INFP Friends

The true friends of people with the INFP personality type tend to be few and far between, but those that make the cut are often friends for life. The challenge is the many dualities that this type harbors when it comes to being sociable – INFPs crave the depth of mutual human understanding, but tire easily in social situations; they are excellent at reading into others’ feelings and motivations, but are often unwilling to provide others the same insight into themselves – it’s as though INFPs like the idea of human contact, but not the reality of social contact.

INFP friends

How Poor Are They That Have Not Patience

In a lot of ways, this limits the potential pool of friends to other Diplomat types, who are able to pick up on the subtle clues left by their INFP friends, and who are more likely than not to enjoy something of a human enigma. A friendship with an ESTJ on the other hand, governed by social conventions and community participation as they are, would almost be a non-sequitur – though INFPs may find the idea of being paired with their opposite fascinating enough to outweigh the practical challenges to such a friendship.

To top it all off, ideas like networking and "the friend of my friend is my friend" hold little weight with INFPs. Friendships are earned on their own merit, by dint of the intuitive respect INFPs have for those with similar principles and values, rather than more practical alignments like those of coworkers. INFPs’ tendency to protect their sensitive inner cores and values from criticism, especially if they are on the more turbulent side of the spectrum, means that acquaintances will likely get nowhere near them without sustained and tactful effort.

But, if INFPs’ shields are properly navigated and they decide to open up and trust another person, a strong, stable friendship will ensue, marked by passionate support and idealism, subtle poetic wit, and a level of emotional insight that is hard to match. INFPs’ friends will be rewarded with calm, sensitivity and depth, and an ever-present desire to help, learn, and grow. But even the most confident and assertive INFPs will only be able to keep up this relaxed and present exterior for so long.

Even as friendships grow stronger and deeper, and friends are lulled into a sense of mutual understanding, INFPs’ enigmatic qualities will never truly vanish.

INFPs will always need to disappear for a while, removing themselves from others so they can re-center on their own minds and feelings. Often enough people with the INFP personality type will emerge from this time alone having come to some momentous decision that even their closest friends didn’t know was weighing on them, evading even the option of receiving the sort of support and advice they so readily give. Such is INFPs’ way, for better or for worse.

3 years ago
I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one with high expectations and a big imagination.I'm happy to see this because I thought I was well...... DIFFERENT (weird).
3 years ago
I love all of you who feel and think the same way I do!!! this is so amazing its one of the few moments I feel understood!
3 years ago
I feel like I always have really high expectations for myself and my friends but get over dramatic when they aren't met.
3 years ago
I hate it when someone criticizes you, even if it is to help you improve at something, and you take it so seriously. The worst part is when you cant talk about the stuff that you like because it feels like everyone is going to judge you for it. I'm into Lord of The Rings and all of my 'friends' think that its stupid and all the people in my class think the same thing. So its nice to know I'm not the only one :)
3 years ago
I am in a recovery mode right now. Some think that it is just a matter of days, for me it's months. My need for perfection in my life had become so strong it paralyzed me, and I went into hybernation mode. I am hoping that I can pull out of this soon as it can be agonizing for my family and I do my best to be social when my husband is off of work or my kids are home from college, but I am needing my time right now. It's not always like this. I live my life as a vibrant person at other times, but right now, I need this. It is a natural thing for me and I can't change it. People have asked if I should be on antidepressants but, I am not depressed. I just need a break.
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