INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

Valkyrie
3 years ago
I'm a INFP too.. Very accurate and i was wondering if most INFP people had difficulties finding a partner like i do? Haha probably because of our weird (maybe understood) personalities seen by others as we don't open up easily to acquaintances or normal friends around us. Sometimes i really want to be friendly and start a chat with whoever else was alone in many situations but i just couldn't do much, I'll stutter and get very nervous actually while my expression still looks as if it was normal LOL!!!
Alden
3 years ago
They read me like a book. Anyone else squealed at the fact that they put Tolkien's quote on the page?!
J
3 years ago
Well, it's mostly very accurate - My friends tease me about the fact that I often disappear of the face of the planet for months at a time (I'm retreating into hermitage - I need this to be able to come back out and cope with life again, it's how I recharge). I have to back away from people who can't accept that about me and who want me to be in their pockets to count as a friend. I have a few, trusted friends - but although I seem very open and friendly - I'm actually pretty overwhelmed if lots of people try to befriend me. I don't like it. I like to keep my distance a little (but I don't like this to be obvious ha ha, I don't like to appear unfriendly at all). I'm an illustrator, I work alone from home and I would absolutely not like to work in an office - I have done and I hated all the backstabbing, side taking and politics. It was too repetitive too. I need to be able to work with ideas. I've always loved psychology and I regret not studying it. I've always longed to be a writer or therapist, so that's pretty accurate. I write poetry as a hobby. HOWEVER - I wouldn't say that anyone meeting me would think I was shy or quiet. I live quietly and need balance - but people often misunderstand me because my need to be hermity doesn't seem to sit with the fact that I seem very chatty and cheery (not at all quiet) when in social situations. So I'm a bit of an odd mix and that seems to confuse a lot of people. I will always be there for you if you are a friend of mine, I will make sure you have a roof over your head and food on your table, and I won't judge you. But I'm not good at physically being there everyday because I'd wilt away. I need to be able to disappear for a bit to roam around in my head. AND I actually enjoy brainstorming sessions which I think INFP people aren't meant to enjoy, what's not to enjoy? It's chance to stream out lots of different ideas, brainstorming is all about ideas. I do suffer from bouts of depression. I don't know if that's usual with this type. I think it often creeps up on arty types sadly.
Valkyrie
3 years ago
Me too!! I have bouts of depression that come and go at times. It's just hard to explain why i'm like that. Maybe it's all in our personality type. :P
Kristin
3 years ago
J--you have summed me up almost perfectly. Paragraphs 4,5,6 really resonate. I, too, battle the depression-monster and have been battling it for years. I have learned to monitor my hermit-y nature because sometimes it is actually a downward spiral into the monster's pit rather than a needed break to recharge my batteries. I think that many of our type battle depression because we are heavy in the "F", and we are only 4.5% of the population, which can leave us feeling like the 'cheese' who stands alone. It has been balm to my soul to read these comments from my fellow INFP-souls!
Christa
3 years ago
I think what is often misundetstood is that introverted infp's being altruistic, love people which means that when they feel comfortable they can be very chatty and sharing and giving (almost always in a small group though). It does come at a cost however because you give out your energy in the process and then need alone time afterwards to replenish it. Extroverts gain their energy by interacting with other people and their energy gets depleted when they are alone. I beleive there is a misconception that introversion is almost equated to a dislike of people (according to some extroverts I know). Nothing can be furher from the truth. Us INFP's can be very good in comfortable social situations only it comes as I said at a cost.
QV
3 years ago
I feel like a INFP, but often act like a ENTP when around others. Though this is very accurate... I wonder as to which one is fully me? Also, the ENTP description mostly consists of their knack and need for arguing- constant brain stimulation. I feel like there should be more about their feelings, or habits...
Shaya
4 years ago
Oh WOW! I Understand now.... Beforehand I thought there might have actually been something wrong with me... But this makes so much sense; I'm empowered! It's So ME!
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