INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

Ethar Alfaki
4 years ago
Very close to me .. I discover sides of me never known it was there .. I thing studying software is not the best choise .. but I may and will -in sha allah" find my lost passion .
4 years ago
Same problem with me i am also studying software but not satisfied with that... allah will show the right passion "AlL ThE BeSt"
4 years ago
Spot on analysis on most points. They weren't lying when they said the results might be "creepy". It felt like I read a summary of my own life. Well, now I know why I act the way I do and I bet this will come in handy in the future.
Becky Haines
4 years ago
It's really nice to be able to place myself, does anyone else have the gift of maybe exchanging energy. I find when I'm out and about I can feel what most are dealing with, and it seeps in, also If a person is lonely, etc. I leave them always with a smile and tad bit of energy. I'm just trying to see how this combination is going to work for me. I need to be alone most of the time so I can share me in some writings, mostly all I like to do to feed my soul..
4 years ago
INFP is spot on! I have felt a strong intuitive connection all my life. I learned energy work to help keep me grounded and I have to surround myself with positive relationships. Negativity and emotional conflict affects me on every level and can make me sick. I had to learn to adjust the sensitivity of my antenna.
Raheel Farooq
4 years ago
Hahahah. It's funny that we are so archetypal. I've read all the other sections, and believe it will give me a chance to better plan how I should proceed in my life. Thank you for the insights. Will soon buy the in-depth guide ;)
4 years ago
I always suspect that Tom Hiddleston is similar to me (I am a girl btw). Now I know why, and I'm glad with this coincidence !
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