People with the ENTJ personality type (Commanders) tend to approach dating and relationships with a set of goals and a plan to achieve them, and they proceed to do so with impressive energy and enthusiasm. These personalities are in it to win and will gladly take leading roles in relationships from the start, assuming personal responsibility for how smoothly things go and working actively to ensure a mutually rewarding experience. Romantic relationships are a serious business, and ENTJs are in it for the long haul.
Taking the Lead
This sense of personal responsibility means that they put a lot of energy into their relationships, and they show their creativity by always having something new on the agenda to keep things interesting, especially in the dating phase. At the same time though, ENTJ personalities keep their eyes on the long term, and if they determine that a relationship is heading toward a dead end, they perhaps too easily cut their losses and move on in what will seem to their partner an abrupt end to the attention they had been receiving.
This occasional ruthlessness with personal relationships is ENTJs’ primary weakness, and if these personalities aren’t careful, they can develop quite the reputation. Sensing others’ feelings and emotions will never be a comfortable skill for them, but it is critical that they work consciously to develop it, both for their partner’s sake and for their own healthy emotional expression. If they don’t, they risk dominating and overruling their partner, and this insensitivity can easily break a relationship, especially early on.
But if all goes well in the dating phase and a future is deemed viable, people with the ENTJ personality type continue to impress with their creativity and energy. They are known to bring out the best in their partner, pushing them to achieve their dreams and aspirations. Their ambitious nature often fuels their partner’s ambitions as well, creating a power-couple dynamic.
Being extremely growth-oriented themselves, ENTJs also love to improve and evolve in their relationships. They tend to listen to and act on their partner’s criticisms, so long as they are logical ones, and they are always striving to become the best version of themselves – for both their own good and the good of their partner. It can be surprising to these personalities – and perhaps bad news for their relationship – if their partner doesn’t share this desire to grow.
That being said, people with this personality type would do well to remember that their approach is just one angle of a multifaceted spectrum of alternatives. While they may view criticism as the most efficient route (and they’re often right), they should bear in mind that their partner may be more interested in a more emotional form of support and growth, an area of self-improvement that ENTJs themselves too often avoid.
Mature ENTJs are able to recognize and adapt to the needs of their partner and know that even the most rational individuals still have emotional needs that must be met. Fortunately, the same logic that dismisses emotions is also able to recognize that a conciliatory attitude can be the best tool to get the job done. With their strong senses of responsibility and dedication, people with the ENTJ personality type are sure to make this effort, resulting in long-lasting, satisfying relationships.