INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

Callista Fox
5 years ago
I'm an INFP and have finally, at the age of 43, found a career that's perfect for me. Like Merita, I write fiction. I get to sit in my house and build worlds and create scenes and people. In my newest story my main character is most likely an INFP. She is tender hearted and has this deep, subterranean personality that often gets her into trouble. "None of it was awful. They weren’t starving. They weren’t homeless. But enough days repeat themselves and you can’t imagine any one day in the future being any different than the day before. This is how people fail, she thought. A little bit at a time." Suite Dubai. You all might give it a try...writing I mean.
Merita King
5 years ago
This is totally me, very accurate. I'm a science fiction author, very creative and spend most of my time in my own alternate imaginary reality.
5 years ago
Thumbs up! All what was Witten was True and correct. What a Feeling to have a clear understanding of oneself.
5 years ago
Sorry Steven, went off on a tangent! Being sensitive was part of the over thinking - so, what I meant was, since when can you over think it? So, the same applies, if someone else can't think it as deeply or analytically as you, because you have no difficulty seeing the true motive and action (and no doubt later consequence in some form or other), then who is the fool? Well, certainly not you. So, know that if you can do something that someone else can't, who on earth are they to criticise you for being 'too .....' anything. That just means they cannot see / perceive what you are. That applies then to every trait you have. I can't abide 'anything for an easy life' philosophy. I find it lazy and selfish and it drives me mad. I want to see the truth and make decisions that are right - not the easiest and if someone else doesn't like that, then foolish them, you'll be their boss!! Look at them with compassionate pity and walk on ;-)
5 years ago
Hi Steven Jones (and Burcu) Isn't it insulting when someone (a counsellor did this to me) and an ex boss, 'oh you are very sensitive then' - like it was a fundamental flaw and your sensitivity meant you were making it all up. I actually came to the conclusion eventually that everyone else who couldn't see and perceive what I was seeing was simply an idiot. That being sensitive is not a crime but a skill they did not have so for goodness sake, don't assume someone else is always right or better than you. Put them back in their place in your mind and Zachary, are you sure? Compassion, empathy, idealism? Being emotional is NOT a weakness - it is all about balance. Allowing intellectual curiosity and open mindedness which we are supposed to be good at is what is needed, mix that with no fear of emotions (most people are terrified of them) and being goal oriented and making dreams come true and you could rule the flaming world (if your heart so desired it :-) ) As you can see, being perceptive, sensitive and emotional does not mean there is a wopping gap in our brains that means we are incapable of high levels of intelligence and problem solving - far from it so don't fall into the trap that the corporate and reasoned world has forced upon us to make you believe that the two cannot go together because some of you sound like you are. I have struggled for years with this and finally, at 49, I am believing in myself. Not being a square box obedient work horse might not make you the best employee but it definitely will make you the most incredibly creative person, a successful intrepreneur and very capable of being a success as being your own boss. Best of .................. Tricia
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