INTJ Personality (“The Architect”)

It’s lonely at the top, and being one of the rarest and most strategically capable personality types, INTJs know this all too well. INTJs form just two percent of the population, and women of this personality type are especially rare, forming just 0.8% of the population – it is often a challenge for them to find like-minded individuals who are able to keep up with their relentless intellectualism and chess-like maneuvering. People with the INTJ personality type are imaginative yet decisive, ambitious yet private, amazingly curious, but they do not squander their energy.

Nothing Can Stop the Right Attitude From Achieving Its Goal

With a natural thirst for knowledge that shows itself early in life, INTJs are often given the title of “bookworm” as children. While this may be intended as an insult by their peers, they more than likely identify with it and are even proud of it, greatly enjoying their broad and deep body of knowledge. INTJs enjoy sharing what they know as well, confident in their mastery of their chosen subjects, but owing to their Intuitive (N) and Judging (J) traits, they prefer to design and execute a brilliant plan within their field rather than share opinions on “uninteresting” distractions like gossip.

“You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.”

Harlan Ellison

A paradox to most observers, INTJs are able to live by glaring contradictions that nonetheless make perfect sense – at least from a purely rational perspective. For example, INTJs are simultaneously the most starry-eyed idealists and the bitterest of cynics, a seemingly impossible conflict. But this is because INTJ types tend to believe that with effort, intelligence and consideration, nothing is impossible, while at the same time they believe that people are too lazy, short-sighted or self-serving to actually achieve those fantastic results. Yet that cynical view of reality is unlikely to stop an interested INTJ from achieving a result they believe to be relevant.

INTJ personality

In Matters Of Principle, Stand Like a Rock

INTJs radiate self-confidence and an aura of mystery, and their insightful observations, original ideas and formidable logic enable them to push change through with sheer willpower and force of personality. At times it will seem that INTJs are bent on deconstructing and rebuilding every idea and system they come into contact with, employing a sense of perfectionism and even morality to this work. Anyone who doesn’t have the talent to keep up with INTJs’ processes, or worse yet, doesn’t see the point of them, is likely to immediately and permanently lose their respect.

Rules, limitations and traditions are anathema to the INTJ personality type – everything should be open to questioning and reevaluation, and if they see a way, INTJs will often act unilaterally to enact their technically superior, sometimes insensitive, and almost always unorthodox methods and ideas.

This isn’t to be misunderstood as impulsiveness – INTJs will strive to remain rational no matter how attractive the end goal may be, and every idea, whether generated internally or soaked in from the outside world, must pass the ruthless and ever-present “Is this going to work?” filter. This mechanism is applied at all times, to all things and all people, and this is often where INTJ personality types run into trouble.

One Reflects More When Traveling Alone

INTJs are brilliant and confident in bodies of knowledge they have taken the time to understand, but unfortunately the social contract is unlikely to be one of those subjects. White lies and small talk are hard enough as it is for a type that craves truth and depth, but INTJs may go so far as to see many social conventions as downright stupid. Ironically, it is often best for them to remain where they are comfortable – out of the spotlight – where the natural confidence prevalent in INTJs as they work with the familiar can serve as its own beacon, attracting people, romantically or otherwise, of similar temperament and interests.

INTJs are defined by their tendency to move through life as though it were a giant chess board, pieces constantly shifting with consideration and intelligence, always assessing new tactics, strategies and contingency plans, constantly outmaneuvering their peers in order to maintain control of a situation while maximizing their freedom to move about. This isn’t meant to suggest that INTJs act without conscience, but to many Feeling (F) types, INTJs’ distaste for acting on emotion can make it seem that way, and it explains why many fictional villains (and misunderstood heroes) are modeled on this personality type.

Architects You May Know

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1 year ago
Male INTJ-T. Actually it is rather curious. 12 yrs ago, when I was in puberty (or the phase that one calls such, but it somehow skipped) I had serious trouble finding people who relate to me and my feelings (whereas I always had the most different kinds of friends and was known as understanding and good advice giver) and it was generally very difficult in school for me to find actual friends. When I finally undertook the venture to go out and find them (during university for example) I opened up to the point where I was so stressed, I had physical implications like trouble breathing and general fatigue. I didn't know that social interaction drain energy from me. When I finally moved into a different city (graduate studies) I noticed the difference right away, because I had no difficulties finding nice people, but there were very few and I also interacted totally different regarding those at home. It took me almost a year to open up to them, which I didn't know I needed so much time for. And also the fatigue was gone, because the network of friends at home (which are not just a few to be honest) somewhat crushed me, where as now I can simply tell them I can't visit them for another few weeks. But as a physicist I tend to have a general excuse for these kind of things :P Only downside, with my 25 years, it is hard to find women who are not significantly older to understand what is going on in my head and who're not bored if I rather play video games with them than to go party-ing. -.-
1 year ago
*high five* congradulations, you survived the hazing stage of life. As a fellow INTJ-T, I applaude you in this endeavor. I only wish I could help you in your quest for a female. Good luck.
1 year ago
:') wow, I can really relate to your story, I also had real bad time in highschool, my first girlfriend was 9 years older than me, I'm an engineer, 26 years old and I haven't been in a relationship in 5 years
1 year ago
My first comment, I try to be nice. INTJ-A female here. The fictional one as I have read :) I can relate to your story 100%. Especially that I suffered and struggled in female communities, so I decided years ago to quit society as much as possible. I rather choose an awesome book for the evening than going out for hunting or be hunted down. I leave it for the animals. Friendships and romantic relationships ....hmm that part sucks :) But I still do choose drama-free environment because my hunger is for deep and honest relations, where we can have debates, philosophical discussions without a fight. I consider myself a lucky person. I have a friend for 10 years now, another INTJ female :) she is a twin sister to my soul. My family....well it took them around 27 years to understand me at least a bit. But finally they dont call me now the cold OR stony-hearted just because I rely on my rational side and decide based on pro-contra list and based on the best possible outcome. My mom and brother are both F-s. While i always understood and accepted them, I never got the same back till the very recent times. I would say my life is complete and very balanced. I live a happy life. Good job, fulfilling hobby, taking ballet classes regularly. But sometimes I have this starry-eyes as described above, that MAYBE such relationship exists where the man would appreciate me for simply the person who I am for real, and that he wouldnt gain self-esteem by making me small. And here comes the cynical me. Yes little girl, go on dreaming, I have to go now to change the world! so much to do!
Anonymous
1 year ago
I am curious to see what it's like for fellow INTJs in their relationships? I'm married to a wonderful man who cares for me and loves me. He got Mediator when he did the test. However, I can't seem to want to be in this relationship. For so long I thought I was a terrible person and maybe something is wrong with me. After taking the personality test I see that others are like me. How do you fare in your relationship? Is it a constant struggle? What is their personality?
ENFP-T
1 year ago
I have an INTJ bro, he is pretty cool but he squeezes too much out of deals. I like him with his faults though and he says I am too energetic for him.
Anonymous
1 year ago
So glad to find an understanding for being misunderstood
1 year ago
I'm the INTJ son of an ESFP woman and a ISFP man. How cool is that? It is kinda weird how my relationship with my parents is. I've always had certain respect towards my father, because he's a smart cultured man, but as I've been growing and becoming more mature, I feel like he's not on my level anymore and he's not as cool as I thought when I was younger. I don't mean to say I look down on him; not at all! But I feel like he doesn't have anything new to teach me. In the other hand, we are not very emotional towards each other and even though we see each other every day, we dont talk much, but I know he loves me more than anything. As for my feelings towards him, I'd say that more than loving him, I respect him. Also, when we do talk, it is about intellectual topics, and I'm always glad to talk with him 'cause he's someone who can catch up with me. As for my mother, we get along pretty well. I talk much more with her, but unlike my father, it is impossible for her to catch up with intellectual discussions, so most of the time we talk about trivial things, but for some reason it doesn't annoys me as much as when doing it with other people. But I certainly get bored when she begins to talk about her friends and problems of people I don't even know. And of course there are times when she's the one getting bored: she's curious so every now and then she asks me about scientific stuff, but it is a pain in the ass trying to explain things to her because I know she won't follow me and eventually she'll get bored, and I hate that; so I'm always trying to avoid these subjects when talking with her. Also, we fight about almost every little thing. Almost every single time we talk, we end up fighting because our ideas on everything are very different. Nonetheless, we do get along.
1 year ago
This is interesting. I feel the same way, though my mother can talk about deep topics. I only argue with people that will listen. I don't see the point of talking to a brick wall.
1 year ago
I tottaly agree, though I am still growing and have hit the point where I'm mature! But my parents are tottaly different as I feel as if I'm talking to a stranger even though I know a lot about them they have never understood me! It gets very hard, I feel as though I can't even talk to them about personal problems. Did you have that problem growing up?
8 months ago
Man, it sounds like my relationship with my parents too. (Although I got very angry and annoyed with them sometimes.) Guess we INTJs relates to each other well. *High five*
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