INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personality

Being a part of the Diplomat personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know

1 year ago
I got Mediator, but sometimes I honestly don't mind dealing with data. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
1 year ago
My best friend who isn't in my school is an INFP (I am an INTP) he understands me perfectly and is always there to help me out, he's extremely generous and caring, and is very open to me from what I noticed, he often just randomly comes in contact with me on social media for a few days then disappears for a few months or even years, yet he never changed, I am glad that I even have a friend like that who enjoys spending time with me then (sadly) suddenly disappears, he is very funny too! :D
1 year ago
I do this with people sometimes and the only reason I can think of as to why is that sometimes I know that what I'm doing now isn't technically where I want to be. It's not that it's the people, it's just the environment isn't where the passion lies. For me, being in school and studying biology is really where I start to come alive, writing papers for english class and just generally being a student - donating and spending time talking about medicine and how to aid people better. It can be difficult to stick with a group of people when I'm not really focused on my goal like I should be. It's not really anyone's fault.
10 months ago
hi, i am apparently INFP, and coincidentally am also taking an unplanned social media break, and have lost contact with life long friends from school as i left for university as a result. I dont know how to go back onto social media and apologise, as I cannot promise I wont need a break again as it is very difficult/stressful to maintain? I struggle to explain it. How does your friend say hi after he disappears for a while? Xxx
9 months ago
That happened to me once started hanging out with another group of friends when things got rough.
8 months ago
Im having the same problem TT And worse its been going on for years already
1 year ago
I've never felt more understood in my entire life.
1 year ago
This test is so amazingly accurate! My friend directed me to this, and now I know why!
1 year ago
The moment I started to read the article, it was 100% accurate. This shows me who I am as a person. This test has also helped me understand my friends better through this perosnality test. Very good website.
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