As in other areas of their lives, ENTJs approach dating and relationships with a set of goals and a plan to achieve them, and proceed to do so with impressive energy and enthusiasm. People with the ENTJ personality type are in it to win, and will gladly take leading roles in relationships from the start, assuming personal responsibility for how smoothly things go and working actively to ensure a mutually rewarding experience. Romantic relationships are a serious business, and ENTJs are in it for the long haul.
We Cannot Succeed Unless, When We Choose, We Choose Wisely
This sense of personal responsibility means that ENTJs put a lot of energy into their relationships, and they show their creativity by always having something new on the agenda to keep things interesting, especially in the dating phase. At the same time though, ENTJ personalities keep their eyes on the long term, and if they determine that a relationship is heading towards a dead end, they will cut their losses and move on in what will seem to their partner an abrupt end to the attention they had been receiving.
This occasional ruthlessness with personal relationships is ENTJs’ primary weakness, and if they aren’t careful they can develop quite the reputation. Sensing others’ feelings and emotions will never be a comfortable skill for ENTJs, but it is critical that they work consciously to develop it, both for their partners’ sake and for their own healthy emotional expression. If they don’t, they risk dominating and overruling their partners, and this insensitivity can easily break a relationship, especially early on.
Confidence Thrives on Unselfish Performance
But as all goes well in the dating phase and a future is deemed viable, people with the ENTJ personality type continue to impress with their creativity and energy. Their authentic confidence makes ENTJs’ sex life dynamic to say the least, and they often push to explore new ways to express their affection with imaginative enthusiasm. Yet ENTJs tend to have these innovations planned in advance, with some structure and predictability to their sex lives, leaving the true spontaneity to those less organized personality types.
ENTJs are extremely growth-oriented, and will seize any opportunity to improve themselves, listening to and acting on criticisms, so long as they are logical ones, and always striving to improve their knowledge. At the same time, ENTJs expect this of their partners, and it is surprising to them that others, especially Feeling (F) types, don’t always share this attitude. Still more surprising to ENTJ personalities is others’ active efforts to avoid these tense situations.
ENTJs in particular would do well to remember that their approach is just one angle of a multi-faceted spectrum of alternatives. While ENTJs may view criticism as the most efficient route (and they’re often right), they should bear in mind that their partners may be more interested in emotional support and growth, an area of self-improvement that ENTJs themselves too often avoid.
As with other Analyst types, ENTJs’ best matches are with other Intuitive (N) types, with one or two opposing traits to create more balance in the relationship. Mature ENTJs are able to recognize and adapt to the needs of their partners, and know that even the most rational individuals have emotional needs that must be met. Fortunately the same logic that dismisses emotions is also able to recognize that a conciliatory attitude can be the best tool to get the job done. With their strong senses of responsibility and dedication, people with the ENTJ personality type are sure to make this effort, resulting in long-lasting, satisfying relationships.