INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

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3 years ago
Ah, yessss!! This is so beautifully accurate. I just... couldn't understand myself until I read this; honestly. I always wondered why I could be so loud, fun, and downright extroverted at times, but still be seen as "the shy girl" who sits in the corner drawing (and doesn't do her homework because -- as my teachers have yet to understand -- I'm... an INFP, and focusing/working with deadlines is just not something I'm good at). I should really get back to my schoolwork now, though.
3 years ago
My results are so true... this is amazing!
3 years ago
Wow. My mind was blown as to how accurately this described me. I've always been told I was weird, but my friends say it in a good way. Others just stay away from me, so I don't have many friends. The ones I have are great company and we have great times together.
3 years ago
Does anyone else find hard to motivate themselves to do things? Or have no particular passion for anything ( like school subjects) ?
3 years ago
Frequently. Especially in subjects I used to love as a kid.
3 years ago
Any other very young INFP here? Anyone else who's here because they're fascinated by this type of thing and just understanding people and how different personalities work? I'm 13 years old and although I do feel like I've finally found people like me, I think there are very few who are my age.
3 years ago
Woah, so cool ,I feel the same way about wanting to learn and understand people and their personalities , (which is why I really want to study human behaviour and thinking), (also I'm 14 too [well, at this point in time] )
3 years ago
I'm thirteen as well. I honestly cannot think of anyone I know that's similar to me. At times it can be a bit lonely being mostly misunderstood, but something that I've learned is that we should take pride in being different -- my friends tell me it's refreshingly interesting to have someone weird and funny like me around. (^_^)
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