INFJ relationships

When it comes to romantic relationships, INFJs take the process of finding a partner seriously. Not ones for casual encounters, people with the INFJ personality type instead look for depth and meaning in their relationships. INFJs will take the time necessary to find someone they truly connect with – once they’ve found that someone, their relationships will reach a level of depth and sincerity that most people can only dream of.

INFJ relationshipsGetting to that point can sometimes be a challenge for potential partners, especially if they are the impatient type, as INFJs are often perfectionistic and picky. People with this personality type aren’t easily talked into something they don’t want, and if someone doesn’t pick up on that, it’s a trespass that is unlikely to be forgiven, particularly in the early stages of dating. Even worse is if a suitor tries to resort to manipulation or lying, as INFJs will see right through it, and if there’s anything they have a poor tolerance for in a relationship, it is inauthenticity.

Is This For Real?

One of the things INFJs find most important is establishing genuine, deep connections with the people they care about.

INFJs will go out of their way to seek out people who share their desire for authenticity, and out of their way to avoid those who don’t, especially when looking for a partner. All that being said, INFJs often have the advantage of desirability – they are warm, friendly, caring and insightful, seeing past facades and the obvious to understand others’ thoughts and emotions.

INFJs are enthusiastic in their relationships, and there is a sense of wisdom behind their spontaneity, allowing them to pleasantly surprise their partners again and again. INFJs aren’t afraid to show their love, and they feel it unconditionally, creating a depth to the relationship that can hardly be described in conventional terms. Relationships with INFJs are not for the uncommitted or the shallow.

When it comes to intimacy, INFJs look for a connection that goes beyond the physical, embracing the emotional and even spiritual connection they have with their partner. People with the INFJ personality type are passionate partners, and see intimacy as a way to express their love and to make their partners happy. INFJs cherish not just the act of being in a relationship, but what it means to become one with another person, in mind, body and soul.

Strengths & Weaknesses


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Sep 18, 2014 09:16:15
second test, definitely INFJ. once i fell in love, but he thought he couldnt measure up to my ideals. the second time, i thought finally! someone who gets me, one with me, shares the same vision with me. and then he didn't follow through. and that hurt deep. sigh. the realities of an INFJ. I actually felt like crying when i read through the INFJ personality and i'm glad to see some of the 1%s in here. :) now where's that INFJ club?
Sep 16, 2014 04:00:20
Haha! I now see why I have been single for 8 years! Lol
Sep 15, 2014 16:52:06
I'm a INFJ and I nlike how these questions are like exactly what I was looking for. Too bad I'll never get a gf. I am a relaxed guy and very emotional and all that. People just don't see it because I never show it. I can be nervous around people and yeah my social life is depressing :(
Sep 16, 2014 11:23:52
90% of INTJ's understand, and are also in similar situations, myself included.
Sep 15, 2014 05:21:56
I've always considered myself kind of misanthropic; i.e. *most* people annoy me, especially the materialistic type. On the other hand, I'm altruistic; i.e. I know that people become who they are because of their sociological factors, so I forgive them for being "uninteresting, selfish and annoying;" hope that doesn't sound too mean.

If you lookup "misanthrope" "altruist," you get "narcissist," which I wouldn't really consider an appropriate label...

As silly as it sounds, I guess I'd consider myself a hippie-hermit. If you love peace and quiet, nature, animals, etc., you're fine by me - let's be friends. Otherwise... well, I probably wouldn't like you, hahaha; i.e. I hate cellphone zombies with a passion!

Unfortunately, I rarely find like-minded people, so "loner" comes to mind.
Sep 15, 2014 02:25:49
I'm an INFJ, and I feel like relationships are really tricky. I've been in a couple of serious ones, dated around, loved deeply, broke hearts and had my heart broken. Sometimes I feel like I'm just not made for relationships, even though I've been the romantic type since I was a little girl. Intuition has helped me see through liars and people who aren't as connected with me as I want to be with them. Although lately, as I've been trying to focus on myself and my goals I've realized that it might not be all bad living my life alone. I want someone to love, and I've always loved with my whole being, but maybe there's more to life than being with someone else. I've realized that loving yourself and being happy with who you are is the most important thing you can do in the end. We are so rare, and I'm so happy to see that there are others who feel the same as I do when it comes to blending in, and still feeling out of place in this world.