INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

4 years ago
I'm glad I did this quiz. It shows me that there are people in this world like me who aren't only interested in taking selfies and instead focusing on the deep beautiful stuff. I used to fear no one was like me, but now I learned that a whopping 4.5% of people in America know where I'm coming from. INFP for life!!!
4 years ago
while it's true that this may describe each and every one of us, in some ways we are still different. we can't all be the same infp, and i guess we each interperet the descriptions in the way that we are. still nice to know that there are so many people who think and feel similarly (:
4 years ago
It's the whole impact of others and an anxious, nagging feeling encouraging you to think about other's views and do something without meaning to. I often can feel as a pushover and I normally feel awkward in many situations that require more than one person. However, I'm always happy to have a good friend or basically anyone by my side to help me with things. I'm between flight or fight, encouraging a good explanation to solve it and then choosing an option when needed. In the friendship zone, it's best to meet me in my "active" state (my "hermit" state would just nod or something and mumble something) and start talking about, well, anything. That can activate me and send me blabbing off about randomness, jumping from topic to topic on the thinnest tightropes made out of connections. However, I can revert to being antisocial at any time, especially when I'm searching for something to say. Some people don't mind it, and if they are fine with it we'll get along fine. Just saying, "Wait, wait," and tugging on my arm can get me ticked off. But you could just ask me a little question involving the depths of my mind and I'm right onto it. Generally, rub me the right way and you'll get the best from me. Wrong way.. well, no.
4 years ago
I love reading these comments and seeing that we aren't, in fact, alone. Look at all these people who feel misunderstood, yet our ostensible inability to actually get out there, meet people (and MAYBE they fall into 4.5% of the population and will get us), is preventing us from coming together. At any rate.. it's such a beautiful thing, to me, to see that there's many others who were just as excited and blown away as myself to have found this out. Even if I never meet a single other INFP, I know y'all are out there and I hope you know I'm here, too :)
Angela R. Young
4 years ago
This is exactly what I needed , something to help me find where to begin my career path, There were so many things how ever, at the same time it is a wonderful thing to finally see others who are similar to myself. It is hard to find others like yourself in this world. Especially those who understand where your point of views are coming from.
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