INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

Norma
4 years ago
I just read about this today... my husband told me we see what we want to see, however I feel that at last i can understand who i am, or at least i am starting to have an idea, mainly knowing that are more people like me out there... i understand why i have always felt that something was missing... i used to feel guilty for not feeling completely happy or content about my life, my career, my job... i am in the wrong career.,. i felt i was rubbish at what i was/am doing, i was meant to be good at my job and i struggle to stay where i am which is not a bad place, quite good, but it cause me so much unhappiness and headaches and stress and health problems... I still don't know exactly what is my career or dream job, but i know that in the path i currently am is not the right one, it is good money but money is not everything and i hope to have enough strength to take an action and make this big change and be happy.
AmandaJoy
4 years ago
Just found out today that I am an INFJ. My counsellor asked me if I was comfortable taking the personality test. I did. When the result came up, he had me read them aloud to him. I had to stop half way through, I started crying. I have never felt so understood. It finally felt as though someone told me it was ok to be me. I have always been confused by my conflicted actions, and inner turmoil. It's just amazing to know there are others like me out there.
sa
4 years ago
It's really great to read all these comments as I find myself nodding along to every word ! The way there are so many people here (even though we are apparently the rarest type!) offering advice and help is good to see and I'm proud to be a part of it. I have also always wondered why I love being with my family and close friends, and am usually outgoing, funny and happy, but when we go out and meet new people I have nothing to say. As someone else has said here also, I've tried to be more extroverted but it is definitely draining. However I have become happier within myself and more accepting as I have met more accepting and non judgemental people. I hope we can all make the world a better place, and I am not comparing us to fellow INFJs Mandela or King (although I am humbled to be grouped with them!) but as kind people who really do want to help others.
Xedhadeaus
4 years ago
Honestly, I would have expected more people to have this personality. Lately the people I've seen only care about how they sleep at night, and that's exactly the outlook I have when making decisions. I found most if not all of the questions to be about picking your battles, or simply lending a hand. If there's only one percent of people out there like that then I can now understand why the introverted sense is there. Everything else about the personality is outgoing in a passionate sense, until it comes to stepping out and actually relating to others. I'm actually quite surprised.
Nailea
5 years ago
This is awesome i really felt like the oddball at times and as if i was crazy for liking to be alone and thinking to myself 50% of the time. But don't get me wrong i like to socialize a lot as well. But it makes perfect sense as to why i want to make a difference in the world. Nice to know im different and not just crazy..haha. And the work first play later is definately me, i rather not have work on my mind while im doing something relaxing. yayay go INFJ's haha
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