INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

11 months ago
No wonder finding someone who thoroughly understands me always seemed like such an unrealistic wish. "Less than one percent of the population". Unfortunately, many tend to neglect the "F" factor in INFJs like myself, mislead by our well-reserved and rational appearance. Some forget we're as in need of emotional support as they are, while some even begin taking advantage of our company and overflowing compassion. We're always here to serve as a dependable confidant of our loved ones, their shoulder to cry on. Wouldn't it be sweet if someone could be ours when we're drained and exhausted from pouring our souls out for others?
10 months ago
Gosh, I understand exactly what you mean!!! I mean, I love being a confidant, and I love giving advice, but sometimes I get tired too?? And it sucks because not a lot of people understand that :-( It would be awesome to have more INFJs out there, because I suppose we’re the only ones who really get what it’s like. (*・∀・*)人(*・∀・*)
10 months ago
I too have the same traits.
6 months ago
Amen, brother.
11 months ago
Every word on here describes me to a T! I was shocked at how accurate this description of myself was. Part of what I was reading I hardly knew about myself until I stopped to think about it and went, "whoa, I really am like that." Such as I severely struggle with taking critisism, especially with my school work - that couldn't be more true. I'm just happy to know that there are others like me and we're such a special group.
10 months ago
mE tOo!! (ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*:・゚✧ and I also severely struggle with criticism – whenever anyone tells me something like “that’s not very good” or “you could improve” or something, I always get extremely offended and rather upset (though I try very hard to hide it). Thank you for commenting that, it’s awesome to know there’s someone like me out there :)))
6 months ago
I agree. And I love your emoji, that made me smile.
11 months ago
My dad is an INFJ, he's great but I find he tends to make more work for himself because of his very strong F trait, despite this he can argue as well as any T type. My brother is and INFJ too but unlike my dad I can't for the life of me have an intelligent conversation with him.
9 months ago
Wow, two INFJs in one family, I would have loved that
1 year ago
How incredible is it to find out I'm not "odd" I'm just rare! I have such a feeling of relief! It fits me to an INFJ-T!.
1 year ago
I'm an advocate! It matches my personality completely.
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