Finding Your Life Purpose If You’re a Diplomat

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Diplomat personality types: Advocates (INFJ), Mediators (INFP), Protagonists (ENFJ), and Campaigners (ENFP)

For many Diplomats, a life purpose may feel like a calling – something decided on a spiritual or cosmic level. Although not all of them do, they are the personality types most likely to believe that such things are preordained. They often favor the spiritual and mystical. Combine that with the value they place on helping others, and the blend can create a profound sense of mission in Diplomat personalities.

“She remembered who she was and the game changed.”

LALAH DELIA

A life purpose is a guiding vision that is the core reason for all the significant activities in a person’s life. It’s a self-organizing principle based on passions and competency, and it’s different from a goal in that it’s not detailed but more a guiding umbrella concept that covers all specifics. A life purpose might change several times in a lifetime. For Diplomats, feeling that their existence has a reason is likely to be essential to their self-esteem. While there is still much to study, research has suggested that having a life purpose is linked to positive mental and physical health results.

People may discover or start a quest for a meaningful life once or several times from the cradle to the grave. If you’re a Diplomat personality type, and you’re not sure what your purpose in life is, here are suggestions that might help you in your journey to meaning.

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What Is Bigger Than You?

Finding something bigger than yourself means not being confined just to your wants and wishes. It involves considering a big, more profound picture instead. Many (but not all) Diplomat ideals rest on the welfare of humanity, either locally or globally – something bigger than themselves. That doesn’t mean that Diplomats don’t or shouldn’t take care of their own needs and wants. But committing to a thing that they consider more significant than themselves helps define their sense of purpose.

Diplomat personalities may find their purpose by exploring their spiritual lives, political lives, philosophical lives, professional lives, family lives, or social awareness. Not all Diplomats will be mystics, altruists, or activists. Still, an exploration of these things can reveal what is vital to a Diplomat’s thinking and way of life.

What is something bigger than yourself that you connect with? What is your relationship with this more significant concern? How would you like to see your connection strengthen? Do any of your answers describe something about life purpose? (These alone may or may not suggest a life purpose. This exercise is just one way to explore the possibilities.)

Go Within

Diplomats, with their Intuitive-Feeling personality trait combo, prefer their answers coming from within. We Feeling types like to send our decisions through our guts. So trust that.

Close your eyes and envision the things that you might do with your life, based on your current interests and concerns. Listen carefully to your instincts. Notice the things that evoke a huge Yes! when you think about them.

Make it a practice to spend a few minutes each day meditating on (or merely thinking about) your interests and passions. See what’s consistent about your reactions – there is always the potential for something to look good today but not be as exciting tomorrow. Maybe even explore your reactions in a longer form by using a journal dedicated to your life purpose. Remember, there’s no hurry, and there are no shortcuts. But you may find your life purpose by considering how fierce your yeses are.

What Are Your Gifts?

It’s fun to talk about life purpose in expansive and dreamy terms. But, at some point, for it to matter, having a mission demands action. A mission involves doing something. So what can you do?

This exercise is the more practical side of discovering your life purpose. To find yours, you may need to inventory your skills and talents. It’s not enough to say, “I’m going to dedicate my life toward eradicating hunger.” What gifts do you have to dedicate to that cause? Leadership qualities? Communication skills? Fundraising skills? Organizational skills? More than one? Making a list might be helpful.

A skills inventory can work both ways. Once you know what gives your life meaning, you can apply the skills you have to your purpose or strive to learn more skills. But consider this: your skills might also lend themselves to creating a life purpose. For example, if you’re a creative and imaginative fiction writer, your life purpose might be to share as many of your spellbinding pieces with the world as possible, making the world a better place for having read your novels. You can always elevate your talents or craft to serve a broader vision.

Putting It All Together

After you discover your life purpose, two more steps might help solidify and memorialize your discovery: (1) write a personal vision statement, and (2) reduce your plan and purpose into a short “elevator pitch.” The mission statement should be relatively short (some advise three to five sentences), with the elevator pitch being shorter (a 15- to 30-second sound bite). The mission statement is a succinct definition of your purpose, and the elevator pitch is, in this context, less about networking and more like a motto or affirmation. Keep them uncomplicated – something a ten-year-old might understand. Both should strengthen any decision you come to about your life purpose and may help you stay focused on your mission.

In all cases, it’s easier to navigate if you know where you are going. Friedrich Nietzsche, the German philosopher, assured us that, “He who has a why can endure any how.” If you know your purpose in life, the why of your existence, then how to reach that destination likely becomes obvious. What’s your why?

Are you a Diplomat personality type who has discovered your life purpose? What approaches have (or haven’t) helped you? Share your experiences in the comments below.

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I am a high school student and I always dream to be a Psychologist or psychological counsellor. Because I find this is my advantage. and I am very good at capturing the emotions and inner needs of others. But as a t-type person, I am full of hesitation in this career path. Because the investment cost is very high and the employment prospects in our country (I m from China)are not very good at present, it is likely that you will not be able to do the job you want. Almost everyone is advising me not to choose this major, but I know that this is the only field I love and really specialise in. How should I choose between ideal and reality?
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Hey, even I love psychology and I'm studying bsc psychology ! So if you ask me I would say to follow your passion cause your happiness is what matters the most than others opinions and if you think the fee is too much then apply for scholarships nd also if you don't have much career options in your country then you can always go to another country to pursue your dream and thinking about becoming psychologist is not easy it takes courage to do this because it is not only our dream but we're doing this to help other ppl and to save them So I would say to never give up on your dream You got this! Fighting
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Hi, I am a young Australian! And I found a passion for psychology even though I am an introvert! Ever since I was young, I wanted to do something that would leave my mark of the world because I don't want to be forgotten after death. I also have some mental disorders and learning disabilities, so I first got into psychology in hope of finding a way to "Cure" myself... But instead, I found that I could help what little friends I have/had with the knowledge I have gained! I loved it when they would come to me for advice, I was no longer the "Loner Kid" or the "Weird one" I helped everyone! Now I want to find a way to spread my love to the world and help everyone live a happy and fulfilling life! That is what is going to leave my name in history! I will help everyone and make the world a better place by doing what I love! :D
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I have the same goal as you but I can't really fulfill them because I know my parents will disapprove of me being an actor :( I want to be a psychologist and actor
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You should go with you dreams! See what works, collage will be a great time to find out.
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Trying to figure out life, my life and just what the hell I was doing wrong. So I just recently did the personality test and reading into, so much sounds exactly like me! Still doesn't help much but does explain why I do the things I do. I am forced to change my life after back surgery and the pandemic. But since the pandemic I've felt like I've been falling down a bottomless pit no matter what I do, and it's been a very dark and long fall. I do know and have always known that I've always wanted family. Despite all the res flags and having my heart shattered twice by the same women, I've been a single full time dad for around 10 years now. Losing job after job and all the sacrifices and just not caring for anything else but for my son. I think that's my calling but not sure how it's gonna help pay the bills. Any ideas would be very much appreciated.
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Hey, I'm very sorry that your heart was broken twice. I hope you heal fully! I think that you could pick jobs that pay well and that you enjoy too. And make sure it's safe before picking. I wish you the best
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My life has always been fighting for truth, I know my mission is to fight for justice and change things.
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I can relate to each and every word. It's exhausting at times.
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I intend to serve the Lord in His precious will for me: Nursing.
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me too