INFJ relationships

When it comes to romantic relationships, INFJs take the process of finding a partner seriously. Not ones for casual encounters, people with the INFJ personality type instead look for depth and meaning in their relationships. INFJs will take the time necessary to find someone they truly connect with – once they’ve found that someone, their relationships will reach a level of depth and sincerity that most people can only dream of.

INFJ relationshipsGetting to that point can sometimes be a challenge for potential partners, especially if they are the impatient type, as INFJs are often perfectionistic and picky. People with this personality type aren’t easily talked into something they don’t want, and if someone doesn’t pick up on that, it’s a trespass that is unlikely to be forgiven, particularly in the early stages of dating. Even worse is if a suitor tries to resort to manipulation or lying, as INFJs will see right through it, and if there’s anything they have a poor tolerance for in a relationship, it is inauthenticity.

Is This For Real?

One of the things INFJs find most important is establishing genuine, deep connections with the people they care about.

INFJs will go out of their way to seek out people who share their desire for authenticity, and out of their way to avoid those who don’t, especially when looking for a partner. All that being said, INFJs often have the advantage of desirability – they are warm, friendly, caring and insightful, seeing past facades and the obvious to understand others’ thoughts and emotions.

INFJs are enthusiastic in their relationships, and there is a sense of wisdom behind their spontaneity, allowing them to pleasantly surprise their partners again and again. INFJs aren’t afraid to show their love, and they feel it unconditionally, creating a depth to the relationship that can hardly be described in conventional terms. Relationships with INFJs are not for the uncommitted or the shallow.

When it comes to intimacy, INFJs look for a connection that goes beyond the physical, embracing the emotional and even spiritual connection they have with their partner. People with the INFJ personality type are passionate partners, and see intimacy as a way to express their love and to make their partners happy. INFJs cherish not just the act of being in a relationship, but what it means to become one with another person, in mind, body and soul.

Strengths & Weaknesses


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Oct 29, 2014 16:06:39
I often feel as if I am just a receptacle for other people's problems. They dump them all onto me, expect advice, but they usually don't follow it, and before I could share any of my concerns with them, they move on. X.X
Oct 25, 2014 12:11:13
It's EXACTLY me. My boyfriend was shocked reading this!
Oct 24, 2014 20:29:18
So that's why I'm so picky when it comes to relationships. Always trying to find that right girl. All of these things are so accurate. 1% awesomeness!
Oct 24, 2014 04:04:52
I am a psychiatric nurse. I am an INFJ. I listen and talk to my patients . It is about them.. I can't seem to confide in anyone about me. I have done this job for 28 years. And my workload has doubled. And it has become more dangerous. So I am about burnt out I believe. bummer!
Oct 23, 2014 02:49:47
Haha! INFJ is rare. This makes sense. I am absolutely not around anyone like me at all. However, I am glad to see that we exist xD.