INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

Shaya
4 years ago
Oh WOW! I Understand now.... Beforehand I thought there might have actually been something wrong with me... But this makes so much sense; I'm empowered! It's So ME!
Jessica
4 years ago
Thank you so much! Finally I have a reasonable explanation to why I'm always misunderstood! This was so totally me that it was almost scary! Although the friends bit was kind of inaccurate as to what types you don't get along with. One of my friends are a ISTJ and according to this I shouldn't get well along with Ts or Js. But overall, this was so ridiculusly true I almost cried. Now I get where I am coming from and that there is nothing wrong with me just because I need so much me-time or that I don't feel the need to have an insanely amount of friends around me. Or why I have such a hard time to let people close and often don't reveal my feelings. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Fran
5 years ago
This is practically me with the exception that I don't mind never-ending and hypothetical discusssions.
Cal
5 years ago
Well, INFP like to day dream~ Almost lost in space sometimes. it's very true that I hate never ending & endless possibilities discussion. It piss me off! One more thing that's true is, I am as though split personalities. Can be so shy at one time yet being so sociable on the other time! :) People sometimes think that I'm an extrovert & should become a sales man. Yep.. religion, meaning of life, humanity are something that always favourite... I believe everything is predestined! Are you too as an INFP?
Jasmine
5 years ago
I love that we can comment on our personality type! I find it interesting that we all seem to analyze this a little deeper than a lot of other personality types analyze their own personality and we all seem to articulate words in an appealing manor. Passion is also a word I see written many times, it's tattooed on my back!!!! Passion is my favorite word because I see the most vivid array of colors when I hear or see it. I was wondering if the others who have this personality type, INFP, are strongly visual like me? I see color, like mentally in the back of my mind, with every word I hear or read which helps me understand and communicate. I always thought this was my weirdest aspect as an individual (aside from the ability to actually analyze my communication style in this much depth lol). I also mentally picture everything being communicated to me and if I can't picture it, I compare it to something I can picture which is also why I talk in analogies and metaphors quite frequently.
Jasmine
5 years ago
ooo I wanted to add that my positivity is certainly an aspect of myself that makes me an INFP as well. I am often told that I always find the good in any situation and have actually even been told by someone that my positivity sickens them because they took it as me trying to defend everyone when I was just trying to give everyone the same chance by viewing myself from their situation. I think my two degree's in psychology (I'm only 21 :D) have only heightened this ability to "defend" everyone.
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