INFJ relationships

When it comes to romantic relationships, INFJs take the process of finding a partner seriously. Not ones for casual encounters, people with the INFJ personality type instead look for depth and meaning in their relationships. INFJs will take the time necessary to find someone they truly connect with – once they’ve found that someone, their relationships will reach a level of depth and sincerity that most people can only dream of.

INFJ relationshipsGetting to that point can sometimes be a challenge for potential partners, especially if they are the impatient type, as INFJs are often perfectionistic and picky. People with this personality type aren’t easily talked into something they don’t want, and if someone doesn’t pick up on that, it’s a trespass that is unlikely to be forgiven, particularly in the early stages of dating. Even worse is if a suitor tries to resort to manipulation or lying, as INFJs will see right through it, and if there’s anything they have a poor tolerance for in a relationship, it is inauthenticity.

Is This For Real?

One of the things INFJs find most important is establishing genuine, deep connections with the people they care about.

INFJs will go out of their way to seek out people who share their desire for authenticity, and out of their way to avoid those who don’t, especially when looking for a partner. All that being said, INFJs often have the advantage of desirability – they are warm, friendly, caring and insightful, seeing past facades and the obvious to understand others’ thoughts and emotions.

INFJs are enthusiastic in their relationships, and there is a sense of wisdom behind their spontaneity, allowing them to pleasantly surprise their partners again and again. INFJs aren’t afraid to show their love, and they feel it unconditionally, creating a depth to the relationship that can hardly be described in conventional terms. Relationships with INFJs are not for the uncommitted or the shallow.

When it comes to intimacy, INFJs look for a connection that goes beyond the physical, embracing the emotional and even spiritual connection they have with their partner. People with the INFJ personality type are passionate partners, and see intimacy as a way to express their love and to make their partners happy. INFJs cherish not just the act of being in a relationship, but what it means to become one with another person, in mind, body and soul.

Strengths & Weaknesses


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Jan 22, 2015 13:42:50
I am so suprised by this result. I am really picky and it took me awhile to find my boyfriend, who is absolutely perfect for me.
Joshua Mc
Jan 21, 2015 22:32:49
It is hard to exist when everywhere you go, you can get along with anyone, but never feel you belong.
When your friends in your small school might not be your friends at, all ways having some else to talk to, you are the person they talk to only when their "cool" friends are not around.
When your family won't understand the deep connections you need.
When you have not personally let any of your true emotions out in years, that is true loneliness, even when surrounded by other people.
Jane Bender
Jan 27, 2015 13:56:21
You just put my life in words... Why do I still feel lonely when I'm surrounded by people? Or even when I'm talking to someone else, I still feel alone. Is it because I have the ability to see through people and their masks, but no one seems to have the ability to see through mine? I care so much about other people, and most times I fear they could care less about me.
I hate the feeling I get when someone asks me who my best friend is... How could I possibly call someone my best friend when no one knows anything about me?
Jan 10, 2015 20:41:13
This is so me right now, i just want to take some time to make sure if I already found someone I connected with, my friends were saying to stop giving my partner hope if i don't want to be with him but i'm confused. all I want to do is take some time to know my partner better, if i'm really attached to him or is it just something I will get tired of
Jan 08, 2015 14:50:22
Wow... I am kind of speechless.. I would have never been able to find words to define/describe
myself in this way.
When reading others comments below it just makes me feel so good that I'm not the only one.
I keep hearing from friends that I am to picky I don't put effort etc...
Craving for a genuine relationship says it all.
Just thank you for this test and all your comments that makes me see I am not alone like this.
Jane Bender
Jan 07, 2015 16:09:01
"The INFJ takes the process of finding a partner very seriously..." -so true! I'm in highschool, and so many of my friends are dating left and right. I think it's stupid. Because, honestly, dating is the way of finding your spouse--not being entertained. If you're not planning on actually marrying someone, WHY ARE YOU WITH THEM? Are you dating them only to break up with them? It honestly makes no sense to me.
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