INFJ Relationships

When it comes to romantic relationships, INFJs take the process of finding a partner seriously. Not ones for casual encounters, people with the INFJ personality type instead look for depth and meaning in their relationships. INFJs will take the time necessary to find someone they truly connect with – once they’ve found that someone, their relationships will reach a level of depth and sincerity that most people can only dream of.

INFJ romantic relationships

Getting to that point can sometimes be a challenge for potential partners, especially if they are the impatient type, as INFJs are often perfectionistic and picky. People with this personality type aren’t easily talked into something they don’t want, and if someone doesn’t pick up on that, it’s a trespass that is unlikely to be forgiven, particularly in the early stages of dating. Even worse is if a suitor tries to resort to manipulation or lying, as INFJs will see right through it, and if there’s anything they have a poor tolerance for in a relationship, it is inauthenticity.

Is This for Real?

One of the things INFJs find most important is establishing genuine, deep connections with the people they care about.

INFJs will go out of their way to seek out people who share their desire for authenticity, and out of their way to avoid those who don’t, especially when looking for a partner. All that being said, INFJs often have the advantage of desirability – they are warm, friendly, caring and insightful, seeing past facades and the obvious to understand others’ thoughts and emotions.

INFJs are enthusiastic in their relationships, and there is a sense of wisdom behind their spontaneity, allowing them to pleasantly surprise their partners again and again. INFJs aren’t afraid to show their love, and they feel it unconditionally, creating a depth to the relationship that can hardly be described in conventional terms. Relationships with INFJs are not for the uncommitted or the shallow.

When it comes to intimacy, INFJs look for a connection that goes beyond the physical, embracing the emotional and even spiritual connection they have with their partner. People with the INFJ personality type are passionate partners, and see intimacy as a way to express their love and to make their partners happy. INFJs cherish not just the act of being in a relationship, but what it means to become one with another person, in mind, body and soul.

Jessica A.
3 years ago
this is so accurate about relationships!! my hubby and I are both INFJs and we both waited forever to find each other, and when we did, it was instantly a connection that was hard to describe, we connect so deeply without needing words, and we've raised an INFJ family of three now as a perfect team couple. I am proudly and happily married for 23 years now!
3 years ago
Yay :) hope I have the same luck
Temeca Smith
3 years ago
I have found that some people come to me because they feel I can see into things they can't. Right now I have to friends that I am counseling. They want me to tell them things they already know but they just need to hear it out loud. It’s just confirming what they already know. Sometimes it’s articulating something they can't articulate for themselves.
3 years ago
I Agree, My fiancé is also an INFJ like me and we are in the most amazing relationship either of us has ever had. We're engaged, we connect with each other on such a natural and DEEP level none of my previous gfs ever did... it's like we both simply understand each other without even needing to think, this website is so true, and I am so darn proud to be an INFJ and be in love with another INFJ!!!
3 years ago
I am an INFJ and this really described my approach to relationships. I am lucky enough to have found a wonderful partner that I can love without reservations :). He is an INTP and we make a perfect match. One reason that I think we work so well is because at the start of the relationship he had the patience to allow our relationship to build slowly,. He also was able to listen and understand me, and we had many discussions about how trust takes time to build, how we won't play games in our relationship or be fake, and were able to form a really deep bond and understanding. It is so freeing and wonderful to be able to show my partner how much I love him, without worrying about stupid things like "trying to make him jealous" or "making him uncertain of my affection" that so many of my friends insist on playing with their partners. I can just be free to love him and know he loves me, and we appreciate that we are together every single day. Sorry if this sounded sappy, but as an INFJ it is so important for me that I had been able to find someone who was willing to slowly build that kind of relationship with me. As a partner for my fellow INFJs I fully recommend the INTPs. They have the imagination to follow any of your thoughts, are open minded and enthusiastic enough to consider all you have to say, and they also don't like playing games with people. Only thing to keep in mind is that they are not as emotionally attuned to others, and it is very important to clarify when they seem to be insensitive, rather than getting hurt. That is why it is important to build the relationship slowly. My partner and I are at the stage that I am sure enough of his love for me that if he says something I consider as insensitive, rather than internalizing it and getting secretly hurt, I am able to stop and think about what he really meant, or explain to him that it hurt me and ask for clarification. I would not be able to handle that if I was not 100% sure of his love, and that he absolutely adores me.
3 years ago
Crazy accurate! Wow...
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