Finding Your Life Purpose If You’re a Diplomat

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Diplomat personality types: Advocates (INFJ), Mediators (INFP), Protagonists (ENFJ), and Campaigners (ENFP)

For many Diplomats, a life purpose may feel like a calling – something decided on a spiritual or cosmic level. Although not all of them do, they are the personality types most likely to believe that such things are preordained. They often favor the spiritual and mystical. Combine that with the value they place on helping others, and the blend can create a profound sense of mission in Diplomat personalities.

“She remembered who she was and the game changed.”

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A life purpose is a guiding vision that is the core reason for all the significant activities in a person’s life. It’s a self-organizing principle based on passions and competency, and it’s different from a goal in that it’s not detailed but more a guiding umbrella concept that covers all specifics. A life purpose might change several times in a lifetime. For Diplomats, feeling that their existence has a reason is likely to be essential to their self-esteem. While there is still much to study, research has suggested that having a life purpose is linked to positive mental and physical health results.

People may discover or start a quest for a meaningful life once or several times from the cradle to the grave. If you’re a Diplomat personality type, and you’re not sure what your purpose in life is, here are suggestions that might help you in your journey to meaning.

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What Is Bigger Than You?

Finding something bigger than yourself means not being confined just to your wants and wishes. It involves considering a big, more profound picture instead. Many (but not all) Diplomat ideals rest on the welfare of humanity, either locally or globally – something bigger than themselves. That doesn’t mean that Diplomats don’t or shouldn’t take care of their own needs and wants. But committing to a thing that they consider more significant than themselves helps define their sense of purpose.

Diplomat personalities may find their purpose by exploring their spiritual lives, political lives, philosophical lives, professional lives, family lives, or social awareness. Not all Diplomats will be mystics, altruists, or activists. Still, an exploration of these things can reveal what is vital to a Diplomat’s thinking and way of life.

What is something bigger than yourself that you connect with? What is your relationship with this more significant concern? How would you like to see your connection strengthen? Do any of your answers describe something about life purpose? (These alone may or may not suggest a life purpose. This exercise is just one way to explore the possibilities.)

Go Within

Diplomats, with their Intuitive-Feeling personality trait combo, prefer their answers coming from within. We Feeling types like to send our decisions through our guts. So trust that.

Close your eyes and envision the things that you might do with your life, based on your current interests and concerns. Listen carefully to your instincts. Notice the things that evoke a huge Yes! when you think about them.

Make it a practice to spend a few minutes each day meditating on (or merely thinking about) your interests and passions. See what’s consistent about your reactions – there is always the potential for something to look good today but not be as exciting tomorrow. Maybe even explore your reactions in a longer form by using a journal dedicated to your life purpose. Remember, there’s no hurry, and there are no shortcuts. But you may find your life purpose by considering how fierce your yeses are.

What Are Your Gifts?

It’s fun to talk about life purpose in expansive and dreamy terms. But, at some point, for it to matter, having a mission demands action. A mission involves doing something. So what can you do?

This exercise is the more practical side of discovering your life purpose. To find yours, you may need to inventory your skills and talents. It’s not enough to say, “I’m going to dedicate my life toward eradicating hunger.” What gifts do you have to dedicate to that cause? Leadership qualities? Communication skills? Fundraising skills? Organizational skills? More than one? Making a list might be helpful.

A skills inventory can work both ways. Once you know what gives your life meaning, you can apply the skills you have to your purpose or strive to learn more skills. But consider this: your skills might also lend themselves to creating a life purpose. For example, if you’re a creative and imaginative fiction writer, your life purpose might be to share as many of your spellbinding pieces with the world as possible, making the world a better place for having read your novels. You can always elevate your talents or craft to serve a broader vision.

Putting It All Together

After you discover your life purpose, two more steps might help solidify and memorialize your discovery: (1) write a personal vision statement, and (2) reduce your plan and purpose into a short “elevator pitch.” The mission statement should be relatively short (some advise three to five sentences), with the elevator pitch being shorter (a 15- to 30-second sound bite). The mission statement is a succinct definition of your purpose, and the elevator pitch is, in this context, less about networking and more like a motto or affirmation. Keep them uncomplicated – something a ten-year-old might understand. Both should strengthen any decision you come to about your life purpose and may help you stay focused on your mission.

In all cases, it’s easier to navigate if you know where you are going. Friedrich Nietzsche, the German philosopher, assured us that, “He who has a why can endure any how.” If you know your purpose in life, the why of your existence, then how to reach that destination likely becomes obvious. What’s your why?

Are you a Diplomat personality type who has discovered your life purpose? What approaches have (or haven’t) helped you? Share your experiences in the comments below.

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My dream is to prove myself I'm worth living. My Dream is to be someone's inspiration. To be independent. To be important and needed to this world. To end the gender bias. To stand up for weak and teach them to be strong. To achieve the impossible. I can't just say it merely in words......... All I know is it's very important to me.........
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I believe that you can do this
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I'll be rooting for you
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Really love the conversations here. I've just had a read of the article and wanted to share how I got around getting stuck. I started to study a social work degree as an adult student. I thought, "finally, I'll be able to realise my life's purpose to help people!". However, when the pandemic hit, I lost my place on the program. I was very down about it because I'd successfully completed 2 years already and just lost the remaining 2 years. I started a fruit picking job, just to have something to do. It's not glamous or have a title with letters behind it. What I came to understand is that you don't need a degree to help people, just start where you are. For me, there is a older woman at work who only speaks a little English. She's limited, sometimes isolated and lonely. I've enveloped her in my friend circle. Sometimes we have conversations where we're talking about two separate topics. It's fun and crazy, and we laugh alot. She loves to cook and shares easily. We've been bringing in food to share with each other, which I'm grateful for. She cooks much better than I. I've decided to help her by bringing in supermarket brochures and perhaps trade recipes. Food can be the vehicle in which I help her English. Perhaps this could lead to ESL (English as a Second Language) teaching instead???? If you love to help people, START WHERE YOU ARE and the rest will follow. The important thing is to connect with people - a hobby group, coffee group, church or other spiritual gathering, or even a part volunteering.
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Gosh, this is so sweet. :)
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I totally understand, this is very helpful and before this survey I felt alone. Like no one understands me. I'm proud to know that there are other people like me out there! :)
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The purpose of my life is associated with survival, there are many problems that threaten human existence, the first purpose would be rejuvenation, there are many people in old age who lose skills that can make them more fit for work, rejuvenating the elderly. not so many new children would be needed, which would lead to the solution of the problem of overcrowding, increase the number of people suitable for work, require fewer services, making services reach more people, thus they could solve hunger and many more problems . If you think about it, my meaning in life is work and that meaning wants to be shared with others. There is no problem that is not solved with work
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I am still young and I have the "how" of course, actually I have many "hows" that are going to be eliminated over time, basically each "how" is made for the different possible timelines and I will take into account the creation of new ones. "like" more effective as time goes by. English is not my main language, I hope it is understood, thank you for your attention
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Very helpful! I have felt quite depressed recently, however this is very encouraging and helpful, thank you x