INFJ Relationships

When it comes to romantic relationships, INFJs take the process of finding a partner seriously. Not ones for casual encounters, people with the INFJ personality type instead look for depth and meaning in their relationships. INFJs will take the time necessary to find someone they truly connect with – once they’ve found that someone, their relationships will reach a level of depth and sincerity that most people can only dream of.

INFJ relationshipsGetting to that point can sometimes be a challenge for potential partners, especially if they are the impatient type, as INFJs are often perfectionistic and picky. People with this personality type aren’t easily talked into something they don’t want, and if someone doesn’t pick up on that, it’s a trespass that is unlikely to be forgiven, particularly in the early stages of dating. Even worse is if a suitor tries to resort to manipulation or lying, as INFJs will see right through it, and if there’s anything they have a poor tolerance for in a relationship, it is inauthenticity.

Is This for Real?

One of the things INFJs find most important is establishing genuine, deep connections with the people they care about.

INFJs will go out of their way to seek out people who share their desire for authenticity, and out of their way to avoid those who don’t, especially when looking for a partner. All that being said, INFJs often have the advantage of desirability – they are warm, friendly, caring and insightful, seeing past facades and the obvious to understand others’ thoughts and emotions.

INFJs are enthusiastic in their relationships, and there is a sense of wisdom behind their spontaneity, allowing them to pleasantly surprise their partners again and again. INFJs aren’t afraid to show their love, and they feel it unconditionally, creating a depth to the relationship that can hardly be described in conventional terms. Relationships with INFJs are not for the uncommitted or the shallow.

When it comes to intimacy, INFJs look for a connection that goes beyond the physical, embracing the emotional and even spiritual connection they have with their partner. People with the INFJ personality type are passionate partners, and see intimacy as a way to express their love and to make their partners happy. INFJs cherish not just the act of being in a relationship, but what it means to become one with another person, in mind, body and soul.


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Oct 01, 2015 20:33:33
I'm in my last marriage of in-authenticity and it's killing me. Why can't I ever choose someone who is emotionally available and stable, who wants intimacy and is willing to work at making a marriage work? We're separated now which is something I don't want. I wanted to work out our problems so we could have depth to our marriage, but my husband is afraid of being in-depth. Reading this helped me to see that I am not alone and although I have strengths, my weaknesses are keeping me from having a thriving marriage.
Jul 24, 2015 09:48:00
I wish I can help myself when I'm in a big group.... this introvert feeling makes me feel so awkward...
Jul 10, 2015 05:38:09
Any idea which personality matches INFJ? I am in my early 20s but have a feeling that I will never find someone that I will be comfortable with and accept who I am. Even my mother is worried about me to the point she has been teaching skills such as cooking/ fixing light bulbs/ safety so that I will be able to take care of myself in the future..
Marie Louise Hansen
Jul 18, 2015 21:30:14
i did a little bit of research earlier on, (i'm also an INFJ so i got curious) there wasn't really like, a direct answer but there was a bunch of links for ''INFJ - INFP relationships'' so i suppose that that is the answer! :)
I hope this answers your question! :) Have a nice day!
Jane Bender
Aug 19, 2015 13:17:44
The supposedly "perfect" match is the ENTP/ENFP. I can vouch for both. ;)
Sep 08, 2015 15:32:26
supposedly ENTP/ENFP are best, both for relationships as well as friendships! I happen to know, as an ENFP myself, that ENFPs are fascinated by you INFJs! One of my best friends is an INFJ, and I adore her :D
Lauren Kaunra
Jun 25, 2015 05:00:43
All of these things are true about me, I've found that one person I take seriously in my relashonship. I'm not sure what I'll do if we ever part ways.....I love her too much to lose her. I hope it lasts forever. But most of the time nothing lasts forever, sadly.
Jun 24, 2015 18:30:27
It's sorta freaky how accurate it really is. When I looked at the personalities I thought I would be one of the Analysts but afterwords when I took the test I noticed how true this was for me.
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