INFP Parents

People who share the INFP personality type share a tendency to not only strive to learn and grow as principled, moral individuals, but to bring likeminded people on that journey with them. In their own subtle, often shy way, INFPs want to lead others forward, as kindred spirits – they will find no greater opportunity for this than in parenthood.

From the start, INFP parents are warm, loving and supportive, and take immeasurable joy in the wide-eyed wonder of their children as they explore, learn, and grow. People with the INFP personality type will give their children the freedom they need to do this, keeping an open mind and letting their children gain their own sense of understanding. At the same time, INFP parents will try to provide a backdrop to this freedom and experience, establishing a set of morals and values that guide that liberty with a sense of personal responsibility.

INFP parents
INFPs never stop encouraging their children to learn and grow, and they consider it their duty to inspire and motivate them, both by using their sensitivity and intuition to speak in their children’s language and by leading the way themselves.

However, this sense of responsibility has a harder side – if their children fall foul of their INFP parents’ values, it will not be taken lightly. People with the INFP personality type take their responsibilities in parenthood seriously, and in this measure above all others.

In some ways, INFPs’ tendency to hide their inner selves from view can be an advantage in parenting, as they are able to portray themselves as good role models on the outside, shielding their loved ones not just from their own occasional anger and depression, but from the broader evils in the world as well. This helps INFPs to demonstrate outwardly the moral lessons they want their children to adopt, and at the same time to establish a sense of harmony in the household.

Modest Doubt Is Called the Beacon of the Wise

The biggest challenge for INFP parents, especially more turbulent types who often have even more trouble with self-doubt than most, is to establish more practical and day-to-day structures and rules. INFPs may be able to convey the abstract value of honesty with remarkable skill, but it’s not always easy to equate that idea with the practical reality of their children being home from the movies when they said they were going to be, and it’s especially challenging when these misunderstandings result in conflict. In these situations, INFP personalities do best with a partner who is able to play a stronger hand in more administrative tasks than they can, so they can focus on the underlying spirit of those rules.

Allysa s.
3 years ago
These things are extremely creepily accurate... It's like they full understand me without even knowing me... Something's my friends don't know, they can tell me here! It's creepy yet amazing.
Jonathan V.
3 years ago
I'm don't actually want to have kids, but if I do, I'll definitely be this kind of parent. My mom was very authoritative, so I don't want to make the mistakes she did.
Cassandra
3 years ago
100% accurate
Paula
4 years ago
As the mother of many children, I can say this description fits me. I am almost stupidly reserved with almost everyone, but mushy and highly expressive with the kids. The children are the central focus of my life. People ask how someone with so many kids can be so calm. They simply have no idea of the smoldering volcano just under that misleading surface.
Catherine Tucker
4 years ago
Mostly true for me. I have struggled with depression for years, though, so I think that has dis-colored some of my parenting. Things are better right now, though, so this is very true at the current time. One thing not addressed here, and that I struggle with, is that I often look back as situations when I think maybe I should have been more directive and concerned about things than I was. It's all a learning curve, though...I think I do become a better parent as time goes by, as is true for most of us I am willing to bet. As an INFP parent I specifically enjoy projects with my kids. Right now we are working on redecorating a dollhouse. The kids (a girl and boy) at 8 and 5 years old, and this is something they are really enjoying.
kit
3 years ago
your point of always looking back and thinking i should have been more directive or concerned or approached/ handled a situation differently rings true to me. im only 16 and not a parent but im always doing this.
HeartAche
3 years ago
Hi Catherine!I am a similar parent, with depression and health issues.But believe me, although being a parent is I guess the only thing I have ever been, it is not as I planned it to be.I guess it's that constant fear of raising them perfectly and pushing my limits to be extremely efficient at it, that I over-stress, panic and loose my patience.I am in luck that my kids understand me along with my issues and don't bother to take my emotional outbursts seriously.I guess in the end parenting is all about love which maybe our kids do sense.Don't worry, we will improve gradually...with love and support :)
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