INFP relationships and dating

INFP personalities are extremely loyal and faithful. They are romantic idealists who can spend an extraordinary amount of time daydreaming about the perfect relationship, where harmony and warmth are abundant. Looking for a dating partner or nurturing an existing relationship is always one of the key goals for an INFP, and this pure passion is one of their most attractive traits.

One of the main issues faced by INFPs is that they gravitate toward putting their partners on an imaginary pedestal, both when they are still dating and even later in the relationship. In other words, INFPs tend to idealize and romanticize their (sometimes long-awaited) partners, assigning them unrealistic traits. This happens because INFPs are often so focused on the ideals of romance and love that when love finally knocks on their door, it becomes difficult to separate imagination from reality.

INFP_2That being said, this is not necessarily a bad thing, provided that the INFP is mature enough to recognize and address these tendencies. As their imagination is so rich and vivid, INFPs can always come up with new ways to surprise their partner and improve the relationship. This is especially useful when the INFP is dating. However, they should make sure that this does not become an obstacle or a burden. Not many types can cope with the unrelenting stream of the INFP’s ideas, especially if the relationship is still in its early stages. The INFP will do their best to help their partner grow and develop, although this may not always be appreciated.

An INFP’s love is deep and sincere, manifesting in unrelenting support and affection. People with this personality type will also do everything they can to avoid conflict, which can also contribute to the stability of the relationship. As long as their partner is willing to reciprocate and make conscious efforts to resolve disagreements calmly and peacefully, the INFP’s love will endure all tests of time. It is doubtful that someone with the INFP personality type will be jealous or overbearing—quite the opposite. An INFP is likely to trust their partner and respect their independence.

Despite their best efforts, the INFP’s opposition to any kind of criticism or conflict can cause problems in their relationships. This is especially relevant if their partner belongs to a Thinking (T) or Judging (J) type as their traits inevitably push them toward rational, impersonal comments or conclusions. The INFP may find it very difficult to examine those ideas objectively without internalizing them and thinking that something must be their fault.

INFPs are prone to reacting to stressful situations very emotionally, as if their entire value system is being threatened. They may also resort to guilt-tripping or irrational accusations. It is really important that people with this personality type develop their ability to take criticism calmly and objectively. INFPs’ imagination can easily come up with many different negative ideas and assumptions – this should be prevented at all costs.

When it comes to intimacy, INFPs are more likely to focus on satisfying the needs of their dating or long-term partner as opposed to putting their own pleasure first. People with this personality type will not rush to sexual intimacy. They will study their dating partner, get to know them really well, and only then consider moving on to the next stage of the relationship. That being said, INFPs are likely to get a lot of pleasure from intimacy as sexual acts will give them an excellent opportunity to express their love.

Recommended partners: ENFJ and ENTJ types, as their Extraversion (E) and Judging (J) traits counterbalance INFPs’ Introversion (I) and Prospecting (P) traits.

If you would like to learn more about how INFPs can get better at starting and maintaining healthy romantic relationships, including advice aimed at specific personality type combinations, download the INFP In-Depth Profile – a 60+ page guide covering a number of diverse topics. If you are single, you might also want to take a look at our Dating section.

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21 Responses to “INFP relationships and dating”

  1. vanya Reply

    “The INFP will do their best to help their partner grow and develop, although this may not always be appreciated.”
    really true and happened to me