INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

3 years ago
A lot of this is true for me, except that I'm not really optimistic, but depression may be the cause of that. Atleast I'm not completely alone.
3 years ago
you're fully not alone my friend. though we are all of the same personality we all still have our own unique qualities that make us who we are. We INFP's are all in the same but one in ourselves.
Edandre Macahidhid
3 years ago
I'm glad that there's more of us because isolation sucks, especially when people mistaken you for a quiet and shy person
3 years ago
Oh my goodness! I've just spent this entire morning thinking about myself, feeling myself slipping into that familiar ‘hermit’ mode. “No! I had gotten out of that last month! I was back to my affectionate, creative, totally secure in my values and was loving it- why do I have to feel that insecurity again? Why is it so hard to harmonize with people?” Seriously... I related to it all, and it’s not like it contradicts its self or anything... I want to fix the bad; I want to do it in my creative, emotional, faithful, loyal, loving way. Haha... I kind of like we make up the smallest percentage. We’re like the CHOSEN ones. ;) My heart pours out to all the other INFP’s! Hang in there guys, we are that special fantastical group. I personally think all those qualities listed are my favorite qualities of myself, so if you have them, then let me just say WOW you are amazing and I admire your heart and soul. Haha... gosh, that sounded prideful (Eye roll) but seriously, I can get so insecure when I know I have no reason to be; so that means you guys shouldn’t either!! Open your fragile but fascinating hearts and let your positivity shine through any self-doubt. We should make a club!!! We should all make some sort of creative, writing, loving support group! x)
Colton Hogan
3 years ago
Even I couldn't find the words to describe myself so we'll!!!
3 years ago
I KNOW HAHA IT'S SO FANTASTIC I'M SPASING OUT ALL LIKE THAT'S EXACTLY ME............ WAIT WHAT?? I'M NOT ALONE??!!.........I couldn't believe it. I really do have those moments where I feel there's no one and that I wont ever find someone else who understands me. But now I can always remember I'm not alone there ARE people who get me. YAY FOR THE INFP's
3 years ago
Years back, a co-worker left a note in my mail box at work that said "Anita, you are a snob"....I don't know who wrote it...I threw it away and never said a word to anybody. It hurt me. Misunderstood. Check. Sensitive. Check. I read the description of an INFP and it is very accruate.
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