INFJ relationships

When it comes to romantic relationships, INFJs take the process of finding a partner seriously. Not ones for casual encounters, INFJs instead look for depth and meaning in their relationships. INFJs will take the time necessary to find someone they truly connect with – once they’ve found that someone, their relationships will reach a level of depth and sincerity that most people can only dream of.

INFJGetting to that point can sometimes be a challenge for potential partners, especially if they are the impatient type, as INFJs are often perfectionistic and picky. INFJs aren’t easily talked into something they don’t want, and if someone doesn’t pick up on that, it’s a trespass that is unlikely to be forgiven, particularly in the early stages of dating. Even worse is if a suitor tries to resort to manipulation or lying, as INFJs will see right through it, and if there’s anything they have a poor tolerance for in a relationship, it is inauthenticity.

One of the things INFJs find most important is establishing real, deep connections with the people they care about, and they will go out of their way to seek out people who share that attitude, and out of their way to avoid those who don’t, especially when looking for a partner. All that being said, INFJs often have the advantage of desirability – they are warm, friendly, caring and insightful, seeing past facades and the obvious to understand others’ thoughts and emotions.

INFJs are enthusiastic in their relationships, and there is a sense of wisdom behind their spontaneity, allowing them to pleasantly surprise their partners again and again. INFJs aren’t afraid to show their love, and they feel it unconditionally, creating a depth to the relationship that can hardly be described in everyday terms. Relationships with INFJs are not for the uncommitted or the shallow.

When it comes to intimacy, INFJs look for a connection that goes beyond the physical, embracing the emotional and even spiritual connection they have with their partner. INFJs are passionate partners, and see intimacy as a way to express their love and to make their partners happy. INFJs cherish not just the act of being in a relationship, but what it means to become one with another person, in mind, body and soul.



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May 21, 2014 20:55:59
As an INFJ in her 5th decade, all I can say about INFJ relationships (romantic or not) is to take "me" out of the picture.

Whenever "me" became too big (overthinking my part in it), I'd get stuck in an emotional loop.

Our intuition and ability to handle situations is better when we are not too concerned about self. Make sense??
May 19, 2014 22:12:11
What helps for me is to not try to find my "better half." Instead, I see and love them for the whole person that they are that can complement me, even if they don't always "get me." My guy doesn't always get me, and yet he tells me over and over that I am one of the most amazing people that he knows. Since I think he is pretty amazing in his extroverted way [no idea of his type], this works for us in incredible ways. I show him how deep intimacy and love can be, and he makes me laugh and reminds me to be in the present.
May 09, 2014 13:08:47
It's so odd yet relieving to read this article and the comments, I guess I'm not alone in this world! It has always been very hard to me to find a girlfriend, I have been always looking for "the special one", who would understand me.
May 22, 2014 02:48:58
Try the Dating tab at the top of this site. Nothing to lose...
Apr 25, 2014 06:21:46
Well, I always get an INFJ personality. Well, somehow being the most rare personality is a good news, but unfortunately it's kinda make me feel alone. But thanks God I always try to think that I'm rare and that's the unique point! Well, maybe that's why I always broke up with my bf because I never feel fit with them at all.
Apr 07, 2014 22:34:25
I'm in a relationship with an ISTJ. It's been a little rough. I am a perfectionist, my mom is/was a perfectionist (unapologetic). She was extremely hard on my brother who still resents her for it to this day. My mom (and I) are always correcting people's english as well. I feel that I am a little hard on my kids but I am also extremely loving (physically and verbally) which my mom wasn't. Hopefully that makes up for it!