It’s Hard for an Advocate (INFJ) to Truly Love Their Work Without…

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There are lots of reasons why you might like your job – you’re treated well, you enjoy your coworkers, the pay is good, etc. But truly loving what you do for a living usually requires a deeper connection with the work itself. Sometimes that connection is based on your unique life experience, but often it relates to your personality type. If a job lacks certain elements that align with your trait-based needs and preferences, it may not ever truly satisfy you on a deep level.

But hold on – let’s not let idealized visions wreck a perfectly good thing. In truth, if you’ve got a decent-paying job in a positive environment, you’re doing great! You don’t necessarily need your work to be a source of deep soul satisfaction – there’s room elsewhere in life for that, right? Sometimes work is more about being pragmatic.

On the other hand, you’re an Advocate (INFJ) personality type, and visualizing the ideal is like breathing for you. You can act pragmatically when you must, but you can’t stop your mind from seeking grandness – or from being nagged by a sense of emptiness when things aren’t good enough. Understanding what can really fulfill you in your work life is a double-edged sword – but a valuable one. Yes, it might give rise to some dissatisfaction, but without having an ideal to strive for, how far will you progress?

So, without losing sight of practical realities or devaluing your past or current work, let’s consider what’s likely to be essential for an Advocate to be truly happy in their work.

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Critical Elements for Work Happiness

To uncover what can truly make you happy, it’s important to understand the mechanics of your personality. As an Advocate, you strive to have a sense of purpose. Your Judging trait indicates a value for structure, completion, and certainty. You share with other Judging personalities an inner desire to shape circumstances, achieve specific goals, and see things done properly – yet all personality types are unique, and so is your way of working.

For one thing, it’s constantly fueled by imagination – and not always in the form of useful practicality. You can set about a clearly defined, basic task with focus, and before long, your mind will be branching off into countless inspired what-ifs, from how things might turn out to creative ideas for how to accomplish them. You’re not content to accept things for their mundane surface – instead, you’re always searching out deeper dimensions of possibility.

Advocate personalities also tend to be sensitive to emotion. In fact, the emotional overtones of your work can be a significant influence on your motivation, ability, and focus. You probably blaze in a positive, supportive work environment and feel attacked by a negative, disrespectful one. And your relationships with people have a powerful influence – work-related bonds are a source of strength because they create positive emotions that give you energy and bring out your best side.

One aspect of that best side is your compassionate altruism. Everyone has a healthy inner desire for self-benefit, and it’s often good to prioritize what’s best for you. Yet, as an Advocate, you like seeing the best in people – and rewarding it. Sure, you’re as capable of anger and judgment as any personality type (maybe more than some when it comes to judgment), but nothing makes you happier than being kind and generous when it’s deserved.

So to sum up the above points, you like to achieve specific outcomes, are driven to seek deeper meaning in everything, derive joy and energy from positive relationships, and feel an intense reward from helping worthy people. In other words, your work probably won’t be truly fulfilling for you unless you can create positive connections and do some good. But what does that look like in real life, at work?

Getting What You Need at Work

You can start by recognizing that the kind of positive connections that will truly satisfy you in your work can take many forms and come from different sources. They could come from the nature of your work itself – for example, a business where the main activity has a direct, positive impact on people. Things like teaching, health care, or even more technical services like cleaning, household maintenance, or auto repair are examples of helping others in essential ways.

Feeling like you’re serving an important, positive purpose in people’s lives can provide a deep sense of reward in your work. And it doesn’t always have to be stereotypically laudable work like fighting fires either – sometimes the greatest hero in someone’s day is a plumber who’ll cheerfully come out on a Saturday night. That beloved, heroic plumber could be you, dear Advocate.

You can also create that needed feeling of positive, impactful purpose in the way that you do your work, even if it isn’t as much about delivering an essential benefit. The things that people value aren’t necessarily what they need, but it can still feel deeply fulfilling to provide them. For example, dining out may technically be a luxury, but food is a way to touch people and bring them joy. Maybe you sling the tastiest street tacos out of a tiny stand, your soul feasting on the reactions that you get from people loving your food.

Even industries that might make many people groan still allow you to find ways to connect with others and do some good. A lot of that depends on how generous you can afford to be with your time and energy. Even when you’re in the bowels of a mundane industry, you can still let your Advocate-ness shine through. Often, that just means giving people sincere respect and attention and making sure that they understand that at least one person – you – thinks that they and their needs matter.

When you make someone feel heard and valued, it can have a surprisingly powerful impact, and all the more so when it comes from an unexpected source. Maybe you’re a corporate manager who cares more about people’s well-being than the bottom line (you rebel, you!) or a helpful customer service worker who always does their best to fix people’s problems. Options abound for how you can seek to imbue your work with deeper meaning that satisfies your soul.

Conclusion: Creative Structure

If the above sounds trite, it might be a sign that you need to explore ways to connect with a positive purpose in your work. It’s all too easy to become cynical about the modern working world (because it sometimes has outrageous aspects) or to find that very real pressures and concerns take center stage (like job security and income). But deep down, you were meant for more than that. Your mind is full of hopes and dreams, and your heart wants to fulfill some deeper purpose.

Why not try to marry the necessities of real life with your desire for something grander? You don’t necessarily need to switch career tracks to find a deeply fulfilling sense of reward in your work – sometimes that sense of meaning starts with a self-created construct or belief. As an Advocate personality type, following your ideals is deeply satisfying, and with a little imagination, you may find ways to do so where you are, doing what you already do.

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This helps me to understand why it was so soul-crushing for me to work under a group of narcissistic administrators later in my career. As an English teacher, I had been dedicated to learning all I could about literacy through my career by taking classes, experimenting in the classroom to find what works the very best, professional reading, etc. This group took over and aggressively silenced veteran teachers as they implemented programs and gave directives that they hoped would give themselves fame and glory. When some of these directives went against everything most anyone should know about literacy, I tried to speak up. I was punished from all angles. No one else dared to speak up because of the atmosphere of fear. I spend the last 10 years feeling like I was trying to do what I could while handcuffed and muzzled from a cage. I realized how important imagination and creativity were to me, how they inspired and moved me to succeed. I couldn’t use problem-solving skills to seek best solutions. I couldn’t push myself beyond strict boundaries to find new ways to achieve anymore. Instead I lived with the daily shaming and having to reject all the ideas I had to fix problems and improve things. (I’m talking about directives like being told I wasn’t allowed to teach reading in English class, only writing. Being told English and social studies classes would be combined for double the size and time, giving us 50 kids who couldn’t sit still in a room too small. It was made clear we could not give feedback or suggestions unless they supported their vision, which wasn’t shared clearly with those of us who were supposed to be implementing it. We had to take it upon ourselves to drag the work out of kids who refused to do it and keep teaching and testing individuals until they passed. Since that wasn’t feasible, we had to make everything sickeningly easy and take away challenges to push kids. Deadlines weren’t allowed. All things I believe set kids up to fail in college and life. It all went against my integrity, and I felt a gnawing sickness inside every day I had to do it all. ) It was clear that many of my colleagues were able to roll their eyes and give up. They could look at it like “just a job” and go through the motions. But to me it was about doing my very best to prepare people’s kids for life. It ate away at my heart and soul. Until I found this article, I couldn’t understand why I couldn’t let it go as my colleagues could. Now I realize how this environment was so much more difficult for me than it was for many others. Not just because of the work, I should mention, but also because of the shaming and silencing. I wanted so much to collaborate and work with my leaders, to share the challenges we were seeing in the trenches so we could iron them out together. Although they preached and commanded us to develop relationships with students, they rejected anyone who wanted an authentic work relationship. They sought people who would build up their egos and shower them with simple admiration and intentionally shamed anyone else. That, of course, led to division, which also repelled my personality type. Although I value justice, I can only be happy when everyone else is happy too. I strive to collaborate until we all feel valued and heard, but that was not possible. I appreciate your research so much. Understanding myself has helped immensely as I try to move forward and heal.
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Adopting the idea from Earl Nightingale, "Treat every person you meet as if they are the most important person in the world," has worked wonders in my career, personal life, and even in my day job I must keep until my business can support me. Every time ANY person approaches me now--from my hubby to another customer at the retail store--I turn the full power of my attention on them and think to myself in the moment, "THIS is the most important person in the world." The response is unbelievable. People are so used to only ever being given just half attention if that! So giving your absolute full attention and assuming an approach of reverence and love for each person is yielding even more remarkable results than I normally got anyway being my people-loving INFJ self. No matter WHAT work you do, how "menial" or pointless you think it may be, try this and watch it ROCK your world at work--and home, too. You will start to get all kinds of recognition and rewards, too. And meaning? This approach will remove all doubt that no matter what work you do, you can change the world, starting with that next person who approaches you. You change their world and make a lasting impression!
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This explains why the job for which I felt most suited was warranty coordinator for a builder. Most people hate the job because people only call to complain. But I was able to explain, comfort, help solve issues. I loved it.
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This article is so timely for me, thank you so much. I don't necessarily have to change my profession that am planning to leave, I just need to find what I connect more with.
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Thank you for offering well thought out, practical advice. This article is right on point and covered every aspect, including my position as a corporate supervisor. I have definitely struggled in this position as my department is large with 6 other supervisors, two managers and one director. My counterpart supervisor who trained me is much younger, very bubbly and way more energetic to the point of annoying. My manager is also younger and less mature than myself. They both have left me out, talked behind my back until it came back full circle. I stuck it out of two years and now I’m finally getting some notice from upper management. I DO feel like the rebel as I have a desire to use my authority to lift people and bring positive feelings about the department. While other management abuse the authority. Now I will study how to be “the rebel” and succeed. Thank you!