INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

5 years ago
Sorry Steven, went off on a tangent! Being sensitive was part of the over thinking - so, what I meant was, since when can you over think it? So, the same applies, if someone else can't think it as deeply or analytically as you, because you have no difficulty seeing the true motive and action (and no doubt later consequence in some form or other), then who is the fool? Well, certainly not you. So, know that if you can do something that someone else can't, who on earth are they to criticise you for being 'too .....' anything. That just means they cannot see / perceive what you are. That applies then to every trait you have. I can't abide 'anything for an easy life' philosophy. I find it lazy and selfish and it drives me mad. I want to see the truth and make decisions that are right - not the easiest and if someone else doesn't like that, then foolish them, you'll be their boss!! Look at them with compassionate pity and walk on ;-)
5 years ago
Hi Steven Jones (and Burcu) Isn't it insulting when someone (a counsellor did this to me) and an ex boss, 'oh you are very sensitive then' - like it was a fundamental flaw and your sensitivity meant you were making it all up. I actually came to the conclusion eventually that everyone else who couldn't see and perceive what I was seeing was simply an idiot. That being sensitive is not a crime but a skill they did not have so for goodness sake, don't assume someone else is always right or better than you. Put them back in their place in your mind and Zachary, are you sure? Compassion, empathy, idealism? Being emotional is NOT a weakness - it is all about balance. Allowing intellectual curiosity and open mindedness which we are supposed to be good at is what is needed, mix that with no fear of emotions (most people are terrified of them) and being goal oriented and making dreams come true and you could rule the flaming world (if your heart so desired it :-) ) As you can see, being perceptive, sensitive and emotional does not mean there is a wopping gap in our brains that means we are incapable of high levels of intelligence and problem solving - far from it so don't fall into the trap that the corporate and reasoned world has forced upon us to make you believe that the two cannot go together because some of you sound like you are. I have struggled for years with this and finally, at 49, I am believing in myself. Not being a square box obedient work horse might not make you the best employee but it definitely will make you the most incredibly creative person, a successful intrepreneur and very capable of being a success as being your own boss. Best of .................. Tricia
5 years ago
There's literally only 1 thing that isn't quite right... I was told by by a psychologist that i was a very good logical thinker (I did a test for dyslexia at university) But I didn't think he was right especially since a lot of people have commented saying I can be quite abstract when talking about things....its almost like I expect people to be able to understand everything I'm thinking or feeling when that is not going to happen.... But everything is pretty much spot on!
5 years ago
Frankie, the two can and do work together. At 12 I was laughed at for the whole school year because I used the word abstract in an English class discussion. I was bemused as to why that was a problem. After many years I have learnt that if you can hold thoughts and ideas in abstract without them having to be concrete and fixed, you are unusual. I am also INFJ and so your thoughts and ideas are also easily translated into action and doing if you have that kind of balance. The INFP seems to suggest these are the tendencies but of course it will also depend on your percentages. Although I appear abstract and 'dreamy', I am an action packed doer who is extremely analytical and will ultimately insist on extreme clarity. Remember, INFP/INFJ can see and perceive people's motive and behaviour which will make others think you are practically clairvoyant and/or arrogant and odd. They will be rude, even friends, in dismissing you because they are limited by their own understanding of themselves. In other words, your combination of abilities allows you to see clearly, thus I would think enabling you to think logically as there is little 'noise' in your thinking - if not now, it will come. Just remember not to be absolute and be happy to think abstract when being analytical :-) That could make you an Einstein!!
5 years ago
I must confess, i am totally glad that i have come to understand the sort of being i am, and am so proud of it. I am pleased equally to know that there just others like me. Greetings to all INFPs.
Gemma Suen
5 years ago
Glad to know I'm not alone, I thought I had some real problems not so long ago when I felt lonely and also wanted to avoid the world.
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