INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats (NF), they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.

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INFJ personalityINFJs indeed share a very unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extroverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Famous INFJs

Martin Luther King
Nelson Mandela
Mother Teresa
Nicole Kidman
Jimmy Carter
Mel Gibson
“James Wilson” from House M.D.


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Aug 28, 2015 01:05:11
It's like someone put my brain on the Internet. Most of the facts on here are scarily accurate.
Talha Bin Adam
Aug 27, 2015 11:00:53
INFJs! lets save the creatures!
Aug 23, 2015 00:14:41
I find the description quite accurate about me. However, I also find that some of these opposite traits do not need to be opposite, and they can often coexist. As people grow up, they may learn to balance these traits to live more happily. Taking the example of thinking vs feeling, I learned about critical thinking in my undergraduate years, and I really like it. However, at the same time, I do not like to hurt others' feelings. I also understand it is difficult to convince everyone to believe/value the same thing. So, it takes wisdom to decide when to be more "thinking" and when to be more "feeling", or how to balance the two in a give situation. I am not saying I have the wisdom, but I try to learn it gradually. I see the same trend in my friends: a theoretical/ideal person can learn about being practical. The only thing that is most stable for me is introversion. I can learn social skills, but interacting with too many people still drain my energy.
Aug 17, 2015 08:44:06
We're the nicest 1-2% of the worlds population :) feel good about it
Jane Bender
Aug 19, 2015 13:15:34
Nicest? Nah. We *might* be the most interesting, or complicated, or even empathetic... But INFP, ISFJ, etc... They are much nicer than we are. Trust me.
nunya biznissssss
Aug 26, 2015 20:38:41
I agree with Jane. In my experience, everyone thinks I am a very nice person, to the point where I appear as a doormat, but in reality if I spoke my mind instead of keeping it inside I would probably be the most hated person in my town.
Aug 11, 2015 07:49:10
I hate as much as I love being mysterious. The unpredictable nature of it terrifies as much as it amazes me.