ENTJ Parents

Often, given their strong will and critical nature, it is challenging enough to spend a great deal of time with ENTJs by choice, as in friendships and romance – to be with them by default, as in the parent-child relationship, can border on the impossible. This by no means suggests that people with the ENTJ personality type are bad parents – far from it – simply that their relationships with children, who are typically more sensitive and less able to conduct truly rational analysis, require a great deal more emotional tact and personal liberty than they are accustomed to giving.

But ENTJs are always up for a challenge, and will take their roles as parents seriously and with the utmost sense of personal responsibility. Holding themselves to a higher standard than most, ENTJ personalities see the success of their children as a reflection of those personal standards, and want nothing more than to see them grow into smart, independent people who strive to achieve their goals. Establishing specific moral values is less important to ENTJs than the cultivation of the intellect and independent, rational thought.

Rules Need Not Be Sacred

ENTJs welcome differences of opinion, and this is true with their children as well. But while gladly having rational, well-thought-out discussions about roles and responsibilities, at the end of the day ENTJs expect their authority to be respected. A disagreement is no excuse for shirking established responsibilities, and ENTJ parents can be utterly uncompromising in maintaining this structure. This strictness can be a tremendous source of tension in the household – a little flexibility can go a long way.

When these debates devolve into emotional appeals is when ENTJ parents run into real trouble, as their persistent weakness with emotional tolerance makes dealing with growing children, especially adolescents, their most significant challenge. As in their other relationships, ENTJ parents should strive to strengthen this skill – often enough young children don't have the words to express their needs rationally, and adolescents don't have the patience for it, a perfectly natural condition.

By learning to listen to emotional expression as a valid form of communication and responding in kind, ENTJs can help to minimize emotional conflicts with their children, building trust that will help to smooth the otherwise rebellious teenage years.

A Rendezvous With Destiny

ENTJ parents should remember that a part of developing that necessary sense of independence is being able to control one's own schedule and activities, to chart one's own course, at least to a certain extent. People with the ENTJ personality type will spare no effort for their children, but it's sometimes the case that taking a deep breath and loosening their structures as their children grow and mature does more to achieve their goal of raising capable, intelligent adults than forced extracurriculars ever could.

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Jun 25, 2015 07:56:28
Basically we want our children to be ENTJ too.
INTJ daughter.
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May 26, 2015 14:36:46
Pretty sure my dad's an ENTJ, and I'm an INTJ. Such a shame, that I can't spend more time with him, now that I've grown up. Gosh I would love to talk with him again, without interruptions.
kat
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Mar 23, 2015 22:05:38
Never mind my reply to Benzita Lydia Mckinley...I just realized she meant their career choice better be smart, not the child, himself. Sorry!
kat
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Mar 23, 2015 20:57:45
Benzita Lydia McKinley, that's a lot of pressure to put on a child. Our children don't always turn out to be how we imagine. Some part is nuture, but some part is nature. I hope you'll love your child whether they turn out to be smart or not.
Miranda
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Feb 08, 2015 00:21:03
I am ENFP and my dad is ENTJ. We are partner in crime.
DENISE WEBBER
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May 12, 2015 17:07:53
omg I wanna help