INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

4 years ago
this is scarily me, like for about a year, i had 100's of friends, i went from boyfriend to girlfriend i always ended the relationship out of boredom and the longest i was single was about 2 days. i wasn't promiscuous, i never slept with anyone, but i always thought it was out of fear of being alone? but apparently not. but then two years ago i completley isolated myself from my friends and i quit school and i would just want to be alone all the time, i can't believe that if i had just taken time to myself for a while then i'd be fine now. but yeah, i'm 100% sympathetic of people, maybe even too much sometimes? this is amazing.
4 years ago
i always do think that I'm actually an alien from outer kidding. but in fact, i do feels different from others..., it's rarest indeed.., i always seen this life trough a different light, from my own perspective and actually it's set me apart from others.. sometimes, i felt tired around's not like i hate/dislikes's just ...i need to be alone most of time....i can't stand being around people too much...that exhausted myself a lot. but people often seen me as extrovert person, but actually it otherwise..and i noticed that. i try avoid conflict where ever i can and can't be put under a lot of pressure, because I'll fall sick easily... :( i love music and art, writing as well~ i glad when i can help others through charity works or giving inspiration through my writing even just a little amount.. i can connect myself to others quite easily and understanding their's not like I'm looking for ideal partner but it's rare for me to find someone who understand myself...i don't expect people to understand me 100%, it just i wanted them accept me just the way who i am...suddenly, i feel sad. sob...but I'm glad that actually I'm not alone although this kind of person are rare to find...^^
5 years ago
All of the descriptions I have researched about INFJ describe me pretty well. I can't stand being around people for a long period of time. I randomly will need my alone time almost like I need it to recharge my batteries. For a lot of my life it has made me feel like a loner or socially retarded. Before I go to some planned social encounter whether it's a meeting for work, get together, going on a date, it's like I have to have my sacred alone time before I go and I feel like I dread having to go. I can't stand social arguments or conflicts and usually back off but sometimes they can make my temper go from 0 to 60 in a second and I end up overreacting. I have also read that for the INFJ, sex is viewed as a spiritual act of making love and not just sex. This explains why I could never want one night stands or flings and always rejected offers for them and only wanted sex if it was leading to a relationship.
Cougar Russ
5 years ago
YES!!!! Im not alone lol!!!!!! Im a little upset we are so rare but im glad knowing that this is who i am but i think that since we are misunderstood it could possibly be detrimental to our lives if the wrong people read about our weaknesses, always wondered how i could read people like a book!! (:
5 years ago
I'm 24, a twin, and I just did the test now and found out i was an INFJ, (Introvert(44%) iNtuitive(38%) Feeling(38%) Judging(67%)) although I seem to have a much higher Judging than anyone on this page?? I definitely feel misunderstood, and although I tend to have a good grip on my emotions, the intensity of them scare me...does anyone feel the rage I feel at the world sometimes? Im studying art at university, which I love, and can actually take criticism, although only when it's constructive. I love music and books, I OBSESS over words and their meanings, their origin... I love spirituality, and I am fascinated with all religions, would love to be an expert one day, although nt sure I have the patience for teaching... I definitely believe in Karma, and (as bad as it sounds) revenge. I have lots of acquaintances , but fewer friends. I really struggle to trust people, and once someone betrays me there is no going back. I hold very high principles, which I expect my family and friends to hold, and I am definitely my own worst enemy. I struggle to see where I fit into the world in the future, what job I could have to make the world a better place; sometimes I imagine politics would be good, but I am really bad at dealing with bureaucracy, I would prob offend someone. help?! x
Leisha Young
4 years ago
I know what you mean. I have moments of utter rage and contempt for the world and my fellow humans all the time. I am also very short on patience for ignorance and stupidity and can be surprised by my strong emotional responses sometimes. I too have high standards for myself, and therefore others, and get disappointed when some people don't live up to them. I also know that I have a lot to give...but how do I go about this? I keep trying to seek out the perfect job for me but can't come up with anything, I therefore feel as though I'm actually offering nothing of benefit to the world (but my taxes). I also frequently have moments where I ponder how pointless our lives are and try to find ways to be less pointless. :-) I often find that I almost have too many ideas rolling around in my head and can't figure out which one to focus on. If I'm not being stimulated around a particular idea (or I'm not getting support) I grow bored of it and move onto the next one. I find that every other week I am presenting my husband with a new idea for something we can do and him throwing water on it because it's not practical. I find this frustrating and deflating, even though I know what he's saying is right. I know I have something to offer the world, but what is it and how best to deliver it? Ahhhh, it's tough being an INFJ but I wouldn't change it for the world! :-) Good luck!
3 years ago
Yeah, this sounds like me. Take some solace in the fact that you aren't alone.
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