sometimes loud and spontaneous in public. But this article shows that that is not always the case, I become exhausted by being more social. So yea, I completely agree that many people see these things as a mistake.
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I found this particularly interesting as well. It rings true.
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i am a very shy person , extremely introverted ! Talking to people is like an impossible mission to me, i get stressed a lot ! My voice sinks through the conversation and become bearly hearable because i can't find the right words ! I become uncomfortable making the other person feel the same as well ! I am far from being spontanuous ! And i am NOT happy being like this ! It's like my personality is imposed on me and i have nthg to do about it ! I wish there was a switch off button or a magical way to change my personality ! All the methods i tried worked for a really short period of time and i always end up going back to the same behaviour ! :( wht to do?
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Like the text said, you may always be introverted, but you're NOT cursed to be shy forever as you said. I am an INFJ, and I had struggled a lot with shyness as well, specially in my teen years; but I overcame this. I AM still very introverted, I feel drained very fast in parties for instance, but this doesn't mean I'm shy; I can talk easily to anyone nowadays. So, don't feel like you're trapped, if your case is so bad go look up for a psycologist (may be spelled wrong hehe, foreigner) and work on this.
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I am an INFP. I really disliked getting those accurate results. To me, being sweet and intuitive are not interesting characteristics. I don't want to solve other peoples problems. I want to solve my own. And honestly, With my Turbulent side, it is difficult. I'd rather be an ISTJ like my husband. He uses facts (maybe to a fault). I have so much trouble thinking factually. I just don't want to FEEL bad. And I do. Because I am a perfectionist, and I keep failing at everything...
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Well, I am an ENFJ, and it says that I can start trying to solve people's problems and become so consumed in their problem that I start seeing the problem in me even if it's not there, I think the ENFJ personality type could possibly be uncommon BECAUSE they could be getting wrapped up in other people's problems and trying to change, so they end up changing themselves, or maybe even breaking themselves and falling into deppression. For example, sort of from my own experience, an ENFJ has a close friend with very low self esteem, and the ENFJ tries to help but the friend is quite stubborn, and won't be rational, and the ENFJ maybe eaither breaks because of it or becomes depressed or looses self esteem because of it all or creates the problem but seeing it even when it's not there. But I don't know. It seems to make sense to me, but that's just me. I'm no scientist or anything, just throwing my opinion out there! Thank you for the opportunity too!