INFP Friends

The true friends of people with the INFP personality type tend to be few and far between, but those that make the cut are often friends for life. The challenge is the many dualities that this type harbors when it comes to being sociable – INFPs crave the depth of mutual human understanding, but tire easily in social situations; they are excellent at reading into others’ feelings and motivations, but are often unwilling to provide others the same insight into themselves – it’s as though INFPs like the idea of human contact, but not the reality of social contact.

INFP friends

How Poor Are They That Have Not Patience

In a lot of ways, this limits the potential pool of friends to other Diplomat types, who are able to pick up on the subtle clues left by their INFP friends, and who are more likely than not to enjoy something of a human enigma. A friendship with an ESTJ on the other hand, governed by social conventions and community participation as they are, would almost be a non-sequitur – though INFPs may find the idea of being paired with their opposite fascinating enough to outweigh the practical challenges to such a friendship.

To top it all off, ideas like networking and "the friend of my friend is my friend" hold little weight with INFPs. Friendships are earned on their own merit, by dint of the intuitive respect INFPs have for those with similar principles and values, rather than more practical alignments like those of coworkers. INFPs’ tendency to protect their sensitive inner cores and values from criticism, especially if they are on the more turbulent side of the spectrum, means that acquaintances will likely get nowhere near them without sustained and tactful effort.

But, if INFPs’ shields are properly navigated and they decide to open up and trust another person, a strong, stable friendship will ensue, marked by passionate support and idealism, subtle poetic wit, and a level of emotional insight that is hard to match. INFPs’ friends will be rewarded with calm, sensitivity and depth, and an ever-present desire to help, learn, and grow. But even the most confident and assertive INFPs will only be able to keep up this relaxed and present exterior for so long.

Even as friendships grow stronger and deeper, and friends are lulled into a sense of mutual understanding, INFPs’ enigmatic qualities will never truly vanish.

INFPs will always need to disappear for a while, removing themselves from others so they can re-center on their own minds and feelings. Often enough people with the INFP personality type will emerge from this time alone having come to some momentous decision that even their closest friends didn’t know was weighing on them, evading even the option of receiving the sort of support and advice they so readily give. Such is INFPs’ way, for better or for worse.

Zoya
3 years ago
This is probably the most accurate description of the way I think, feel, and see thing in my life, or how I act in life. It's so strange that a site could help me learn about myself, to find out things that I never realized were true. I mean, I hate talking about myself to people and all, you know? But this was...actually really intriguing.
Tyff
3 years ago
This is really accurate. Thanks :)
TY
3 years ago
I think that as INFP i think about think about the past and future to much and not really on the present. I know that hinders me a lot because i isolate myself with friends because i just think and hide my emotions from everyone. But at the same time when Im ready i love to be around my friends and people that are just really nice.
Shaky
3 years ago
I have a lot of close friends and I love all of them so much, but I always need some time with myself. I love being with people, all the friends in my life mean so much to me! But being with people really drains me after a while. I think my friends don't always understand that, and I don't want them to think that I'm pushing them away! I need my friends but I also nee time alone.
Shivani
3 years ago
I am absolutely,totally this type of person. This is definetely my personality.
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