INFJ personality

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats (NF), they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.

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INFJ personalityINFJs indeed share a very unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extroverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Famous INFJs:

Martin Luther King
Nelson Mandela
Mother Teresa
Nicole Kidman
Jimmy Carter
Mel Gibson
“James Wilson” from House M.D.
Strengths & Weaknesses


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Oct 16, 2014 22:04:16
WOW I am overwhelmed by the accuracy of this personality assessment! I am also honored because I feel like a "rare breed". I am definitely a people person in the way that I enjoy loving on my friends by being someone who they feel will listen to them. However, I love and CRAVE alone time. I feel most myself when I am alone. I have noticed that I am very about myself-- sometimes feel that I am almost egocentric. When I am walking to class or running errands I am very focused on me; wondering what other people's perceptions are toward me. Does anyone else experience this?
Jane Bender
Oct 17, 2014 15:00:26
Absolutely... And I have come to the conclusion that we, as INFJ's, care so much about other people and what they are feeling that we can't help thinking about what they think of us. It so very annoying, but I have a few words of advice:

Spend time with other INFJ's: They understand you.
My two best friends are twin INFJ's, and honestly they are the people I feel most myself around. They are just like me in so many ways, and we can be hanging out together without saying a word and it is completely comfortable; because we both understand the value of being alone. We have perfected the ability to be alone together. Also, we can be completely CRAZY around each other, and we all like the EXACT same things... Honestly, they are the best best friends I could ever hope for. The are the epitome of an INFJ friendship.

I know it's hard to find them, but when you do, it's SO worth it. ;)
Oct 16, 2014 03:17:24
Oct 15, 2014 03:18:27
I'm an INFJ, but I don't feel like the profile is very accurate about me. I do avoid conflict, but that's because I'd rather not get involved or I don't like getting involved and having people upset with me. Some of my friends don't understand me, and I guess that out of all the profiles, this one suits me the best even though I feel as if it's not quite accurate for me. I've read a couple of "oh my goodness, that is so me" stories on here, but I don't see the connection as strongly. And I've taken other personality tests and the result is always INFJ. So I guess that this profile is a description of who I am even if I don't see it...
Oct 14, 2014 04:34:26
Very accurate. I would like to know how many of you INFJ's have held down one job for a long time or have you had many?
Oct 17, 2014 12:37:32
I'm an INFJ and tend to switch jobs every 2-3 years for growths sake.
Oct 13, 2014 22:36:52
Is nice to feel that I belong to a rare type, but it is also so disabling to be this kind. When I almost reach my dreams and desires I fall all the way to the bottom because there's no one to catch me or give me the time I need for myself. Very few people are willing to undestand, why we need to withraw. Many times we're seem as stupid or goofy, but loyal and willing. We sacrifice everything for others, we keep quiet when we should talk, crticism and personal offeces are crippling and the wounds heal extremely slow. We put ourself in a cage for others, and deprive our feelings, and always end up being number two, even when we're ten times ahead way of number one, my zeal has gone so over control, I am angry, unhappy, depressed, not desiring to keep living in this wicked world.
Jane Bender
Oct 17, 2014 15:04:25
Honey, find yourself some good INFJ friends and read books, Lots of 'em.

Jesus loves you--stay strong! There will be better times than right now, and you MUST focus on not only the present, but the future. Train yourself to see criticism as a good thing, not a personal offense, and ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS assume the best of others. Being paranoid about what people say is an extremely exhausting and thankless pastime. Keep dreaming. Someday your dreams will come true!