INFP Personality (“The Mediator”)

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

INFP personalityBeing a part of the Diplomat (NF) personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Famous INFPs

William Shakespeare
J.R.R. Tolkien
Johnny Depp
Julia Roberts
Lisa Kudrow
Tom Hiddleston

Fictional INFPs

“Frodo Baggins” from The Lord of the Rings
“Anne of Green Gables”
“Fox Mulder” from X-Files
“Deanna Troi” from Star Trek
“Wesley Crusher” from Star Trek


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May 25, 2015 01:30:52
I am a 15 year old boy in a high pressured school and find myself constantly distressed by the work classes and homework Im faced with. I often see no point behind the work and its not useful or helpful to me and end up not doing it or doing it not wholeheartedly and the whole system is very stressful and exhausting to me. I love drawing and creating things and I wish I could be more independent and spend my time how I know would benefit me the most. My social status is complicated because people view me as a happy kid who knows what he is doing when in actuality I feel incredibly misunderstood I think mostly due to the fact that I have not established one relationship that is deep and personal enough to fulfill me whether that be with my family friends or partner. Hoping someone can relate
May 22, 2015 03:59:03
Although some of this makes sense to me, I've always fewlt different than others and rarely understood, I've never been good with expressing myself via metaphors and fictional charatcters, but from what I've heard, I am still goof at expressing myself through written word.
May 21, 2015 17:43:36
Before i took this personally test thought i was going to be aloe, but it seems like I'm not
May 21, 2015 15:27:37
An 15 year old INFP girl from the Philippines here.
It's surprised me that the reason why I felt like an outsider in my circle of friends is because I belong in a personality group that only comprises of 4% of the population. And the fact that they feel complete when they meet somebody of the same personality type as them really applies to me a lot. It's good to see that despite the inability to do socializing, we've been blessed with a way with words. Being an INFP fills me with pride in a way
May 20, 2015 18:27:07
Whenever I want to understand how I do things, I come back to this page. It is amazing how well it describes me.