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ENTJ parents

Often, given their strong will and critical nature, it is challenging enough to spend a great deal of time with ENTJs by choice, as in friendships and romance - to be with them by default, as in the parent-child relationship, can border on the impossible. This by no means suggests that people with the ENTJ personality type are bad parents - far from it - simply that their relationships with children, who are typically more sensitive and less able to conduct truly rational analysis, require a great deal more emotional tact and personal liberty than they are accustomed to giving.

But ENTJs are always up for a challenge, and will take their roles as parents seriously and with the utmost sense of personal responsibility. Holding themselves to a higher standard than most, ENTJ personalities see the success of their children as a reflection of those personal standards, and want nothing more than to see them grow into smart, independent people who strive to achieve their goals. Establishing specific moral values is less important to ENTJs than the cultivation of the intellect and independent, rational thought.

Rules Need Not Be Sacred

ENTJs welcome differences of opinion, and this is true with their children as well. But while gladly having rational, well-thought-out discussions about roles and responsibilities, at the end of the day ENTJs expect their authority to be respected. A disagreement is no excuse for shirking established responsibilities, and ENTJ parents can be utterly uncompromising in maintaining this structure. This strictness can be a tremendous source of tension in the household - a little flexibility can go a long way.

When these debates devolve into emotional appeals is when ENTJ parents run into real trouble, as their persistent weakness with emotional tolerance makes dealing with growing children, especially adolescents, their most significant challenge. As in their other relationships, ENTJ parents should strive to strengthen this skill - often enough young children don't have the words to express their needs rationally, and adolescents don't have the patience for it, a perfectly natural condition.

By learning to listen to emotional expression as a valid form of communication and responding in kind, ENTJs can help to minimize emotional conflicts with their children, building trust that will help to smooth the otherwise rebellious teenage years.

A Rendezvous With Destiny

ENTJ parents should remember that a part of developing that necessary sense of independence is being able to control one's own schedule and activities, to chart one's own course, at least to a certain extent. People with the ENTJ personality type will spare no effort for their children, but it's sometimes the case that taking a deep breath and loosening their structures as their children grow and mature does more to achieve their goal of raising capable, intelligent adults than forced extracurriculars ever could.

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Emma
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Oct 22, 2014 18:23:54
This is my mom through and through. And if you it was hard for ENTJ's to raise kids, imagine an INFP teen like me.
Silver
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Oct 11, 2014 12:45:07
My dad hasn't taken the test, but based on just this parenthood section and his stories of how he was as a teen, I am reasonably certain that he is an ENTJ. This is really incredibly accurate of how my dad has attempted to raise me, and I must say that I /have/ developed an analytic type of personality.

However, his ambitiousness has also caused me to hold contempt for many social customs as I cannot seem to go past the image of humanity being greedy and selfish, if in varying amounts. Oh, I have morals and some faith, my religion demanding such, but that doesn't change my informed opinion. At least, not entirely.

Just a little something for ENTJs aspiring to become parents: If you don't want your child ending up a bitter cynic like I am, be careful when you're raising their logic, intellect, and independent and rational thinking. They're /children/ for God's sake.
bobby joe anne
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Sep 24, 2014 20:17:53
you pretty much picked me great job
Jean
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Aug 21, 2014 14:06:47
Wow! for the most part you picked me to a T. On the whole mostly agree. Not bad for the 7th of 13 kids. And a twin
E.
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Aug 12, 2014 03:01:44
I took this after a glass of wine and I have moved from INTJ to ENTJ. I guess I am a born leader only, but only when I am drinking--figures. The issue is that I am super extroverted when its something I care about (scientific theories), but introverted when it comes to something I don't care about--for example, baby showers. Is this introversion or boredom? I also love to get up on stage and talk about my work.
Silver
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Oct 11, 2014 12:38:24
You're most likely more of an ENTJ, I suppose. I'm an INTJ and from what I've read we have a certain distaste when it comes to being the center of attention unless it is absolutely necessary for us to do so or it will help further out goals/long-term aspirations. Not many INTJs love going on stage and talking about our ideas. I'm sure we love our work and sharing it, but I'm also pretty sure majority prefer one-on-one communication than an all-around group discussion.

Of course, I am entitled to my own opinion, and this is based on what little information I've gathered from this site and my own past experiences.