INFJ Friends

There is a running theme with INFJs, and that is a yearning for authenticity and sincerity – in their activities, their romantic relationships, and their friendships. People with the INFJ personality type are unlikely to go for friendships of circumstance, like workplace social circles or chatting up their local baristas, where the only thing they really have in common is a day-to-day familiarity. Rather, INFJs seek out people who share their passions, interests and ideologies, people with whom they can explore philosophies and subjects that they believe are truly meaningful.

INFJ friends

Closed Book and Speed Reader

From the start, it can be a challenge to get to know INFJs, as they are very private, even enigmatic. INFJs don’t readily share their thoughts and feelings, not unless they are comfortable, and since those thoughts and feelings are the basis for INFJ friendships, it can take time and persistence to get to know them. Meanwhile, INFJs are very insightful and have a particular knack for seeing beyond others’ facades, interpreting intent and compatibility quickly and easily, and weeding out those who don’t share the depth of their idealism.

In friendship it is as though INFJs are searching for a soul mate, someone who shares every facet of their passions and imagination.

INFJs are often perfectionistic, looking for ultimate compatibility, and yet also look for someone with whom they can grow and improve in tandem. Needless to say, this is a tall order, and INFJs should try to remember that they are a particularly rare personality type, and even if they find someone compatible in that sense, the odds that they will also share every interest are slim. If they don’t learn to meet others halfway and recognize that the kind of self-improvement and depth they demand is simply exhausting for many types, INFJs are likely end up abandoning healthy friendships in their infancy, in search of more perfect compatibilities.

Like Finding a Needle in a Haystack

Further complicating things are INFJs’ eloquence and persuasiveness, which lead to a lot of (unwanted) attention and popularity. Their quiet, determined idealism and imaginative expression naturally draw influence, and if there’s anything INFJs avoid, it’s the accumulation of power over others – and the people who are drawn to that type of power. INFJs will find themselves more sought after than they’d ever care to be, making it even more difficult for them to find someone they truly have an affinity with. Really the only way to be counted among INFJs’ true friends is to be authentic, and to have that authenticity naturally reflect their own.

Once a common thread is found though, people with the INFJ personality type make loyal and supportive companions, encouraging growth and life-enriching experiences with warmth, excitement and care. As trust grows, INFJs will share more of what lies beneath the surface, and if those ideas and motives are mutual, it’s the sort of friendship that will transcend time and distance, lasting a lifetime. INFJs don’t require a great deal of day-to-day attention – for them, quality trumps quantity every time, and over the years they will likely end up with just a few true friendships, built on a richness of mutual understanding that forges an indelible link between them.

Kaylyn P
3 years ago
I am 15 and I had to take this test for my health class. And yeah, it is scary accurate. I've always wondered why I'm the "freak" of my friend groups, I'm just in a 1%. My health teacher was going around guessing who was and extrovert and who was an introvert and he thought I was an extrovert.
3 years ago
Welcome to the club! We've all been mistaken as quiet extraverts... when in reality, we are outspoken introverts.
3 years ago
Wow... This fits perfectly! I'm still looking for a friend though... I feel like no one ever gets me! I'm afraid I'll never find this person...
3 years ago
I AGREE! I only have few friends.. But I know they are true to me so do I to them.. I chose my friends, looking for that connection, but Im not particular with mutual habits we should share, as long as we could connect beyond.. I want friendship that lasts with time and distance. oppsss.. i kind of messed up with the auto spell in my phonee.. haha.
3 years ago
I AGREE! I only have a few friends.. But I know they are true stories o do I to them.. I chose my friends, looking for that connection, but Im not particular with mutual habits we should share, as long as we could connect beyond.. I want friendship that lasts with time and distance
3 years ago
When I saw the result of this test, all the pieces of the puzzle came into place. They fit into the puzzle gaps and it was complete, and I was so astonished by the fact that it's like all these words were like telling the story of me. Before, I was trying to 'fit in' and 'act like the others' because, well, I 'thought' i was lonely. But when I got what I wanted, I made friends and even close friends, I wasn't really happy at all. It's like I'm aware of the things I know even they are not aware of. Sometimes I just avoid them because I'm scared of judging them. Everyday it's like I'm judging them and criticizing their every move in my mind and that was like I'm a bad person and I feel guilt rushing through me. And so I did try to just be civil and respect my fellow classmates. You would see me in the room, quiet, sometimes talking with someone i'm comfortable with, avoiding the center, and definitely just trying to have good grades. But I wasn't exactly happy that way though. I feel as though I'm alone in mind, I had a different kind of thinking from everybody else. So yeah. Reading this changed my perspective. :)
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