INFJ friends are likely to be very insightful, warm and caring. It will not be easy to get to know them well as INFJ personalities hide their true thoughts deep within their minds – however, if their friends are determined enough to work on the friendship, its strength and depth will be remarkable. This personality type is very enigmatic and difficult to decipher yet able to see through other people’s masks very easily. Authenticity and sincerity are extremely important if you want to become friends with an INFJ.
INFJs are not really interested in friendships which mostly revolve around practical, daily matters or physical activities. They are quiet yet very determined idealists, brimming with desire to make the world a better place. Therefore, INFJ personalities are likely to seek friends who are willing to let a bit of idealism into their lives and engage in deep, meaningful discussions about things that go beyond the daily routines.
INFJ friends also tend to be relatively perfectionistic, which can be both a very positive and a very negative trait when it comes to relationships. On one hand, the INFJ will seek to grow and develop together with their close friends, seeking out life-enriching experiences. On the other hand, this tendency to always reach for the ideal may exhaust people with different personality types, as they may not have the same stamina and determination that the INFJ possesses. Consequently, the INFJ may keep moving from one friend to another, hoping that the next one will be more similar to them than the last.
INFJs should remember that they have an extremely rare personality type and not get frustrated if their friends do not share 100% of their principles or goals. INFJ personalities seek friends that they can trust, and who are both willing and able to understand their passions and ideas. Not many people can cope with the depth and richness of the INFJ’s imagination, and even fewer can support the INFJ in the way that they need. INFJs tend to be very loyal and supportive friends, and are sought out by many other personality types for their wisdom, but they need to learn how to meet potential new friends halfway.
As INFJs are generally eloquent and persuasive, they tend to be quite popular and influential. The INFJs themselves are often quite bemused by this, as they are very private individuals who do not really need nor enjoy the attention. It is likely that the INFJ will only have a few true friends, but those friends will value the INFJ’s companionship very highly.
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Way off on the going from “partner-to-partner”, looking for the ideal partner, thing. INFJ prefers the ideal relationship. This involves great sincerity and loyalty. INFJs are more likely to strive for this ideal, that of commitment to the relationship, than to abandon their partner for not living up to an ideal. Usually their disappointment is that the other one doesn’t feel as sincere and committed. We INFJs really don’t seem to like insincerity, so this is the sticky wicket.
My best friend is INFJ, and he bounces from relationship to relationship, looking for the perfect girlfriend. Once he is in one for a while, he tends to become unsatisfied, and finds flaws in it, not living up to his standards, and moves on. It seems to match the description.
My best friend is also an INFJ and this description pegs her to a T!
I especially agree with the part where it says that INFJs are highly valued by their best friends – I’m an INFP, and my INFJ best friend is the absolute most important person to me!
Yea, I’m INFJ and this really fits me… passionate about human rights and equality, and I flit from partner to partner (year long relationships) searching for something that probably doesnt exist.
I’m an INFJ that values true and loyal friendship but I don’t have the time or desire to have more than two very close friends. Quality is more my style than quantity. Like the description says, I’m tuned in to people’s motives and so am selective about who I am close to. I once won a sort of popularity contest at work and was not just surprised but uncomfortable at the attention…it felt weird to be singled out for being upbeat.
Completely agree with the quality over quantity bit. I am only capable of having 1 close friend at a time, who means absolutely EVERYTHING to me… so guess what happens when that friend doesn’t care and causes the friendship to end…
Mmm, my ego is jest lapping this up…
hello.. i m an infj in my 20..
I have a GREAT relationship with my INFJ friend.. Since she is most ‘resemble’ myself, it is really wonderful moment when i spend my time together with her ! i feel that we are in two different body but share one special soul..
n i spend mostly my time together with her alone rather than many others friend.. I am a person who tend to hide my inner feelings from others.. but not with her! I couldn’t stop myself to tell her about all my secrets.. and it make our friendship becomes more deep and meaningful:)
i also have a GREAT relationship with my ENFP boyfriend… he is 25 now.. he really sweet n understanding.. most people couldn’t understand me.. but this guy is really SOMETHING.. he can ‘read’ my feeling precisely !! i appreciate someone who can understand my feeling and all about myself.. he also warm and inspiring.. he love to talk and i love to listen.. and sometime i talk more and he listen..
what I most love about him is we share the same “childish” thinking but full of wisdom inner heart.. haha.. 
so.. i think.. if u want to feel a great warm friendship.. find another “INF” person out there either an INFJ or INFP..
and… if u want to experience a fun relationship with deep meaning love.. find your ENFP !
Mixed description of me as an INFJ. I’ve had the same best friend since 2nd grade. I am selective about friendships, especially at work. There seems to be so much insincerity due to office politics. I’m working on not judging others, but I don’t want to put myself at risk by trusting someone with ulterior motives. Once I do find someone I trust, I tend to maintain that relationship for decades. Even if that person does wrong, I am able to forgive. I don’t forget however, and the trust will never be the same.