INFJ relationships

When it comes to romantic relationships, INFJs take the process of finding a partner seriously. Not ones for casual encounters, people with the INFJ personality type instead look for depth and meaning in their relationships. INFJs will take the time necessary to find someone they truly connect with – once they’ve found that someone, their relationships will reach a level of depth and sincerity that most people can only dream of.

INFJ relationshipsGetting to that point can sometimes be a challenge for potential partners, especially if they are the impatient type, as INFJs are often perfectionistic and picky. People with this personality type aren’t easily talked into something they don’t want, and if someone doesn’t pick up on that, it’s a trespass that is unlikely to be forgiven, particularly in the early stages of dating. Even worse is if a suitor tries to resort to manipulation or lying, as INFJs will see right through it, and if there’s anything they have a poor tolerance for in a relationship, it is inauthenticity.

Is This For Real?

One of the things INFJs find most important is establishing genuine, deep connections with the people they care about.

INFJs will go out of their way to seek out people who share their desire for authenticity, and out of their way to avoid those who don’t, especially when looking for a partner. All that being said, INFJs often have the advantage of desirability – they are warm, friendly, caring and insightful, seeing past facades and the obvious to understand others’ thoughts and emotions.

INFJs are enthusiastic in their relationships, and there is a sense of wisdom behind their spontaneity, allowing them to pleasantly surprise their partners again and again. INFJs aren’t afraid to show their love, and they feel it unconditionally, creating a depth to the relationship that can hardly be described in conventional terms. Relationships with INFJs are not for the uncommitted or the shallow.

When it comes to intimacy, INFJs look for a connection that goes beyond the physical, embracing the emotional and even spiritual connection they have with their partner. People with the INFJ personality type are passionate partners, and see intimacy as a way to express their love and to make their partners happy. INFJs cherish not just the act of being in a relationship, but what it means to become one with another person, in mind, body and soul.

Strengths & Weaknesses


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S. U.
Nov 14, 2014 23:04:20
I kind of sense that in the vast majority of cases it's better people don't know you see right through them because then they feel deprived of their privacy. I never let my family know I have this ability (although they probably suspect it on some subconscious level) because I don't want to freak them out and scare them. I don't want them to feel uncomfortable around me. Although with friends I have to do it. Probably this is the reason they're all really nice, and, importantly, strong people.
Nov 10, 2014 21:31:03
So very true I seem to fit in nowhere and when I'm in a relationship I am very committed
Nov 09, 2014 17:15:07
This is amazing. I have to confess that this is the first time I feel I'm being described correctly by answering such questions. We, INFJs, are rare. I like it. I think this satisfies our tendency to be an ideal. Ideals are rare :)
Laura Dumas
Nov 07, 2014 20:40:13
I would love to find other INFJ's.... I have a Facebook page but never use it....and have very few skills regarding it. Please send me a friend request so I can join. I am reading The Highly Sensitive Person< How to Thrive when the World Overwhelms You and I am truly a highly sensitive person through and through.
Oct 29, 2014 16:06:39
I often feel as if I am just a receptacle for other people's problems. They dump them all onto me, expect advice, but they usually don't follow it, and before I could share any of my concerns with them, they move on. X.X